Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s a catchy phrase, but is it true? ( Archived) (117)

Just found this on my news page this morning..




These days, more and more people are meeting partners who live at the other end of a country – or even the other side of the world. With all that extra pressure, is it possible to keep long-distance relationships alive?


Long haul love
How does it happen? Well, with internet dating now one of the most popular way to meet new people, it’s increasingly likely that people will hook up with a partner who lives far away. And, increasingly, couples already in a committed relationship are under pressure from work to move or to spend periods of time away from home travelling. These couples are more likely to sustain their relationship because the foundations are already sound. But still, it’s a strain, especially if children are involved.

How to keep the magic alive

Communication
It’s important for a couple to be scrupulously honest, to be able to express anxieties and to get reassurance. You are in this together.



Shared vision
Both parties have to be really clear about why the relationship is important and long-term goals. Without this transparency, and an appreciation of shared goals and the long-term view, the relationship is less likely to last.

Contact
Leaving the news and intimacy to your next visit can place a burden on the relationship. Don’t plan to much for the visit - make sure you have proper downtime to relax. In between visits, sending short daily texts and emails and talking on a web cam can keep the relationship alive. Sending little gifts through the post can help keep the relationship feeling special and close.


Trust
This is the biggest issue for long-distance relationships. You both need to be incredibly aware of the unique pressure on the relationship. Acceptance contributes towards making trust work in this situation. It’s not possible to know what your long-distance partner is doing 24/7, but think of it this way, if you lived together – would you necessarily know any more about what goes on in their day? It’s important to retain perspective.


Anticipation
The benefit of long-distance love is sweet-sour. The honeymoon period of a relationship is likely to last much longer because there is a greater sense of anticipation leading up to a visit. The downside is that often anticipation can turn to anti-climax. Couples need to accept this possibility and not take it personally.

also a saying,, absence makes the heart wander!!

haha yeah good point

And also "out of sight, out of mind"

Ooerr yeah.. that's a good point too.

Absence does make the heart fonder but ONLY in case of a possible relationship.

Personally, i dont mind find myself falling in love over and over again. I might be attracted for various reasons but love cant happen repeatedly .. rather it would be difficult for me.

So , distance is not that much of an issue if we are eventually going to be together and do get to spend time every once in a while.

Well , i am conventional, i guess.

hellooo cllarrieee ..

If you can't be with the one you love...
Love the one you're with...

Seriously though gal if it is meant to be it will endure long distance, mountians and the ocenas depth...
It is someitmes easier to build up a fantasy with someone so far away and sometimes it is exactly that, that makes it so appealing...

Not buying it personally.... it may work for some... I have had no luck with the long distance thing... just found out my friends fiance called off the wedding over the phone from another state while at school.... so I am batting 1.000 in the it doesn't work catagory.... personal experiances anyway

How about "Idle hands are the Devil's workshop"!! People want companionship, and I believe the best intentions fail...if needs aren't being met! .............................JMO, of course