What has time done for you? (23)
This would make a really good blog, Trudy. 
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This was really nicely said BEB 
Having had the time on my hands, I was both oft retrospective and introspective. Were there things that could have been done differently? Sure. Did I learn from it? Absolutely.
I gave up finger-pointing, at either her or myself. I arrived at acceptance. Things are what they are for a reason. There are no regrets. This is a good place to be.
Having had the time on my hands, I was both oft retrospective and introspective. Were there things that could have been done differently? Sure. Did I learn from it? Absolutely.
I gave up finger-pointing, at either her or myself. I arrived at acceptance. Things are what they are for a reason. There are no regrets. This is a good place to be.
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rwantin: This was really nicely said BEB
Having had the time on my hands, I was both oft retrospective and introspective. Were there things that could have been done differently? Sure. Did I learn from it? Absolutely.
I gave up finger-pointing, at either her or myself. I arrived at acceptance. Things are what they are for a reason. There are no regrets. This is a good place to be.
Having had the time on my hands, I was both oft retrospective and introspective. Were there things that could have been done differently? Sure. Did I learn from it? Absolutely.
I gave up finger-pointing, at either her or myself. I arrived at acceptance. Things are what they are for a reason. There are no regrets. This is a good place to be.
thanks robert..
finger pointing was something was a problem for me as well...and looking back to the arguments, geez how lame they were...now i would laugh it off, as i should of then...pick my battles more wisely..
no regrets are good..as i dont regret them, cuz ive learned from them, i cant regret what taught me much..
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dcj22: This would make a really good blog, Trudy.
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...but finger pointing makes life so much easier 
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Time helps the healing. I too had an abusive husband, I waited to a long time to marry, swearing that I would never divorce. That I would not be a single parent, that I could make it work.
It has taken me 15 years to get where I am now, I have not had a lasting relationship, but still trying.
I wish I said I had no regrets, I have one, I wish I never married the guy.
At least I know that I don't have to be with some inorder for me to enjoy life.
Time seems to make you wiser!
It has taken me 15 years to get where I am now, I have not had a lasting relationship, but still trying.
I wish I said I had no regrets, I have one, I wish I never married the guy.
At least I know that I don't have to be with some inorder for me to enjoy life.
Time seems to make you wiser!
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Actually, I think I've learned a lot about others and myself. Honestly, times have changed a lot and so have expectations. I see myself remaining single....at one point that would have bothered me. But~~~life is what it is~
JMO
JMO
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blue_eyed_blonde: Time.....
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
Very nice BEB, I know the mistakes I made in the last one but everyone is different, things are different. The 'mistakes' I made with one person might not be a mistake with another.
I think too much.
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blue_eyed_blonde: Time.....
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
Well I have spent a lifetime healing...NOT just from relationships but alot of other things too...I have been working on healing myself since my early 20's and still have a long way to go...BUT what it has done for me is teach me who I am...teach me not to accept anything less than I deserve which is a healthy relationship and friendships...it has taught me that I can overcome almost anything even if it doesn't seem like it at the time...It has taught me never to settle because it's a waste of valuable time and that my time is valuable because life is too short....It has taught me how to let go and that I can't and don't have to control all things because things will always end up the way they are suppose to be...BUT most of all it has taught me that I can love and that love doesn't mean fear or pain it means giving and receiving the best parts of each other and excepting even the bad parts...BUT not at the expense of oneself....it means balance and respect...not imbalance and disrespect....it means happiness and not suffering....it means hope and not despair and it means wanting the best for your partner in all things...not wanting to see your partner suffer and in pain especially at your expense and it means patience and working through the bad times...not running at the first sight and it also means sacrifice for the good of your relationship not just for yourself...it means kindness and gentleness....not pride and hurt...it means loving with all that you have and holding back no part of yourself out of fear or selfishness and most of all it means embracing and appreciating your partner for who they are and never taking them for granted!!!!!!!!!
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blue_eyed_blonde: Time.....
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones. The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.
BEB, I like the way you put this. I think I'll die alone. I'm too insecure to have a decent relationship, but I've read what everyone has said, and much of it sounds wise to me.
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oh nevermind
hey girl
see ya later
im out
hey girlsee ya later
im out
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mindfful: oh nevermind
hey girl
see ya later
im out
hey girl
see ya later
im out
hey mindful, glad to see you around...
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Indyfella: Actually, I think I've learned a lot about others and myself. Honestly, times have changed a lot and so have expectations. I see myself remaining single....at one point that would have bothered me. But~~~life is what it is~
JMO
JMO
Life is for sure what we make of it, and as long as your happy...nothing else is really important...
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KrazieStill: Very nice BEB, I know the mistakes I made in the last one but everyone is different, things are different. The 'mistakes' I made with one person might not be a mistake with another.
I think too much.
I think too much.
thanks krazie....very true, maybe they really werent mistakes...thats a good spin on things...i have some that could go either way, but the ones i know theres some i have to take the blame for...grrr
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Well I have spent a lifetime healing...NOT just from relationships but alot of other things too...I have been working on healing myself since my early 20's and still have a long way to go...BUT what it has done for me is teach me who I am...teach me not to accept anything less than I deserve which is a healthy relationship and friendships...it has taught me that I can overcome almost anything even if it doesn't seem like it at the time...It has taught me never to settle because it's a waste of valuable time and that my time is valuable because life is too short....It has taught me how to let go and that I can't and don't have to control all things because things will always end up the way they are suppose to be...BUT most of all it has taught me that I can love and that love doesn't mean fear or pain it means giving and receiving the best parts of each other and excepting even the bad parts...BUT not at the expense of oneself....it means balance and respect...not imbalance and disrespect....it means happiness and not suffering....it means hope and not despair and it means wanting the best for your partner in all things...not wanting to see your partner suffer and in pain especially at your expense and it means patience and working through the bad times...not running at the first sight and it also means sacrifice for the good of your relationship not just for yourself...it means kindness and gentleness....not pride and hurt...it means loving with all that you have and holding back no part of yourself out of fear or selfishness and most of all it means embracing and appreciating your partner for who they are and never taking them for granted!!!!!!!!!
beautiful hugz, your quite the woman...i commend you for your strength an believe in yourself..
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Time has done nothing for me but made me an old man!
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Nicely put BEB.
Time has shown me that nothing ever really matters as much as I think it does, and although painful things do not magically disappear they do become less painful.
I remember after a break up telling a friend that I wanted "to rip his heart out and eat it in front of his face while he died". Now I cannot remember exactly what he looked like! And it has only been eight years!
Time changes things.
Time has shown me that nothing ever really matters as much as I think it does, and although painful things do not magically disappear they do become less painful.
I remember after a break up telling a friend that I wanted "to rip his heart out and eat it in front of his face while he died". Now I cannot remember exactly what he looked like! And it has only been eight years!
Time changes things.
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Skeptikos: BEB, I like the way you put this. I think I'll die alone. I'm too insecure to have a decent relationship, but I've read what everyone has said, and much of it sounds wise to me.
hey skep...dont sell yourself short, as long as your still alive you have the option to make yourself better. Being insecure, isnt a terminal illness, nor is depression or anxiety...they may be struggles and some times are harder then others..but you dont get to stop fighting, cuz life gets hard. skep, theres many things that you can do, read, or learn to be a better person and find self-confidence in yourself....you have to like and accept yourself for who you are...give yourself a lil credit...
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shipoker55: Time has done nothing for me but made me an old man!
awww ship, you know i adore you and think your a great man...as many others do here....we cant all be wrong, can we?
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I have always been told time heals all wounds, its my best friend and my worst enemy, and time is valuable and shouldnt be wasted.
I'ts been 5 years since my divorce and time has been a blessing. I wasn't heartbroken after my divorce, as I wanted it and he was an abusive man. Within those last few years I was granted valuable time, not to be wasted..but to find out who I was then and am now. I learned what was important in life and what should be valued in a relationship. I had time to grow as a person, work on my short comings, and find a new insight with life.
I couldnt stand the phrase, time heals all wounds, but again time is what I needed...Then I was so full of misery that I didnt think anything could ease that pain. Time has erased the pain from my last relationship, but kind enough to leave me with wonderful memories and many lessons learned. Time fixed what I thought was the unfixable...
Now that time has opened my eyes to a new start at life, given me time to understand my past...and value my future. Time gives us the ability to change what we dont like about ourselves and the chance to improve our shortcomings to be a better partner. This time...I will take time appreciate this special person...I will be more compromising, patient, understanding, open-minded, stronger, better listener, a valued friend and lover. I'm not saying that I won't make mistakes, cuz thats my middle name..but I will try to lessen them and not make the same ones.
The whole reason for this thread...I wondered, since most of us have had a prior relationship and we're looking for a new one. Have you learned things that maybe you did wrong in the past ones to make sure your next relationship doesnt fall for the same reasons.