Broke it off after first date................uh????? (16)

I think the reason this happens is that people have different expectations as to what a first date really is.

Personally I think the first time you meet someone face to face it should be considered a "first meeting" instead of a first date, regardless of what you do (dinner, coffee, etc).

My reasoning - thats simple.

When you meet for the first time its a matter of seeing
- do they look like they do in their pics
- is there any chemistry
- am i attracted to this person
- can i see myself being with this person

If the answer is no, then theres most likely not going to be a second date. You might gain a friend but most likely not a relationship.

I just think to expect someone will be precommitted to you, sight unseen, is raising the committment bar a bit too high. Sure in a perfect world it would be great if people accepted us for who we were regardless of what we looked like, but when it comes down to it, I don't think its a very practical way of looking at it.

Yes it smarts to have someone reject you after one date and I think we have all been there at one point or another, but thats what internet dating / blind dates are all about.