¿Monogamy? (91)
we are not animals although we have some animal instincts we are perfectly capable of controling them also some animals spend all their live with their mate
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uk_man_31: we are not animals although we have some animal instincts we are perfectly capable of controling them also some animals spend all their live with their mate
The ONLY species that is WHOLLY and ABSOLUTELY monogamous is an intestinal worm that attaches itself to it's mate.
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Sad but true , we live in a world where certain things or ideas are considered as norms , ethical and good. So, when one steps out of those norms , it is considered otherwise and hence the upholding of such views.
I am not saying it is not good to have norms etc. But just an observation on how society functions. Mainly cos i think monogamy should come as an expression of commitment from within and not be the mere adherence of society's rules.
People undoubtedly will loose the spark and get bored after a while in a marriage or a relationhip which has been for years but the love and desire to be with this person keeps one from going astray.
As for the spark , it can be revived while one continues to stay faithful .
I am not saying it is not good to have norms etc. But just an observation on how society functions. Mainly cos i think monogamy should come as an expression of commitment from within and not be the mere adherence of society's rules.
People undoubtedly will loose the spark and get bored after a while in a marriage or a relationhip which has been for years but the love and desire to be with this person keeps one from going astray.
As for the spark , it can be revived while one continues to stay faithful .
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Cheating is a form of animal behavior in my opinion, what seperates humans and animals are the fact that animals mate for reproduction, no inuendos no lies no games just a ritual of drawing their intended mates, and yes some do mate for life actually quiet a few do but humans enter with the ability to harm others, normally their significant other by lies games, lack of respect as a human against another human and so on, to me I have learned that the relationship I finally do agree on, my mr.right, I will be nurturing it throughout, in many ways but especially the things that will bring us together to start with,I believe that once a couple decides to go through life they quit doing what they used to do and start doing things they didn't used to do,ohhh improper usage of words, damn I am rattling again, oops
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riyablossom: Sad but true , we live in a world where certain things or ideas are considered as norms , ethical and good. So, when one steps out of those norms , it is considered otherwise and hence the upholding of such views.
I am not saying it is not good to have norms etc. But just an observation on how society functions. Mainly cos i think monogamy should come as an expression of commitment from within and not be the mere adherence of society's rules.
People undoubtedly will loose the spark and get bored after a while in a marriage or a relationhip which has been for years but the love and desire to be with this person keeps one from going astray.
As for the spark , it can be revived while one continues to stay faithful .
I am not saying it is not good to have norms etc. But just an observation on how society functions. Mainly cos i think monogamy should come as an expression of commitment from within and not be the mere adherence of society's rules.
People undoubtedly will loose the spark and get bored after a while in a marriage or a relationhip which has been for years but the love and desire to be with this person keeps one from going astray.
As for the spark , it can be revived while one continues to stay faithful .
I abso-loot-leee agree with you WeeYa
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KingLeo: The ONLY species that is WHOLLY and ABSOLUTELY monogamous is an intestinal worm that attaches itself to it's mate.
Don't go saying that too much around here.. you maybe single longer than you had hoped.
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Claayer: I abso-loot-leee agree with you WeeYa
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riyablossom: am feeling today so i shall be and here's for you ...
Oooweee... fanks!
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Claayer: Don't go saying that too much around here.. you maybe single longer than you had hoped.
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Claayer: Don't go saying that too much around here.. you maybe single longer than you had hoped.
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It just kind of looks like you are not expecting to be monogamous
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Claayer: It just kind of looks like you are not expecting to be monogamous
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Claayer: It just kind of looks like you are not expecting to be monogamous
I am it's just that it seems like too many people around me and across the world aren't looking for it.
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Yanno.. I think I must be part intestinal worm then.. because I know for a FACT I will never cheat. It has NEVER crossed my mind in any relationship I have ever been in.
If I'm not happy in a relationship.. I will try to fix it.. or end it... but I wouldn't cheat.
and you know also.. it's not ONLY because of what it would do to the other person.. and not only what it would do to our relationship.. but also because of what it would do to me.. and my conscience.
I LIKE having a squeaky clean track record and I intend to keep it that way.
For MY conscience. I will never be on of those statistics.
If people want to sleep around.. GREAT! I reeeeally have no problem with that at all..
But stay single.
If I'm not happy in a relationship.. I will try to fix it.. or end it... but I wouldn't cheat.
and you know also.. it's not ONLY because of what it would do to the other person.. and not only what it would do to our relationship.. but also because of what it would do to me.. and my conscience.
I LIKE having a squeaky clean track record and I intend to keep it that way.
For MY conscience. I will never be on of those statistics.
If people want to sleep around.. GREAT! I reeeeally have no problem with that at all..
But stay single.
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uk_man_31: we are not animals although we have some animal instincts we are perfectly capable of controling them also some animals spend all their live with their mate
Very true........penguin's do this.....
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There are still cultures where monogamy is not the rule for humans. Monogamy has come about for humans through religion and society. It is my preference, but how much of that is learned behaviour and how much is natural to humans? Swans and wolves also mate for life and often don't take another partner even after the death of their mate. So personally I don't feel that it's what "separates us from the animals". You've brought up a good subject and my own personal feeling is that possibly it's not in human kind to be monogamous for long periods of time, but our learned behaviour drives us to try to find that one true mate. Nature vs. Nurture? I really don't know.
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Claayer: Yanno.. I think I must be part intestinal worm then.. because I know for a FACT I will never cheat. It has NEVER crossed my mind in any relationship I have ever been in.
If I'm not happy in a relationship.. I will try to fix it.. or end it... but I wouldn't cheat.
and you know also.. it's not ONLY because of what it would do to the other person.. and not only what it would do to our relationship.. but also because of what it would do to me .. and my conscience.
I LIKE having a squeaky clean track record and I intend to keep it that way.
For MY conscience. I will never be on of those statistics.
If I'm not happy in a relationship.. I will try to fix it.. or end it... but I wouldn't cheat.
and you know also.. it's not ONLY because of what it would do to the other person.. and not only what it would do to our relationship.. but also because of what it would do to me .. and my conscience.
I LIKE having a squeaky clean track record and I intend to keep it that way.
For MY conscience. I will never be on of those statistics.
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KingLeo: The ONLY species that is WHOLLY and ABSOLUTELY monogamous is an intestinal worm that attaches itself to it's mate.
Dont most species attach themselves to their mate.......at least that's what I think happened to me........
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irishlass45: Cheating is a form of animal behavior in my opinion, what seperates humans and animals are the fact that animals mate for reproduction, no inuendos no lies no games just a ritual of drawing their intended mates, and yes some do mate for life actually quiet a few do but humans enter with the ability to harm others, normally their significant other by lies games, lack of respect as a human against another human and so on, to me I have learned that the relationship I finally do agree on, my mr.right, I will be nurturing it throughout, in many ways but especially the things that will bring us together to start with,I believe that once a couple decides to go through life they quit doing what they used to do and start doing things they didn't used to do,ohhh improper usage of words, damn I am rattling again, oops
Humans mate for reproduction......
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Of course some of it has to do with that people think/feel that they are not getting all that they desire from their marriage but another part of it is supposedly that as creatures we are not meant to copulate with just one mate and may often feel driven or compelled to act on some primal impulse.
Many married individuals admit they have had numerous occassions of when they have questioned their marriage.
¿So why do we so idolize the desire for romantics and monogamous relationships?