So, it's my impression that many of us on this site get very few emails, no dates and have profiles on other sites. Guess the majority of us are just poor slobs or chopped liver (speaking only of myself, of course lol). Perhaps this is a good way to meet new friends, but not a good way to get a date or find that someone to love. What do you think?
Did you say very few emails? That's better than I'm doing. Really, I'm not doing well at all, approximately no emails except on another site one short polite response to a specific query about this exact subject, how many emails a person gets. I believe women tend to get emails, and slightly youngish women tend to get a lot of them, even remotely youngish and remotely cutish women do. But statistics on dates? I don't know. Funny, ironic, really, in my (unpublished) novels written before I got back on line recently, I had my characters loudly agreeing that dating services don't work. I couldn't imagine myself using one. When I signed up here I told myself it was research. But dammit, I am lonely.
I actually found myself joining this site for dating, but consider myself to have found afew good aquaintences on here, and one particular extremley good friend. Who know's maybe we are all just too scared to open up enough to be loved. Hence turning away all the opportunity's that are presented to us. So maybe these sites are only good enough for friendship after all.
all to often a peron will earch for year for a certain thing and then when it falls in their lap they freak and run.You are right Ann about fear.Iseem to see alot of that on the ites.
Unless there's a huge number of people signed up here there just won't be many in your area. If there aren't many in your area, then the odds on successful dating are low. It's much easier to get people to be friendly than to consider dating, with all that implies. But still, it can work, even where the numbers are low, if you wait long enough, as people keep coming and going, eventually someone from your area who is compatible with you is likely to sign up. That's me being optimistic, anyway.
So everybody what happen's when you find someone you connect with, but they live thousand's of miles away ? To top that you cant be sure you can actually fall in love with them/ or they you. How do you cope with that !
I have in total met 3 people in four years of bieng on the internet, that I would classify as kindred spirit's. One of them lives less than 2 miles from me, but is not interested because I have made a fool of myself when drunk. One lives in the united states and only ever spoke to me once, we had a great chat for five hour's but he dissapered. The last one, the most unique one I met recently also lives in the US, but he is considerably older and the chances of us bieng together as friend's or anything else are slim. So friendship is the only option for internet sites so far in my personal experience.
Well now,little sister.As for thousands of miles away,well no p[roblem I can be on a plane in a matter of days as I beleive freindship and love is no respecter of the pysical laws of time,space and distance.The guy you know who cut you off because you were drunk,well not knowing the full situation I will say that a kindred spirit stays regaurdless.A true brother or sister will know this and not run at the first sign of a mistake.We are all human.Then there is the age.Altho I am older than you I am still a brother and a freind.My age does not mean I cannot come to Merry old England and meet you real time and have some fun checking out your homeland.we may never be a couple but I am your freind.I value that.Mark my words we will meet one day if you so choose to let me.The yay or nay is up to you little sister.
I am so pleased, the thought that one day we can meet and talk as long as we like whilst visiting the local zoo/park amusement park maybe even beat you at poll,lol. I will look forward to that, treasure the thought even.
From reading his posts and looking at his website I would say that the Phoenix is trustworthy, and that is all that need be said. I am certain Ann-marie can take care of herself, too. But since there are other people reading these pages who might take this example to hand, let me just note that in general, if a man flies to England from America, he wants something for his airfare, even if he talks of friendship, and the women should be careful. That seems unkind, but as I was noting in another post, there are nasty people out there, people who are not honest. Of course there are women who wouldn't mind, and that is up to her. But it would be so much more romantic if it was all above board, either just friendship, like William and Ann-marie, or romance, which I hope will send some of us flying across that ocean one way or the other.
I might add one reason this is posted is because I want people to see that freindships and loves can develope over the web.My intentions with Ann Marie are honorable and all of you out there will follow along and watch the freindship grow and when I do go to England you guys will see first hand the adventure as it unfolds because I will continue my posts and if there was a way I would take photos to share with all the gang
William is trustworthy. I have no doubt's, he has given me no reason to not trust his word at all. I can handle myself and will do if needed. Although rest assured this WILL NOT be the case with William I am SURE of that. I have also lived on this street for 8 year's now, no-one and I mean no-one would get away with any sort of misbehaviour in my home, or around me due to nieghbour's on the look out for me. I would actually be introducing William to some of my nieghbours as I do talk to them about out chat's on-line.
I do not like what you perceive could happen, yet I understand you are asking me to be carefull. That does not mean I like what you have insinuated, in any way shape or form. I will of course go ahead with the meeting, only if thing's are fine at that point in time. But I do not like my dear friend William bieng so openly insulted by what I percieve to be someone elses standard's.
William I am sorry you have judged this way, I do not think of you in that context. You are a gentleman with a warm heart a kind soul and a fellow peacekeeper, what more could a woman ask. I have simply one thing to say to you William, it is my decision combined with your's if we are to meet.
Ann-Marie
P.S Forum william is right our friendship will unfold between your very eyes, we will see what time will bring. When the meeting happen's picture's will definately be posted here, on profile if neccesary.
Thanks Ann,Spoken like a true freind.I am a peacekeeper and if anybody ever visited my site you will see what I think about violence and anger.I have not,can not and will not harm another human being.I mean what I say and I say what I mean.So if i say I am flying to england in a few months to visit a freind then that is exactly what I am going to do and when the time comes to go home then there will be nothing but good memories left.
Ann-Marie, you are being, I think, stroppy, if I grasp the term. The first line of my post said that William was trustworthy and that was all that needed to be said, then I said you could take care of yourself. The rest of the message was for OTHER PEOPLE who might be tempted to imitate you. I did NOT mean to insult yuou or William. However I am sorry for not making this clear. I did not mean to insinuate anything, I was not insinuating anything. But I am sorry for not making that clear.
I don't know how easy it would be to post pictures here, even in profiles, but I could dedicate a page on my website to pix from here, and we could just put a URL in here, if we can get away with that. I do worry a little about the rule against URL, but so far I've ignored it and not been decapitated.
Hey now watch it,Ann Marie is not being stroppy.she is being a true friend standing up for those she cares for.I felt there was underlying tone of insinuation as well.
Why? Really, I meant none. Well, what can I say. I was hoping to advise others, not you, just others, to be careful. I thought that a public spirited thing to do. I said at the beginning you were trustworthy. If you think that a lie there is little more I can say.
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