In romance ,who's telling what lies? ( Archived) (7)

Ok so I was looking at the newspaper on Thirsday and I found this and I thaught I would post it for all my single girl friends who have been hurt by a guy I typed all that was in there except that part where it says BJ Moorer thats who is offering the advice. I hope this is as interested to you other single girls out there as it was to me *Gina*

In romance ,who's telling what lies?

Lie 1 "I'llcall you tommarow." Men say this so often and get away with it,Because women want to believe it. Advice dont wait by the phone go on and live your life if the call does not come in the first few days its not comming move on.

Lie 2 "I love you" to bad this is a common lie that reduces the valueof some precious words.When said to soon in a relationship it is often an attempt at controling the other person.

Lie 3 "I'm not married" The problem is most men say this and most adult men are married, so this means go with your gut feelin. Advice If you feel you are being lied to ask him for his home phone number and see how he responds.

Lie 4 "no one understands me like you do." This one can be designed to get you to feel sorry for him.You know for certian thats this is just a massive manipulation when it is closly followed by a large request such as borrowing money or asking to move in with you.

Lie 5 "im not seeing anyone else." Well maybe. pay attention to when and how this information is offeredin a relationship.Just like some other lies offering this information too soon or when not requested is a huge warning sign that some one is trying to pull a fast one on you

The person who offered this advice was Bj Moorer His other advice was to go with your gut feeling if something isnt right or addding up pursue it dont talk yourself out of it or excuse your intuition away.

They are good points to watch out for but i think they apply to women too....

Just my opinion.....men get that stuff too ......

Lie 1 "I'llcall you tommarow." Men say this so often and get away with it,Because women want to believe it. Advice dont wait by the phone go on and live your life if the call does not come in the first few days its not comming move on."


**I can count on one hand and have fingers left over, the number of times in my entire life I've ever promised to call someone at a certain time but didn't...

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Lie 2 "I love you" to bad this is a common lie that reduces the valueof some precious words.When said to soon in a relationship it is often an attempt at controling the other person."


**If I tell you I love you it's because I honestly care about you. It is not an attempt to control you and I'd seriously question what type of bizarre thinking patterns you have if you made such an insinuation as that about it.

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Lie 3 "I'm not married" The problem is most men say this and most adult men are married, so this means go with your gut feelin. Advice If you feel you are being lied to ask him for his home phone number and see how he responds."


**I am not married, period. There is no secret wife or girlfriend lurking in the shadows of our relationship for you to find out about. I live alone and don't have any children or even a pet. Anyone who is skeptical of my truth in the matter, I'd challenge them to drop by for a visit and some coffee... at which time they'd be more than welcome to tour my place for any remote signs that a woman may live here, or that I may be somehow hiding something.

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Lie 4 "no one understands me like you do." This one can be designed to get you to feel sorry for him.You know for certian thats this is just a massive manipulation when it is closly followed by a large request such as borrowing money or asking to move in with you."


**If I were to pay such a heartfelt, exquisite compliment to a lady as "No one understands me like you do", and they reacted to that by suspecting it was just a ploy to play on their sympathies somehow, or to use them in some way... then you can rest assured that is one woman who would never have the priviledge of insulting me in such a way ever again.

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Needless to say, stereotypes such as these don't tend to set very well with me. I don't like seeing the word "men" applied to things of this nature because there certainly is no "one size fits all" when it comes to the genders. People should be judged on person-to-person individual basis, and anyone who goes into something with these types of paranoias and an inability to trust someone that reaches to that extent... should stay single. These kinds of stereotypes aren't educational, credible nor even humorous, they are just simply annoying.

I didnt write it but I feel men do say these lies more than woman im sure there are some good guys out there but every guy I have been with has giving me one of the 5 lines I wasnt saying it was all men

"but every guy I have been with has giving me one of the 5 lines I "

Your quiet the poster child for skeptical women and how be BE AFRAID of the man..

I have to go with Pirate hat. If I say, it its true and I mean it. Granted Im sure its been usd by men and women alike but to steriotype men with feelings into this shallow bucket is a little harsh.