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This post has nothing to do with dating, etc, but to do with life and family. I've been having a hard time lately with a family member who has an alcohol/drug problem, and they've finally hit rock bottom. I'm to the point now where I don't know what else to do, and there's a child involved, who is now in my care. Question 1) How can I help this person more, even though I've felt like I've done everything? (I know this person needs to help themselves, but...) Question 2) If I know that the little one would be best cared for by myself, should I speak up and say so, OR say no, to save my free style life? I'm leaning towards the first one, but everyone is telling me to hold back. Ideas/Prayers/Thoughts/ all accepted!

This is likely the wrong place to ask for advice on this matter, hun. Your dilemma is too intricate and convoluted to be properly addressed in this forum. I suggest you contact Family Services in your area and seek the help of professionals. It's free and discrete, and they do wonderful work and detailed attention is given to each client's specific needs. Also, the Catholic Church provides the same services regardless of faith. Good luck, hun! My thoughts and prayers are with you...

Done that... Child and Family Services, got involved before I did, I was away on business. Guess looking for hugs and prayers more so than advice ;)

Good for you! It's in good hands then, hun. We're all here for you! As is the Big Guy Above. Love and hugs and kisses and prayers...

Crystal, that is tough, tough business.

Remember that everything happens for a reason. If you have the little one in your care, wasn't anybody's choice, it was supposed to be.

Aside from a horrific situation...what a blessing that you're there to help or possibly impact a child's life.

And yes, hugs and prayers to you.

Bless you girl. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Have you talked to AA for families...? As much as we'd like to hlp fix...(and, we know rationally we cannot)...well, you answered it. Feling helpless sucks bad. There are folks out there that can help.
The child...Seems you are having missgivings? The child is going to require stability. If you you decide you can't do it after you've taken charge, he/she will be more confusd, hurt, scared...
Be absolutely sure you can handle this.
Thoughts to you.

Look into your soul, how you feel as a mother with alot of Love for this child, too see if he returns the the same respect back, an apprectiate what you are doing. Is he really young, an are the parents or Mom, young herself? Because onces you fall for this child, another words, you do all the work on the kid, an then she shows up, sober, wants her kid back, an the routine starts all over again, if not you someone else.

Go with your heart, will the child benefit more with you, (someone they know) or with strangers paid by the state. Children need love and care, can you give that to them? This parent plays the key role, the child more than anything needs parents (unfourtunatly even if they are high). I think if the parent is willing to give some kind of effort you should help, otherwise maybe bring their family into it. Intervention with friends and family and that baby may just bring them back to the real world. Whatever your chioce, God bless for caring this much!