What Would Have Done Different In Past Relationships? ( Archived) (31)

Yes it is lol,but I was just suprised how many men did not know of this medical procedure..;-))In europe..;-))But this list is funny and my male friends are like that pretty much with their girlfriends lol...

Probably one thing we are all guilty of (well, not everyone, but it is easy to do) is be inconsiderate of the other person and take them for granted.

It is easy to do in a relationship or marriage, just because we let the busy little things in life take over our attention. Just to let someone you love know you are there and are thinking of them at least once a day is a great thing. You hear of so many instances where a man will drop dead of a heart attack and die after he was a workaholic, and that family missed out on having a father/husband. So many more...

I am sure you all were justified in feeling the way you did in your relationships, I guess what I am saying is there are usually two sides and sometimes if something was broke there may have been some way to fix it. Like in the case of a cheating husband or wife(not necesarily any of yours), perhaps you grew apart and distanced yourselves and perhaps more time spent together and/or counseling would have helped.

With the case of my 2nd marraige, as I think Doug was saying, I am not sure anything would have helped. I probably should not have been with him to begin with. He was an alcoholic and abusive, and we did the counseling thing, he only went because he was court mandated to do so. There are men who are sincere and would have truly participated though and took it seriously.


Joanne

well, I'm going to plead the 5th as so not to incriminate myself...lol, no not really. The thing is I think there might have been many things wrong in past relationships (gernerally speaking), and maybe there were things that you just couldn't work out with that person you were involved with at the time, but that doesn't mean there was a problem to change, may just simply mean the situation wasn't the right one. what works in one, can be totally wrong in another. I think once we truly know ourselves it makes it so much easier to find that lasting relationship that works without having to look back and try to decipher what we did "wrong" in past relationships in order to make the current one work.

Well I just said a mouthful, and not even sure it made sense, but gonna post it anyhow..lol

Steve

In past relationships I just moved to fast, and then found out alot of distubing things I didn't like later on. Get to know them the best you can.....

I think if I had to say what I would have done differently. I can honestly say when I met my ex if I could change it I would of said hi excuse me the mall awaits, just think of all the heart ache I would of saved myself.

I so wish that I could answer this question

I like the question and I have laboured the questions in my own mind over and over, so as to make myself a better man. I would not have taken for granted the "chemistry "in the relationship because eventually it comes down to integrity and communication further on down the road. I was too busy being the "dreamy good time Charlie", relying on the electricity and ignorant to the day to day...

I think I would not let things slide so easily when something is troubling me. When things get bottled up they tend to cause problems later on when they do come to the surface.

Avoid them.

I wouldn't change one thing about my past relationships because they have taught me so much. But so much about my past relationship might not help me about future relationships. My daddy taught me how to swim by throwing me in the water and saying swim or drown. I thank him so much for doing that because that is the way life really is. He tried to make a man out of me but the boy in me wouldn't let him. He tried to toughen me up for the real world but I rebelled every step of the way. I try to protect the boy in me and when he is ready he will grow up.
Roy