What Motivates People to Change? (54)
pearl777Plovdiv, Bulgaria242 Threads 33 Polls 4,812 PostsAre you actively working to change some aspect of your personality -- and absolutely can't understand how someone else (perhaps the "significant other" in your life) doesn't have a clue that anything is wrong with him or her or seems inexplicably unwilling to do anything about it?
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Pain or pleasure is a good motivator; hopefully pleasure
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Interesting question.
Usually if I think someone else needs to change something, the problem is with me; if I work on me and change they won't bother me any more.
Well, that's the theory anyway; in practice I am still working on it.
Usually if I think someone else needs to change something, the problem is with me; if I work on me and change they won't bother me any more.
Well, that's the theory anyway; in practice I am still working on it.
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Desperation.
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Some people are VERY content with who they are, other do not realize thier "flaws".
Change of any kind is difficult...
I have done major overhauls in my life and HATED every one of them, but suicide, death or posibility of loss of love ones will sometimes make people change. Sometimes that what it takes...
Change of any kind is difficult...
I have done major overhauls in my life and HATED every one of them, but suicide, death or posibility of loss of love ones will sometimes make people change. Sometimes that what it takes...
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or...... "a person convinced against their will is never convinced" Not sure of the author~
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I've learned that basically the reason some people want to be the best they can be, while others only like to complain is because the latter type of person isn't in touch with, or is able to deny the pressure of, what I call "pain, pull, or push forces." Unless people experience one of them, they are pretty well stuck right where they are.
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Some times it takes something really big to make a person want to change,sometimes they want to change for someone else.As long as it makes them happy all is good. Life has a way of showing us itself from different angles.
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You cant change a personality. Woman think they can change a man, forget it!
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Why want to be with someone u have to change?
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Man thinks he is the one- forget it !
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It is in their nature. They alway find something to try to change.
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Honestly, people are always evolving. No one stays stagnate. They may think they do, but they really don't.
I may be slow to change and adapt at times, but I get there~
I may be slow to change and adapt at times, but I get there~
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If you have to change someone,you shouldn't be with them to start JMO
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No, first you hook up. Thats the start. Then you see things you dont like...
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To make a big change, I think that's exactly what's required. Maybe not so much for small alterations, but usually in a relationship when one or both parties have major complaints, the incentive for either of them to change has to be pretty massive, imo.
I've experience this directly, btw. I would not address a major problem of mine until by ex told me she didn't love me. But that wouldn't work unless you are *desperately* in love with your Significant Other.
Hence, we're back to being desperate again.
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You cant change nature! You will have accidents! Look arround!
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Yes you get to know each other and then if you truely can't accept how the other is u explain why and put an end to it or come to a compromise.U don't try to change a person.
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