3 times for me, hell I even married the second one again. What i learned is people are people. And everything changes, even if I don't... And the biggest thing.... when they leave they take the kids you fall in love with with them, and that hurts most of all..
Twice married and almost twice divorced for me... the second one was a lot better in some ways but just as bad or worse in others...
My second was HIS third, so you can see that didn't work out very well for him either...
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I don't think I'd ever get married again, not sure what the point would be, especially with both my kids going off to college in the next four+ years, and me planning to move back to the southwest, where I'm from originally.
I'm a very fair person and very resonable. If I get hooked up with a long term partner I'll be sure to set her up with her own savings. If we should end up parting, she'll have hers and I'll have mine and we'll just part as friends.
No need to get all pissy about something that didn't work out. How stupid is that?
In fact, I would much rather have a business-type arrangement than a stupid marriage. Marriage is great for a young couple starting out who are planning on having kids and raising a family. I'm beyond that stuff. Life has a totally differnet meaning for me now. There's no need to marry if there's no kids involved.
And I sincerely believe that had I ever married it would have been forever. I can say that with confidence because the very reason that I didn't marry is because I never met a woman that I felt that way about. I mean that's the REASON that I never married. Get it?
So had I actually gotten married it would have been forever. Otherwise, why bother?
Married twice first time lived together 1 year married 3 and 1/2...second one lived together 3 years married 10...neither were great and both changed (not for the better) after we got married. Seems they felt they didn't have to try anymore....
So to say I will never get married again well never say never but its not high on my list of things to do....
Thinking I would prefer to live together....a piece of paper isn't going to make it last or better...
Just my thoughts: its ok for young couples that are planning on having children.
with you on that one... was engaged, was very young at the time, even though we had the boys it wasn't right... we'd of killed each other hehehehe..... only plan on doing it once, and once only.... fingers crossed.....to me when I make that commitment, and say those words i hope i can stand by them...(hopless Romantic at heart)
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Did you get it right 2nd time or was 1st Better?
how do things change the more you Marry?