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Mar 11, 2008 7:51 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Most of you know that this past weekend I was off to Mallorca to meet my "boatguy". To say that I was excited would be an understatement. Our phone conversations were fantastic and we had difficulty getting off the phone, even after two hours of talking. We shared our facebook pages allowing each to see some of our friends, music tastes, favorite videos etc. We emailed each other links to our favorite bands, discussed our favorite books and recipes (each of us love cooking). When a weird set of circumstances happened that caused us to loose touch with each other for a few days I was sick to my stomach at the thought I had lost him and overjoyed when he resumed contact. So this had to be a love match, right? Wrong.

He was waiting for me when I got off the plane and I immediately gave him a big hug (good icebreaker). He looked like his pictures but a bit heavier than I had thought, it's possible that played a role in how things turned out but I sincerely doubt it, I've got a few pounds that could be shed as well. There just was no spark, no recognition, no va va voom.

The weekend was great, he cooked me amazing meals and served me beautiful wines and champagne, the conversation never halted between us, I was entirely comfortable staying on the boat with him, he was a gentleman. I even got a bit drunk on saturday night thinking that might change things... silly but what the heck, I really wanted there to be a connection, but nothing.

I felt bad because I could see in him that he wasn't feeling the way I was, on several occasions I could tell that he wanted to kiss me but was a gentleman when I didn't give any responsive signals and at the end of the weekend gave me two books that I had admired in his collection. I feel like such a sh*t that I wasn't able to feel more for him and also feel the loss of what we shared before we met... but how can you lose something you never had? It seemed so real.

So... I'm back where I started and feeling a bit blue, I really do think I'm ready to have a partner in life and hope he's out there somewhere. I'm don't regret the involvement and do believe that nothing ventured, nothing gained, but how I wish it had turned out differently. sigh

Thanks to all of you who went on this roller coaster ride with me... You shared the excitement and I thought it only right to share the result. hug kiss
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Mar 11, 2008 7:58 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
trish123
trish123trish123Macclesfield, Cheshire, England UK231 Threads 6 Polls 19,911 Posts
I hope you both have better luck next time hun - you gotta be in it to win it wave hug bouquet
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Mar 11, 2008 8:02 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
jbibiza: Most of you know that this past weekend I was off to Mallorca to meet my "boatguy". To say that I was excited would be an understatement. Our phone conversations were fantastic and we had difficulty getting off the phone, even after two hours of talking. We shared our facebook pages allowing each to see some of our friends, music tastes, favorite videos etc. We emailed each other links to our favorite bands, discussed our favorite books and recipes (each of us love cooking). When a weird set of circumstances happened that caused us to loose touch with each other for a few days I was sick to my stomach at the thought I had lost him and overjoyed when he resumed contact. So this had to be a love match, right? Wrong.

He was waiting for me when I got off the plane and I immediately gave him a big hug (good icebreaker). He looked like his pictures but a bit heavier than I had thought, it's possible that played a role in how things turned out but I sincerely doubt it, I've got a few pounds that could be shed as well. There just was no spark, no recognition, no va va voom.

The weekend was great, he cooked me amazing meals and served me beautiful wines and champagne, the conversation never halted between us, I was entirely comfortable staying on the boat with him, he was a gentleman. I even got a bit drunk on saturday night thinking that might change things... silly but what the heck, I really wanted there to be a connection, but nothing.

I felt bad because I could see in him that he wasn't feeling the way I was, on several occasions I could tell that he wanted to kiss me but was a gentleman when I didn't give any responsive signals and at the end of the weekend gave me two books that I had admired in his collection. I feel like such a sh*t that I wasn't able to feel more for him and also feel the loss of what we shared before we met... but how can you lose something you never had? It seemed so real.

So... I'm back where I started and feeling a bit blue, I really do think I'm ready to have a partner in life and hope he's out there somewhere. I'm don't regret the involvement and do believe that nothing ventured, nothing gained, but how I wish it had turned out differently.

Thanks to all of you who went on this roller coaster ride with me... You shared the excitement and I thought it only right to share the result.
awww Sweetie i am so sorry..was hoping it would happen for you too as well..but at least you did go and meet..i am sure he is out there for you hun..All the Bestteddybear
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Mar 11, 2008 8:07 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Scottishlass
ScottishlassScottishlassKnoxville, Tennessee USA672 Threads 29 Polls 4,352 Posts
It'll happen when you least expect it! !comfort hug teddybear
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Mar 11, 2008 8:17 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
foreveryoung1
foreveryoung1foreveryoung1cartagena, Murcia Spain4 Threads 1 Polls 4,094 Posts
sorry it was not as you wanted

hug
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Mar 11, 2008 8:34 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Thanks guys! I'm off to work... a new day, and who knows what the future holds...hug wine
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Mar 11, 2008 8:59 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
Hey JB.. that's right.. nothing ventured nothing gained.. If we don't try these things we will never know will we.

I also think things like this are great for 'learning' (and learning is ALWAYS a good!)

I'm really glad you went to meet him.. because now you know... and it stops any wasting of precious living time.

And sadly it just can't be helped that he feels differently .. that's just called Sod's Law ..or Murphys depending where you come from.. OR the Law of the Sod (as my dad calls it haha)

I'm going back to see Mr McMaybe next month.. for a 12 day (instead of the previous 7) crash course in finding out more about each other.


wave hug
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Mar 11, 2008 9:01 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Fallingman
FallingmanFallingmanDublin, Ireland45 Threads 17 Polls 18,473 Posts
Claayer: Hey JB.. that's right.. nothing ventured nothing gained .. If we don't try these things we will never know will we.

I also think things like this are great for 'learning' (and learning is ALWAYS a good!)

I'm really glad you went to meet him.. because now you know... and it stops any wasting of precious living time.

And sadly it just can't be helped that he feels differently .. that's just called Sod's Law ..or Murphys depending where you come from.. OR the Law of the Sod (as my dad calls it haha)

I'm going back to see Mr McMaybe next month.. for a 12 day (instead of the previous 7) crash course in finding out more about each other.


Sorry JB! But as so often, Claayer puts it best....so....What she said! thumbs up
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Mar 11, 2008 9:02 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
Fallingman: Sorry JB! But as so often, Claayer puts it best....so....What she said!


Oh golly.. batting


hahaha laugh

Hellooooooo FM wave hug
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Mar 11, 2008 9:58 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
irishlass45
irishlass45irishlass45Texas USA, Texas USA61 Threads 5 Polls 6,345 Posts
jbibiza: Most of you know that this past weekend I was off to Mallorca to meet my "boatguy". To say that I was excited would be an understatement. Our phone conversations were fantastic and we had difficulty getting off the phone, even after two hours of talking. We shared our facebook pages allowing each to see some of our friends, music tastes, favorite videos etc. We emailed each other links to our favorite bands, discussed our favorite books and recipes (each of us love cooking). When a weird set of circumstances happened that caused us to loose touch with each other for a few days I was sick to my stomach at the thought I had lost him and overjoyed when he resumed contact. So this had to be a love match, right? Wrong.

He was waiting for me when I got off the plane and I immediately gave him a big hug (good icebreaker). He looked like his pictures but a bit heavier than I had thought, it's possible that played a role in how things turned out but I sincerely doubt it, I've got a few pounds that could be shed as well. There just was no spark, no recognition, no va va voom.

The weekend was great, he cooked me amazing meals and served me beautiful wines and champagne, the conversation never halted between us, I was entirely comfortable staying on the boat with him, he was a gentleman. I even got a bit drunk on saturday night thinking that might change things... silly but what the heck, I really wanted there to be a connection, but nothing.

I felt bad because I could see in him that he wasn't feeling the way I was, on several occasions I could tell that he wanted to kiss me but was a gentleman when I didn't give any responsive signals and at the end of the weekend gave me two books that I had admired in his collection. I feel like such a sh*t that I wasn't able to feel more for him and also feel the loss of what we shared before we met... but how can you lose something you never had? It seemed so real.

So... I'm back where I started and feeling a bit blue, I really do think I'm ready to have a partner in life and hope he's out there somewhere. I'm don't regret the involvement and do believe that nothing ventured, nothing gained, but how I wish it had turned out differently.

Thanks to all of you who went on this roller coaster ride with me... You shared the excitement and I thought it only right to share the result.

Hey girl,I don't think you should feel like such a sh*t,you made no promises,there were no commitments on asperations and if it did not give you the WOW factor then disappointment is all you should feel,the feeling real thing though? yea we have been there jb,and it seems so very tangible but yet it's not,you will feel better once you play with us for a while,I have been talking to a guy for a little while and have a date with him tonight,he is a nurse we have everything it seems in common but there is one problem already,he does not present the WOW factor and this is even before we go out but he seems like a nice and intelligent guy,has been an emergency room nurse for 16 yrs.has a home,a harley gf!!! think of the summer,but then when I come to reality? I am just not sure but am willing to gander,nothing wrong with that eh? the least we can come up with is a friendship,and in this relationship and anyone online that were potentials I have used my formula on them and I have not gotten hurt since a very long while.Thank God for formulasyay I am sorry that things did not work out for you as I know you were wanting them to and we were too but they didn't,look at your life,it is not empty so rejoice and welcome back,now let's playhug bouquet
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Mar 11, 2008 10:29 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
jbibiza: Thanks guys! I'm off to work... a new day, and who knows what the future holds...
I'm fatter in person,293, now that is outta the way, wanna go for a roll in the hay?kiss
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Mar 11, 2008 11:25 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
What do you think the essential reason is, JB, that you felt no "va va voom"?

confused dunno wave hug
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Mar 11, 2008 11:28 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
JB....I honestly fthink the world of you....Ireally do feel your pain. Best of luck to you!!hug
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Mar 11, 2008 11:34 AM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
irishlass45
irishlass45irishlass45Texas USA, Texas USA61 Threads 5 Polls 6,345 Posts
Ambrose2007: What do you think the essential reason is, JB, that you felt no "va va voom"?

none of our business now give a hug and let's move on ceasarhug
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Mar 11, 2008 1:29 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
irishlass45: none of our business now give a hug and let's move on ceasar


That would, of course, be for JB to say.
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Mar 11, 2008 1:33 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
irishlass45
irishlass45irishlass45Texas USA, Texas USA61 Threads 5 Polls 6,345 Posts
Ambrose2007: That would, of course, be for JB to say.

and that would be of coursetongue one day you will learn your lesson on women and what to ask and when to shhhh until thentongue
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Mar 11, 2008 1:36 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
irishlass45: and that would be of course one day you will learn your lesson on women and what to ask and when to shhhh until then


It was foolish of me not to realize that you were the spokesperson not only for JB, but also for all women, Irish. Duly noted.
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Mar 11, 2008 2:13 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
Sparky55
Sparky55Sparky55Somewhere, Afghanistan68 Threads 1 Polls 4,749 Posts
JB,

At least you tried and were true to yourself and him. Sounds like you handled things very honestly and very well. Good luck in the future.
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Mar 11, 2008 3:50 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Claayer: Hey JB.. that's right.. nothing ventured nothing gained .. If we don't try these things we will never know will we.

I also think things like this are great for 'learning' (and learning is ALWAYS a good!)

I'm really glad you went to meet him.. because now you know... and it stops any wasting of precious living time.

And sadly it just can't be helped that he feels differently .. that's just called Sod's Law ..or Murphys depending where you come from.. OR the Law of the Sod (as my dad calls it haha)

I'm going back to see Mr McMaybe next month.. for a 12 day (instead of the previous 7) crash course in finding out more about each other.


I'm really glad I went too, if I had continued on without a meeting I would have cut myself off from other potential opportunities. I am really monogamous and have a difficult leaving myself open to possibilities with more then one person, especially if I feel strongly about someone.

Fortunately you have already met Mr. McMaybe and know that whole messy chemistry thing is out of the way, and now you can relax and just get to know one another. hug
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Mar 11, 2008 3:54 PM CST Oh how I wish it could have been different!
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
irishlass45: Hey girl,I don't think you should feel like such a sh*t,you made no promises,there were no commitments on asperations and if it did not give you the WOW factor then disappointment is all you should feel,the feeling real thing though? yea we have been there jb,and it seems so very tangible but yet it's not,you will feel better once you play with us for a while,I have been talking to a guy for a little while and have a date with him tonight,he is a nurse we have everything it seems in common but there is one problem already,he does not present the WOW factor and this is even before we go out but he seems like a nice and intelligent guy,has been an emergency room nurse for 16 yrs.has a home,a harley gf!!! think of the summer,but then when I come to reality? I am just not sure but am willing to gander,nothing wrong with that eh? the least we can come up with is a friendship,and in this relationship and anyone online that were potentials I have used my formula on them and I have not gotten hurt since a very long while.Thank God for formulas I am sorry that things did not work out for you as I know you were wanting them to and we were too but they didn't,look at your life,it is not empty so rejoice and welcome back,now let's play



Well I'm starting to think that chemistry over the phone or online isn't as important as I thought and maybe just finding people who share the same sense of humor and basic ideas is enough to plan on a meeting or date, so I wouldn't be to quick to write off because there isn't a WOW factor prior to meeting. Good Luck and have fun! wine
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