If you believe ( Archived) (17)

I believe that the harder I work...the luckier I get.

Choice has been proven to be a crucial element of survial for victims of catastrophes. Loss of freedom, whether by environmental forces, or by limitations of the body in sickness, can be a source of depression or the loss of will to survive.

Persons that have survived these types of situations tell us that by limiting their awareness to just a few areas of attention, they can gain a sense of freedom. Deciding how to tie your shoes can be a simple palce to start. If there are no shoes, then there might be toes to count, or name, or dedicate the day to. Nothing matters except to find some place, even if it's only in the imagination, to play the game of awareness. You make the choices in that game, and you make the choices to remain in charge of the game. As long as there is a choice, there is life.

University of Wisconsin psychologist, Richard Logan, has studied the survivors of ordeals like imprisonment, or being lost on a long voyage. He found that the person's attitude, above anything else, affected how the predicaments affected them. Some of those survivors reported a transcendence. They sort of merged with their environment while performing their activities, or even during moments of great suffering. By almost any "normal" standard the environments would be considered quite unsatisfactory. But when the transcendence occurred, any distastfulness would disappear.

A judgmental attitude traps the person in a prison of helplessness. When the awareness is focused on how things are not okay, and how much everything sucks we are stuck. Suspending this judgment allows us to become centered in the moment, and is rewarded with peace, harmony, and flow. A judgmental attitude cuts us off from the flow of life, acceptance carries us to the next unfolding moment, and the possiblity of change.

I don't mean to make light of your story....this is just a subject that I have a lot of interest in.

Life is what you make it. Its about using luck when appears. Shrugging off bad luck and getting on with life and not wallowing in self pity.


One of my best friends is an inspiration to me. She live in Belfast in the trouble is catholic married a solider. Her brother was killed by a random snipper her father died of a heart attack brought on by his death. Her husband was shot in front of her when she was out shopping with her toddle daughter. Yet there is no bittiness in her she has gone on to bring up two lovely children she was also pregnant at the time. She is one of the funniest kindest woman i have ever know.

So i know no matter what live throws at me if she can survive And still be one of the nicest human being i know that so can i