I feel like giving up ( Archived) (36)

So...it seems to me that there are no good guys out there. I have looked everywhere, I'm not the most outgoing person in the world but I would like to be noticed once. I go to clubs, bars, coffee houses, and now i have moved online. I still can not seem to find a guy what should I do because i'm obviously doing something wrong.

Oh hun...happiness is in YOU. No one else can make you happy...they can only make you happier. We often do not find what we are looking for till we cease to seek it, we often don't get what we're waiting for till we stop awaiting it. Let him find you, my friend...you have so many wonderful things to offer...and do NOT take the first guy that comes along just because he came along...be patient, enjoy the world, and when you least expect it, a light will shine in the darkness and the gentle hand of providence will lead love to you...

Sarah,

Did you catch that movie?

;)

yeah i have seen it a couple times and I really do enjoy it but i dont know exactly how much it helps

You know what so do i I'm tired of it right now, tired of the games right now.....tired of getting the go around


I'm sorry sarah, I would normally say something like give it time and hang in there...but I'm getting more and more depressed about it too. I have gotten back into the dating game this month...but it's falling back into the same old routen....

You're only 19 years old and you're ready to give up?

I didn't even think about giving up until I was in my late 30's. And even then I merely thought about it mildly.

In my mid 40's I really started thinking about giving up quite a bit.

On my 50th birthday I actually finally gave up.

It didn't do any good though because they I was faced with the question of why bother hanging around?

Fortunately I did have a reason to hang around as my mother was becoming elderly and so I spent the next 6 years of my life caring for her. She was my reason for living. Finding a relationship partner became totally unimportant.

Now my mother's gone. I'm a walking zombie again. No reason to live, no reason to die. Just a totally reason-less existence.

19 years old. Pft. Try living for a half a century without finding love and then you might have good reason to give up.

good point...i think alot of it has to do with my sister getting married and I just feel like i should be in some kind of hurry to get married and have kids. i dont know

Alright, it all makes sense now. ;o)

No, please don't fall into that trap!

Don't seek a quick relationship just because you're all psyched up about your sister's wedding. That's NOT a valid reason to rush into things. Take your time. Don't rush for the wrong reasons.

Bad bad girl. Tsk tsk!

that and being at the wedding and everyone is like who are you with sarah.....um.....nobody, my family puts a lot of pressure on me too thats no good