Getting to old to start a family? ( Archived) (11)

What age is to old for a guy to start a family?

I have always dreamed of being a dad, but with time starting to run out I'm trying to see the positives from the other side. Thanks for your thoughts. TC

Who is to say what is right or wrong for you...only you.

You are only 36 right now and still in your prime and sounds like from what you say have the ability and desire to be a good father. From what I have heard you talk of your own father he was a great example for you. I don't think you would want to wait so long that you couldn't enjoy your child(ren) but even if it happened later in life when you were least expecting it to you would still have your dream and I am sure you would be all you could be then too...I dunno Joe. I hope your dream comes true for you. You are a nice person.

Time for that is different for a man. You don't really have that clock that will run out such as a woman does. I know many men in their 40s and 50s just starting their family. The only thing I would caution on that is the health factor from the aging process. We would like to be young and healthy enough to enjoy parenthood, yet old enough to appreciate. Your time has not run out by any means. When you meet the right lady, then that will be the time you were meant to become a father. For that child to be wanted is precious indeed.

i think for a man its never to late to start a family.. i think its different for a woman.. age talking i mean (medical)

If your only concern is becoming a dad you have nothing to worry about. There are plenty of single women out there with ready-made families for you.

Now if you are concerned about passing on your own genes, which is totally differnet than worrying about being a dad, then you might need to get a move on.

starting a family and caring/raising a family, 2 different issues.
the benefits of having a family at an early age 20's is great. your young'ns are grown by time you reach 40.
just an opinion

I had my last child with my ex husband when he was 47.

Joe, you're FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR from being too old for children.

Thanks guys for your comments!

At a few weeks old I was adopted by my Grandparents who were in their mid forties at the time,so growing up I was wanting to start life as soon as possible. That way my children could get to know there grandparents.
I thought I did everything right but after a 15yr relationship no children were in the cards for us.
Just when my wife and I were planning a family her mother passed away of cancer at 59yrs old. It was then my wife after 12yrs together, felt she would not live long enough to have children, she was barely 30.
She wanted to sell everything and travel the world...
She left and traveled for a few years and has found a new guy.
Dad has since passed and mum is over 80 now.

I stayed, held on and moved on.

Joe...You are a super nice guy and nice looking too.

You will find that special lady. I am sorry you went through all that.