Looking forward to this ( Archived) (33)

my ex could not have kids so i have never had the pleasure of holding a child of my own.

haha don't forget .. most of the people here are on a different time zone to you. give them a chance to answer.. most of them are still in bed

hi lush.......yer im sure he will too




im a nanna too.........thats fabolous

Thanks for that Curly.

I do beleive i would also love my child no matter with whom or when i had them. My mother was with my father when she had us but eventually separated. Still we had all the love we ever needed from her. We had a tough life but we are all doing well now and all living in Finland. My mother didn't live to see us graduate high school but i'm sure she'd be proud if she were here. God rest her soul.
I have a step-sister who got married to a loser and now has 2 lovely kids who have really suffered in the hands of their irresponsible father. He sometimes doesn't show up for three days and leaves them with no food or money. She also isn't allowed to call his mobile. We got her a job in Helsinki a couple of days ago and she's now moved here from Kenya and working thank God. I see a better life for her kids now.
All this has made me appreciate the importance of keeping it together while still showing kids that their importance doesn't diminish with circumstances.
I am investing in a good education so i can be able to support my child/children when it gets to the point of being solo.


Thanks Curly.

Yw Luscious

I think u'll do just fine

Hang in there. It's never too late!

Being in such a situation, going through those hardships before/when your kids were born obviously makes you appreciate parenthood alot.

Hope they don't go through the same hardships themselves and hope they realise how lucky they are to have you as a dad.

Good morning, well my first boy was planned and expected. The pregnancy was rough because I was hit by a drunk driver early on and I only weighed 130 at 9 months, so I didn't gain enough weight for everyone. He came out perfect without any problems. My second boy was a surprise { surprise not mistake...life is not a mistake} but just as welcome and wonderful as my first. Both are teenagers now and more of a handful than they were as babies.

Children fill our hearts with more joy than you think you can handle, and more sorrow than you should handle. For every bit of pain sorrow and problems they give you, you always remember the joys, triumphs, and pure wonder of them.

I would not trade my time with my ex for nothing because he helped my produce the greatest things in my life. My children define who I am. I thank them for being bright, beautiful and good people.

Hope that helps you understand the feeling of children.

I knew from a young age that I would want to be a mother one day and it truly has been the greatest joy of my life. Both of my sons were from my marriage and were planned. I wanted more, but miscarried a couple of times and it just never happened. My ex-husband (their Dad) was a good and loving father and he shared the same feelings about being a parent as I did (same feelings, but not the same workload! ).
As I look back on raising my sons (they are now grown), I remember so many special moments (I remember what was on the tv while I was in the labor room at the hospital; I remember what they wore on their first days of school; I remember being pregnant with my second son and wondering if I could possibly love him as much as I did my first....I did....instantly); I remember so many moments and joys and achievements and yet, hard as I try, I can barely recall the unpleasant times. I know they argued; I know they rebelled at times; I know they resisted doing their homework and household chores; I know that not every day was happy and pleasant...yet I just can't recall those specific moments for the life of me.
I do hope that you get to experience this some day. It is the most challenging, difficult, demanding thing you'll ever know....and the most amazing and beautiful thing as well. The cliché is so true...they do grow up too fast! Excuse me now...I think I need to go call my sons!