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dudleydoritestratford, Ontario Canada3 Threads 6 PostsIf your wife/husband had a friend for over a year and you never knew about this friend how are you suppose to feel about that?
Strikes me as odd, because normally in a relationship people talk about others that they are in contact with .... ie. things happening at work etc. So not to have one mention of a person - hhm?
I would think it strange also to have never mentioned this especially for over a year.
Dudley, what kind of friend? Office friend, co-worker, friend with a terminal illness, friend going through a divorce?
some people cannot mention a friend because the spouse/boyfreind/girlfriend is extremely jealous and flies into a rage at the mere mention of anyone else's name
starts off innoncent, looks innocent..are you worried?
not any more lol...i finally meet him... she is living there now until she can get back on her feet she said maybe they'll have a future together maybe thay won't best of luck to them i worry about myself now its hard but i take it day by day
Wait!
So she did cheat on you?
I'm confused.
Generally, any type of secrecy is a bad sign.
Especially when it comes to people being referred to as "friends"
So she did cheat on you?
I'm confused.
Generally, any type of secrecy is a bad sign.
Especially when it comes to people being referred to as "friends"
she says they are just friends but later on it could be more maybe she has cheated i don't know we seperated 2 months ago and there is noway i would take her back and noway she would ever come back we did the councelling i told the shrink how i felt about all this and that maybe they should back off a bit until we were in a better place mentally we get home she says thats it im done i haven't loved you for 6 yrs...well gez should have told me that 6 yrs ago lol..hey we tried it didn't work we remain friends we go on... we were married 19 yrs at a pretty young age people change people fall out of love it happens
Sorry that you had to go through that dude.
Lots of fish in the sea though
Lots of fish in the sea though
sorry that happened to you, hope you will be healed of the negativity this situation has brought you.
Things do get better.
Not sure why people can't finish a "relationship" before jumping into another ....... like you said, she should have said something 6 years earlier ..... or maybe you knew and just ignored the unhappiness?
Yes, she should have told you that, could've told you that, but didn't, only she knows why she didn't. Sometimes after a long marriage, people become companions, not realizing that the sparks is not like it use to be, however when prompted deep dopwn the love was there if it was to begin with. Take a day at a time, and you will eventually arrive at a place where you will feel much better about yourself. But by all means do not drown yourself in your sorrows or a drink. Seek your friends and talk with them about your feelings.
So sorry you have had to deal with this dudleydorite. And that you have to continue to deal with it I am sure. Deceit has no place in a real relationship, and I know that you are better off without her.
Curly is right, it does get better, and you may have to remind yourself of that often....but hang in there, you are worth it.
Curly is right, it does get better, and you may have to remind yourself of that often....but hang in there, you are worth it.
schooling # one...RED FLAGS...they work for men as well...this is a red flag for you...or it should be...red flags are things that make you go hmmmmmmmmmm...that little voice inside of you...that keeps telling you things you dont want to hear or know...listen to it
I have a buddy that I bike with...as well as a few of my gal pals...we found out that he lives with a woman...now this is after 1/2 a yr...he kept telling us he had a gf but that she was away....then one day we asked about her again...(why have we never met your GF?) he finally told us.....she would be so very jealous of you guys and the fact that im out riding bikes and playing pool with other gals.........
We told him...that by him keeping us a secert from her...is the reason why she is finding it hard to TRUST him
So what did us gals do...without warning...we called him up one day...said we were going for a ride...we told him to meet us at 2pm that day...so we desided to go to his place at 1pm to meet him...yip we went an hr early...so we could meet his GF...we all pulled into his driveway...there was af ew guys with us as well.........he was out side pulling his bike out of his shop...she was with him...this was the very first time...that she had met any of his bike friends...even the guys.........we all could see by the look on her face....
that she was floored.......................days later we found out that she finally left him...
because if there was no trust...in their relationship...then what was left????
If someone is keeping the fact that they have people they hangout with,and they dont want you to know anything about them...........red flag...there is a reason....come right out and ask...........
thats my 2 cents
Give him/her a hug..........and say Thank you!
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