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Apr 18, 2006 12:20 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
Hi to all my new friends,

My almost 17 yr old daughter is having some major problems with her dad, so based on conversations I had with her very late into the night last night, conversations with others this morning, and some ensuing soul-searching, I have decided it's best if I not leave town after all, as planned.
(She and her sister are supposed to be staying with him and their stepmom while I'm gone, but I've decided I need to be available in case she needs a legal, safe place to go as a last-ditch alternative.)

So I'll see you on the forums over the next week after all...

Which is a great thing for me, cuz after only two weeks in CS, I know I'll find some great laughs and support, which I'm going to need very badly! :-D
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Apr 18, 2006 12:28 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
ninamoosha
ninamooshaninamooshaSt. Ignace, Michigan USA163 Threads 1,566 Posts
We only get one go round with our children...enjoy every moment... I too am happy my oldest son is off the Navey Destroyer and in the Navel linguestics school in Moneray, California....
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Apr 18, 2006 12:40 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Tumpa
TumpaTumpaottawa, Ontario Canada102 Threads 9,175 Posts
That is why Mom's are the best.....
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Apr 18, 2006 12:44 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
kenigsberg
kenigsbergkenigsbergkentville, Nova Scotia Canada16 Threads 1,412 Posts
You are great mom Meila! :^) ... Dbert needs you here too... so everything is Allright... stay with us

:^)
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Apr 18, 2006 12:46 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
Thanks hon. :-)
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Apr 18, 2006 12:51 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
arabella
arabellaarabellaNear Farmington, Maine USA110 Threads 2 Polls 7,814 Posts
Children come first no matter what!

Good for you!
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Apr 18, 2006 12:53 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
langleygirl
langleygirllangleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada75 Threads 1 Polls 10,318 Posts
Meilandra you are such a great mom and I'm glad that your daughter had the courage to open up and share her feelings and thoughts. Sometimes our kids are going through "major" things, but have a hard time opening up. Hopefully the issues will be resolved and that you will have an opportunity to reschedule your trip for a later time.
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Apr 18, 2006 1:02 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
TabooN
TabooNTabooNClaremont, USA53 Threads 17,244 Posts
Just want to say, I understand this...

My ex and his new wife have been a detriment to my sons mental health... I had no choice but to watch, and get sucked into thier sick life...

Safey first. Always. Anyhting else can be done from there...

Will think of you, and yours..
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Apr 18, 2006 1:18 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
dbert
dbertdbertParis, Ile-de-France France32 Threads 1,137 Posts
Vibes, sentiments and prayers have you at their center.
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Apr 18, 2006 1:39 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
prettywoman01
prettywoman01prettywoman01sharon grove, Kentucky USA21 Threads 8 Polls 515 Posts
hopeing everything will turn out to be alright...
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Apr 18, 2006 2:16 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
It was to my hometown, I'd been planning to go back at least once more this year anyway,so I'll just use the ticket then. :-)
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Apr 18, 2006 4:11 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Katine76
Katine76Katine76Moncton, Canada164 Threads 5,545 Posts
Awwww you are such a great mommy!! Your kids are very lucky to have you and its awesome how you are thinking of their well being ahead of your own.

Good Luck with everything and if you ever need to talk please feel free to send me a message k.

Hugs
Tracy :)
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Apr 18, 2006 4:29 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
Thanks everyone... I'm hoping for things to be resolved at least temporarily: if I can get him to change back the original custody schedule the way it was before I planned this trip, then I'll get them back this Friday for almost a whole week, which will hopefully defuse the situation temporarily while we work on a longer-term solution.
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May 7, 2006 7:00 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
Well, all this has turned out really well. :-) I've had my older daughter Sara for two weeks straight and we're having a blast... When I picked her up from her dad's on the 27th at 1 am, we promised each other we'd try really hard not to kill each other in the first month, and so far so good.

Her stress level has gone down so much that instead of the C's she's been getting in AP Calculus most of this year, she got 100% on 9 out of 12 quizzes the past two weeks, one hadn't been scored yet, and she can drop the three lowest scores!

She also popped out of bed yesterday morning at 6am to show up as a walk-in for the SAT's, so that's done. :-)

She turned 17 last week, and we had a big party here last night, everyone behaved, two girlfriends slept over, and when I got up for church, the entire party area downstairs was COMPLETELY cleaned up, vacuumed, recycling put out, and everything!

I LOVE having her here full time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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May 7, 2006 7:07 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
nwnstar
nwnstarnwnstarConway, USA53 Threads 8,442 Posts
yay! thanks...for filling us in...

and yeah, i can see how that would be awesome for you.
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May 7, 2006 7:09 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
It is, I haven't had kids full time since she was *7*... 10 years of being a half-time mom, physically.

This is heaven... :-)
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May 7, 2006 7:15 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
nwnstar
nwnstarnwnstarConway, USA53 Threads 8,442 Posts
i imagine so...and really a good thing.

er...by the way...i love you, anita...just thought i would throw that in. you are an awesome person...period.
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May 7, 2006 7:24 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
prettywoman01
prettywoman01prettywoman01sharon grove, Kentucky USA21 Threads 8 Polls 515 Posts
congradulations on everything going so well... :+)
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May 7, 2006 7:25 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Meilandra
MeilandraMeilandraEden Prairie, Minnesota USA38 Threads 1,810 Posts
Thanks sweetie, I am SO happy. My life is so much better since I made my soon-2-b-x leave, things are calm around here, peaceful, the kids are basically cooperative, it's amazing how fast the stress level dropped for all of us.

And high on my gratitude list is that I have found this site and some wonderful, caring, very interesting people. :-D
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Jun 6, 2006 6:15 PM CST My daughter's well-being...I'm staying in town
Your a very good mom. Some parents could care less. good luck and hope all is wellthumbs up
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