Fuming ( Archived) (56)

My ex-wife's boyfriend called me at 12:01 am Central Time to give me pointers on how to raise my daughter. Once I was in my car on the way over, it was suddenly a misunderstanding.

Am I over reacting?

Would anyone else get violently angry over something like that?




still

a little bit

I'd have given him hell on the phone....HE'S not her DAD....

NO you're her DAD he should mind his own dam business.

JMO

no you should of carried on driving and let your fists do the talking

I did...I said, "Where would you like to meet me?"

He says, "To be honest, it wouldn't bother me if I never saw you again. We don't need you."

I said, "It seems like you are seriously confused about your role in my daughter's life. I think we should get together and get this sorted out."

That's the short G rated version of it anyhow. He wasn't expecting me to answer the phone at midnight. He probably didn't know that I have been aching for an excuse to beat him ever since my daughter was trying to use his last name. Grrrrrrrrrrrr

I know that violence isn't the answer, but sometimes I get it wrong on purpose.

He sounds like a total d!@k. He's not even the step-dad, just a bf? He really is totally out of line. You had a right to get mad, and you didn't really carry out the violent response, so I'd say no, you're not over-reacting. Might want to speak with him when you're calm and tell him firmly that it's none of his business how you raise your child.

I was trying to get him to meet me somewhere. It wouldn't do to get arrested in front of my daughter.

But I know what you mean

I can definately see being very angry. but think telling him off on the phone would have been enough then hang up.
But to head over threr in your car says that you have a temper problem! Especially if you were willing to make it physical in front fo the kids!!!

This shows problems in your thinking process also.
might need to take a longer look at how you act with the kids.

But yes.. the guy is an assH(&e

i can relate on this subject seeing as tho i was in the same situation however... i was the daughter... I have seen my father get arrested in those situations and it was never good to see.. I admired my dad more for coming up and taking his stand when it came to me which is something u should be admired for...


I completely agree with he is just a boyfriend even if they were married being a step father is honestly to me just a title... not a role.... unless of course the father was never in there life to begin with..... U are Her father She is Ur Daughter....... No one should even be thinking about trying to get in the middle of that... Ur ex wife should have seen that and thought of her daughters well being in the whole situation it can be confusing for a child and she needs her fathers guidance not some guy whose with her mother...


Kudos to you