What is a Player.... (88)
Hi Aries 
i think that is quite an accurate description. From my experience they are really good at generally being Mr/MRS Popularity
i think that is quite an accurate description. From my experience they are really good at generally being Mr/MRS Popularity------ This thread is Archived ------
dont play with people
it makes me
it makes me
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morganlee: Hi Aries i think that is quite an accurate description. From my experience they are really good at generally being Mr/MRS Popularity
.... hiya.. yeah I thought it was spot on... 
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A player is someone who like to play games.Games are good source of enjoyment. Some people like to play games just because of victory. They like just to win and be the best. However, other kind of people likes to take part in games for the competition and challenge.Life is full of examples of winning or losing a game. In fact the life is a game itself.
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gangel: A player is someone who like to play games.Games are good source of enjoyment. Some people like to play games just because of victory. They like just to win and be the best. However, other kind of people likes to take part in games for the competition and challenge.Life is full of examples of winning or losing a game. In fact the life is a game itself.
think you have a point some people like the 'chase', pretty crule to mess with people's emotions for amusement jmo------ This thread is Archived ------
Some people are actually nasty and dont care about the after effects on others so they are dishonest and play.
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
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typo cruel
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Chess is a good game 
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riyablossom: Some people are actually nasty and dont care about the after effects on others so they are dishonest and play.
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
How would one distinguish between the two.. leaving aside that the net effect is the same to the person on the receiving end.. how does one differentiate...
Is the 'innocent' 'player' say one who sees and acknowledges that it is wrong and makes an effort to change his/her ways in future.. or is it the case that the 'innocent' 'player' just simply cannot see the consequences of his actions by reason of they being at a subconcious level...
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I think your first example of 'innocent player ' is possible, but to become a 'serial player' and not listen because they don't want to accept there actions hurt others is wrong .
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riyablossom: Some people are actually nasty and dont care about the after effects on others so they are dishonest and play.
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
While some are just having fun at anybody's expense.
Some as Gangel says like the victory thing.
While there do exist some who might be confused or a little lost in life and land up looking like players though they have no such intention in reality.
JMO
It may be tricky to distinguish between a player and an ordinary person trying to find what/who, fits them best on the internet (dating sites).
If two people aren't exclusive, then they are not playing each other, when they communicate or show interest in others.
However, it may also be difficult to ascertain the 'real story', if we don't know what they are saying in private.
For instance, A man may come on here and say he hasn't played a certain woman, but we don't know if he did actually make promises in the background.
Trust between people/friends, should curb this kind of situations.
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morganlee: I think your first example of 'innocent player ' is possible, but to become a 'serial player' and not listen because they don't want to accept there actions hurt others is wrong .
In my view.. this is central to distinguishing between the 'innocent' and not so innocent... we all f*ck up and we all make mistakes.. god knows I have made several in my time.. someone who goes on to do the same again in the knowledge that he/she has hurt someone before.. can that person be described as innocent?.. or should we make allowance for the fact that maybe they are on a subconcious level incapable of understanding the emotions of other people
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Irishman1: Chess is a good game
really?
always found it quiet boring hey p
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lusciousmile: It may be tricky to distinguish between a player and an ordinary person trying to find what/who, fits them best on the internet (dating sites).
If two people aren't exclusive, then they are not playing each other, when they communicate or show interest in others.
However, it may also be difficult to ascertain the 'real story', if we don't know what they are saying in private.
For instance, A man may come on here and say he hasn't played a certain woman, but we don't know if he did actually make promises in the background.
Trust between people/friends, should curb this kind of situations.
If two people aren't exclusive, then they are not playing each other, when they communicate or show interest in others.
However, it may also be difficult to ascertain the 'real story', if we don't know what they are saying in private.
For instance, A man may come on here and say he hasn't played a certain woman, but we don't know if he did actually make promises in the background.
Trust between people/friends, should curb this kind of situations.
You make a valid point.. I know that when I was in London... I engaged in American style dating for a while.. i.e. dating several people.. in that case though it WAS very much the getting to know you phase with all these people.. there were never any promises, no intimacy, and they were all very short lived.. bit like trying on shoes for size.. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.. as soon as I found Al (my ex) it was monogamy all the way for the next 3 years..
Where does it cross the line though.. what would have turned my above example into playing?
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Hi E yes i find it very interesting
yes i find it very interesting emc_eile: really? always found it quiet boring
hey p
hey p
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sorry took me this long to read all the thread
i think innocent or not it all depends on how its handled once people get hurt. like you said we can all f*ck up and make mistakes but i like to think any i have made i have tried to make right on realization (not that ive ever played anyone btw)
even the 'innocent player' or first-timer the doesn't try to make ammends if they have caused hurt cannot be excused even if they dont go on to do it again.
i think innocent or not it all depends on how its handled once people get hurt. like you said we can all f*ck up and make mistakes but i like to think any i have made i have tried to make right on realization (not that ive ever played anyone btw)
even the 'innocent player' or first-timer the doesn't try to make ammends if they have caused hurt cannot be excused even if they dont go on to do it again.
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Irishman1: Hi E yes i find it very interesting
mmmmmmm maybe if i knew how to play
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Aries01: You make a valid point.. I know that when I was in London... I engaged in American style dating for a while.. i.e. dating several people.. in that case though it WAS very much the getting to know you phase with all these people.. there were never any promises, no intimacy, and they were all very short lived.. bit like trying on shoes for size.. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.. as soon as I found Al (my ex) it was monogamy all the way for the next 3 years..
Where does it cross the line though.. what would have turned my above example into playing?
Where does it cross the line though.. what would have turned my above example into playing?
Hi girl.
I think it would be highly important to tell a person you're seeing, (casual or without attachments yet), that you are also seeing, talking, or 'interested' in other people.
Think of it this way. You may have influenced some decisions they made regarding their lives, because of 'what' they thought they had with you, ie. not seeing other people on the side as well.. Now, keeping any information from them, is simply, selfish!!!
When people ignore to make some of these important details known, it only creeps up on them and they definately don't look good in the end.
Honesty: that's the key to any kind of relationship, be it casual or exclusive. You've respected them enough to give them a chance to be in your life, the least you should do, is be straight with them.
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It takes a while to learn,and also you need a lot of patience,but once you get check mate, you know you have won
emc_eile: mmmmmmm maybe if i knew how to play
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One poster (at the time)posted the following
"A Player will select a "target" if you like, perhaps someone who appears too accommodating, naive, gullible or possibly vulnerable for some reason. They will persuade the other person that they are really keen and only interested in them, noone else, in an attempt to give the impression to the other person that a more meaningful relationship will be on the cards. There may be attention paid in the Forums but more often than not it goes on behind the scenes, as the Player wouldn't really want anyone else to be aware, they want to play several at once, don't they?? Its all a big ego-boost, one-upmanship and is designed to be misleading. When rumbled or the novelty wears off, and the one played outlives their usefulness, they move on to someone else. It is deceitful, unfair and hurtful to those who are on the receiving end.
Flirting is overt, playing is covert!!"
Which I thought to be quite accurate..
What are ur views