Marriage (31)
Lovin' the upside down question marks.
People afraid of marriage? Never...
Our moral and spiritual qualities are being erroded day in, day out. Not good for any form of commitment, be it marriage or parenthood.
Solution? Get out of the rat race...don't isolate yourself, but certainly insulate yourself from the world...it's friggin' toxic!
Maybe then we'll give ourselves the chance to regenerate...maybe.
People afraid of marriage? Never...
Our moral and spiritual qualities are being erroded day in, day out. Not good for any form of commitment, be it marriage or parenthood.
Solution? Get out of the rat race...don't isolate yourself, but certainly insulate yourself from the world...it's friggin' toxic!
Maybe then we'll give ourselves the chance to regenerate...maybe.
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Try it....
Then you will know
Then you will know
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In response to: Lovin' the upside down question marks.
It's a Spanish thing.
In response to: People afraid of marriage? Never...
It doesn't always seem to be fear, quite often it's just a great dislike of the idea.
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Ninja please!
You have come very close to the point. It is exactly what you suspect. There is a current of fear flowing in and through these people's attitudes about marriage.
Fear is the result of a false understanding of the true nature of self. It is a problem of self doubt. Do not be led astray by these negative attitudes. Believe that you will have the love you seek, and remember with confidence that "Love Conquers Fear."
You have come very close to the point. It is exactly what you suspect. There is a current of fear flowing in and through these people's attitudes about marriage.
Fear is the result of a false understanding of the true nature of self. It is a problem of self doubt. Do not be led astray by these negative attitudes. Believe that you will have the love you seek, and remember with confidence that "Love Conquers Fear."
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diogenes: Ninja please!
You have come very close to the point. It is exactly what you suspect. There is a current of fear flowing in and through these people's attitudes about marriage.
Fear is the result of a false understanding of the true nature of self. It is a problem of self doubt. Do not be led astray by these negative attitudes. Believe that you will have the love you seek, and remember with confidence that "Love Conquers Fear."
You have come very close to the point. It is exactly what you suspect. There is a current of fear flowing in and through these people's attitudes about marriage.
Fear is the result of a false understanding of the true nature of self. It is a problem of self doubt. Do not be led astray by these negative attitudes. Believe that you will have the love you seek, and remember with confidence that "Love Conquers Fear."
Those are some of the smartest and wisest words I've known you to speak.
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Thats a tricky one
I almost got married once, close call 
but I woulnt rule it out if it was with the rite man!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fear .. yes .. but for me its the fear of...well, in the much sought after terms " screwing it up !! "
Marriage , to me is a holy institution .. no .. no.. no god or religion involved , but pious and involving commitment much more than courting or live-in.
I would love to be married to the right person ( as i would perceive him to be ) than be run or walked in to one , to live it than endure it as we do a lot of things in life , to enjoy and work it out with as much dedication as possible.
So marriage i think is a holy union between " two mature and SENSIBLE " individuals who have i presume the right reasons to be getting married and UNDERSTAND what " marriage " is about.
Definitely NOT for people looking to dupe someone in to alimony , property or money issues. ( I know it sounds cruel but well thats how i feel ). Neither for people who want to find someone to JUST be taken care of.
Love doesnt need to be certified by marriage ... but a loveless marriage on the other hand is but a test of endurance !!!
Marriage , to me is a holy institution .. no .. no.. no god or religion involved , but pious and involving commitment much more than courting or live-in.
I would love to be married to the right person ( as i would perceive him to be ) than be run or walked in to one , to live it than endure it as we do a lot of things in life , to enjoy and work it out with as much dedication as possible.
So marriage i think is a holy union between " two mature and SENSIBLE " individuals who have i presume the right reasons to be getting married and UNDERSTAND what " marriage " is about.
Definitely NOT for people looking to dupe someone in to alimony , property or money issues. ( I know it sounds cruel but well thats how i feel ). Neither for people who want to find someone to JUST be taken care of.
Love doesnt need to be certified by marriage ... but a loveless marriage on the other hand is but a test of endurance !!!
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I can't say that I'm afraid of marriage, I have to get past my fear of committment first though. Then I'm okay with marriage. I would really like to have a good marriage one day.
And the fear of committment comes from the baggage and the way I've been treated in past relationships. I tend to insulate myself too much.
And the fear of committment comes from the baggage and the way I've been treated in past relationships. I tend to insulate myself too much.
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"I, X., take you, Y., to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life"
The above is an example of a basic Marriage Rite... the above is what marriage is supposed to be..
I think the reason people are so afraid of marriage is because it seems to have lost all significance and meaning...It is a contract between two people to the exclusion of all others and is basis purely on love and commitment...
I still believe in marriage and I am not afraid of it.. but the above is what I expect it to be.. so it will not be a decision I take lightly..
The above is an example of a basic Marriage Rite... the above is what marriage is supposed to be..
I think the reason people are so afraid of marriage is because it seems to have lost all significance and meaning...It is a contract between two people to the exclusion of all others and is basis purely on love and commitment...
I still believe in marriage and I am not afraid of it.. but the above is what I expect it to be.. so it will not be a decision I take lightly..
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KingLeo: They were all looking for a special someone but the vast majority of them had no intention of seeking out that life long commitment.
If and when I get so lucky to be with that special person, I'd surely hope it was a lifetime commitment. Poisoning it by signing some useless papers that obviously meant nothing to most people that signed them before me - not so sure about that. If there was another concept, something new that would imply the same thing that Aries is talking about, but wasn't called "marriage"... then I might do that. But for now, seeing the other people's experiences, I almost feel that getting married brings bad luck to the marriage...
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AudrysSis: If and when I get so lucky to be with that special person, I'd surely hope it was a lifetime commitment. Poisoning it by signing some useless papers that obviously meant nothing to most people that signed them before me - not so sure about that. If there was another concept, something new that would imply the same thing that Aries is talking about, but wasn't called "marriage"... then I might do that. But for now, seeing the other people's experiences, I almost feel that getting married brings bad luck to the marriage...
You can always put your faith in the life long commitment of dogs to liver treats.
Just sayin'
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Let me ask you a stupid question, what have you against me? 
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AudrysSis: Let me ask you a stupid question, what have you against me?
Nothing at all...I just like to play around. Please don't take it personally.
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Fear...........No fear here. Go ahead and do it, In 15-30 years, she'll find someone else, cheat on you, move out, take all your money, force your business into bankruptcy, make it so you can't afford to keep your house, play a big part in loss of self esteem, and don't forget....... rip your heart out.
It's not fear, it's the learning curve of now knowing that I'm never going to let it happen again. I'll make a commitment to a woman for life, between the two of us and God, but I will never put it on paper for our government, and that's what that paper is for. jmo of course.
It's not fear, it's the learning curve of now knowing that I'm never going to let it happen again. I'll make a commitment to a woman for life, between the two of us and God, but I will never put it on paper for our government, and that's what that paper is for. jmo of course.
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I think moving to a small island village is the answer.
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I'm not afraid of marriage if I could actually get involved with someone. As liberal as my ideas are I have never lived with a man outside of marriage and at this stage of my life would probably change that... but I would hope that marriage would be the end result.
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I suppose I could always go the way of Tom Leykis.
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KingLeo: So I'm on another dating website looking through the forums and I noticed one on the topic of marriage. Nearly everyone posting in there seemed against marriage whether or not they had been married before. They were all looking for a special someone but the vast majority of them had no intention of seeking out that life long commitment. Of course it's not just there I've heard similar talk, people at work have informed me to not ever marry.
¿Why are so many people against marriage?
¿Are people so afraid of losing nearly everything if the marriage doesn't work out?
¿Is it the "baggage"?
¿Why are so many people against marriage?
¿Are people so afraid of losing nearly everything if the marriage doesn't work out?
¿Is it the "baggage"?
I am not against marriage at all.My parents are happily married for 38 years and I do believe in marriage.
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gangel: I am not against marriage at all.My parents are happily married for 38 years and I do believe in marriage.
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