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Mar 12, 2008 12:39 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Im2Qt4U44
Im2Qt4U44Im2Qt4U44Kingsville, Ontario Canada1 Threads 3 Posts
conversing Can anyone explain how these sites are supposed to work. Men put profiles up but never seem to make the initial contact. Even when you finally get their attention; have what seems to be positive chatting; they give you their email address; telephone numbers, etc. then the WEIRD starts. Suddenly, they just disappear. They don't tell you anything...not "Sorry, I don't think we have enough in common to continue." OR "I'm leaving on vacation for a month.". They continue to check their accounts so you know they're around but NOTHING! I understand that we don't owe each other anything except maybe common courtesy.

If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I'm just too old for this....BUT I think not!

Look forward to hearing from men and/or women.

hug from confused
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Mar 12, 2008 12:46 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Skeptikos
SkeptikosSkeptikosGreenville, South Carolina USA26 Threads 1,005 Posts
Im2Qt4U44: Can anyone explain how these sites are supposed to work. Men put profiles up but never seem to make the initial contact. Even when you finally get their attention; have what seems to be positive chatting; they give you their email address; telephone numbers, etc. then the WEIRD starts. Suddenly, they just disappear. They don't tell you anything...not "Sorry, I don't think we have enough in common to continue." OR "I'm leaving on vacation for a month.". They continue to check their accounts so you know they're around but NOTHING! I understand that we don't owe each other anything except maybe common courtesy.

If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I'm just too old for this....BUT I think not!

Look forward to hearing from men and/or women.

from




Im2Qt4U44,

It happens to guys too. I felt pretty stupid just because I told a woman on the site that I liked her, and she said, "How can you like me? You don't even know me." I tried to write an explanatory note back to her, but she had blocked before the note got back to her.

It happens to both sexes.
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Mar 12, 2008 12:48 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
With me I really don't connect with girls because I feel that I have to get my stuff together......traveling would be a little hard for me but still would like to get to know people and be on this site.
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Mar 12, 2008 1:01 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Im2Qt4U44
Im2Qt4U44Im2Qt4U44Kingsville, Ontario Canada1 Threads 3 Posts
That's what I'm talking about. Would a polite "Goodbye and Good Luck" or "Thanks but I don't think so!" have taken that much time out of their day?

We should just consider that there are inconsiderate people on the sites just like in real life.....maybe even more so because we aren't actually 'face! to face' so to speak. I like to believe the best of people but sometimes it really is difficult.

Thanks for your response and I wish you the best. Someone will catch you! cheering

Take care!
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Mar 12, 2008 1:05 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
Im2Qt4U44: If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!!


The person who can figure that out and explain it in a way women can understand will be a gazillionaire!
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Mar 12, 2008 1:35 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
j_goose
j_goosej_goosenorthfield, Ohio USA74 Threads 5 Polls 2,057 Posts
Try just hanging out in the threads....I've made a TON of friends here, and people are meeting all the time.

gooooo with the floooooowww

peace
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Mar 12, 2008 7:37 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
codecatz4
codecatz4codecatz4Madison, Indiana USA8 Threads 43 Posts
Well the weird may start when they most likely found someone else to chat with and don't want to tell you. It happens but don't give up. I have learned a hard lesson chatting with guys not to take things to serious at first or take internet dating the answer to finding someone. Here you might get lucky on first try but maybe not. Hang in there and keep trying though Hey if its any consolation no one talks to me on here. I think I'm out casted or something.rolling on the floor laughing Good Luck My Friend.
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Mar 12, 2008 8:12 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Arcobaleno
ArcobalenoArcobalenosomewhere under the rainbow, Nordrhein-Westfalen Germany8 Threads 169 Posts
Im2Qt4U44: Can anyone explain how these sites are supposed to work. Men put profiles up but never seem to make the initial contact. Even when you finally get their attention; have what seems to be positive chatting; they give you their email address; telephone numbers, etc. then the WEIRD starts. Suddenly, they just disappear. They don't tell you anything...not "Sorry, I don't think we have enough in common to continue." OR "I'm leaving on vacation for a month.". They continue to check their accounts so you know they're around but NOTHING! I understand that we don't owe each other anything except maybe common courtesy.

If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I'm just too old for this....BUT I think not!

Look forward to hearing from men and/or women.

from


Hello from the other side of the world! Hey, don't give up easily, I actually met a man from this site last year, from New England, it really took all my courage, to meet him in person(because of the distance ), and that's really a problemsigh , but it was worth it, although it couldn't work for other reasons. At least you can get a friend. So be patient, my opinion, greetingswave
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Mar 12, 2008 8:27 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
classicrockgirl
classicrockgirlclassicrockgirlInverness, Florida USA15 Threads 2,871 Posts
Did date someone from here but didn't work out. But have found someone now that makes my world. So yes it can work. Just don't give up and hang in there!!!cheers
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Mar 12, 2008 5:25 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Zellarrone1
Zellarrone1Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK37 Threads 5 Polls 10,047 Posts
Im2Qt4U44: Can anyone explain how these sites are supposed to work. Men put profiles up but never seem to make the initial contact. Even when you finally get their attention; have what seems to be positive chatting; they give you their email address; telephone numbers, etc. then the WEIRD starts. Suddenly, they just disappear. They don't tell you anything...not "Sorry, I don't think we have enough in common to continue." OR "I'm leaving on vacation for a month.". They continue to check their accounts so you know they're around but NOTHING! I understand that we don't owe each other anything except maybe common courtesy.

If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I'm just too old for this....BUT I think not!

Look forward to hearing from men and/or women.

from
Nope, can't say I have this kind of experience at all. The men put their profiles up and make lots of initial contact with me via bombardment of my flowerbox or mail inbox. Only way I usually get rid of them is by either blocking them or hiding my profile for a whilecool
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Mar 12, 2008 5:51 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA307 Threads 9 Polls 24,994 Posts
some people have a real problem w/ reality *ahem*

being in here can help see the consistency (or non-lol)
and help you feel confident about talking to someone
or being certain stopping is the right thing.

if i were a man however-i would avoid you as your screen name is really intimidating
whether it belonged to a man or a woman

thumbs up

i think the same advice applies here as anywhere in life.

breathe
relax
haste makes waste

welcome to CS

and remember hon-youre never to old...wink
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Mar 12, 2008 8:23 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Im2Qt4U44
Im2Qt4U44Im2Qt4U44Kingsville, Ontario Canada1 Threads 3 Posts
mindfful: some people have a real problem w/ reality *ahem*

being in here can help see the consistency (or non-lol)
and help you feel confident about talking to someone
or being certain stopping is the right thing.

if i were a man however-i would avoid you as your screen name is really intimidating
whether it belonged to a man or a woman



i think the same advice applies here as anywhere in life.

breathe
relax
haste makes waste

welcome to CS

and remember hon-youre never to old...


I appreciate your input. I guess I thought if you put yourself on a social site that you would be inclined to be more open when it came to meeting someone. The face to face intimidation factor is missing. With respect to my screen name, I figured it was 'funny' because I did include a picture. Now tell me, the picture isn't intimidating is it? I totally agree with "breathe; relax; haste makes waste". I'm not looking for an immediate life partner....just the possibility....at least new friends! You're right also about never tooooooo old. wine

Thanks and take care! wink
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Mar 12, 2008 11:21 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Chele1964
Chele1964Chele1964Pittsboro, Indiana USA63 Threads 1 Polls 3,047 Posts
It is definitely true that men and women are both guilty. I don't quite understand why though. I do my best to tell someone I'm not interested if that is the case. I try to treat others with the respect that I expect....unfortunately, things have changed for the worst since I met my late fiance online. Back then, I had such a positive attitude about online dating....these days I don't have much faith it in at all. dunno sigh
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Mar 14, 2008 5:48 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
dreamAngel70
dreamAngel70dreamAngel70out side Kilkenny city, Kilkenny Ireland105 Threads 7 Polls 2,726 Posts
I get that offen! First they keen on me. Texting ect. Next they disappear. I think. They got a better ofter. Chatting.
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Mar 14, 2008 5:56 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK67 Threads 4 Polls 3,793 Posts
dreamAngel70: I get that offen! First they keen on me. Texting ect. Next they disappear. I think. They got a better ofter. Chatting.
thumbs up

Connecting is for wimps...mumbling
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Mar 14, 2008 6:05 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Ulimaroa
UlimaroaUlimaroaCologne, Nordrhein-Westfalen Germany150 Threads 41 Polls 8,210 Posts
Only here for fun...

no expectations whatsoever blushing
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Mar 14, 2008 6:31 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
E-Mailed with a couple of Ladies,nothing came of it.
Met someone from here recently,and was quite impressed.
E-Mailing and Flowering a bit fore and back.
Do I wish for it to go any further?
Most definitely.Am not getting any younger.
But the outcome is beyond my control.
I can't direct Fate,as no one else can on this Site.

But there is definitely the possibility to meet someone from this Site and might even develop a meaningful Relationship.
conversing wave
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Mar 14, 2008 6:44 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
bertrank89
bertrank89bertrank89xenia, Ohio USA1 Threads 7 Posts
if their interested in you you will get a response,I don't put much credence into someone unless they really seem intersted.Most people come to these sites because real life dating is too much pressure for them,so they feel more secure on a computer where they can control the contact. If it's meant to happen and someone really likes you it will ,just don't press it.(and don't get discouraged)
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Oct 17, 2009 11:56 AM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
Aquarina
AquarinaAquarinaChennai, Tamil Nadu India6 Threads 303 Posts
Im2Qt4U44: Can anyone explain how these sites are supposed to work. Men put profiles up but never seem to make the initial contact. Even when you finally get their attention; have what seems to be positive chatting; they give you their email address; telephone numbers, etc. then the WEIRD starts. Suddenly, they just disappear. They don't tell you anything...not "Sorry, I don't think we have enough in common to continue." OR "I'm leaving on vacation for a month.". They continue to check their accounts so you know they're around but NOTHING! I understand that we don't owe each other anything except maybe common courtesy.

If anyone can offer insight to the male psych, I'm listening!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I'm just too old for this....BUT I think not!

Look forward to hearing from men and/or women.

from


Hey,Just a snippet of my advice. anxiety is no good. Take time to learn lots through forums,blogs,top 10 lists and shop the time at CS.

Never Rush, take things too slow. Ther's nothing that you can force or can you be forced upon. for two to make a tango, observe and check if that works... Men & women face the same....

jus' relax and chill around.. you should certainly find someone intereting. It's always gr8 to wait for the responses and mails for it's much lady-like and men are the ones to ask out always.

Never be too easy, a little bit of fuss is ok 'cuz the right one alone would make a move which can help you prevent the wierdos.banana head banger cheering
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Oct 17, 2009 12:02 PM CST Is anyone really "connecting" out there?
it is not just men, go for months and have it happen tain't prettydunno
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