Relationship Fears (28)
sxc666: We all seem to talk about what we are looking for, and what we want etc.But what are our fears? What holds you back sometimes when someone becomes close.Mine is simple, being Hurt. I hate hurt and hate hurting people.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
Yes - the hurt and not wanting to hurt thing is a huge consideration for me also although I feel one which will make "the " connection when it comes stronger
Okay I'll try and be serious for once.
This sounds crazy but one of my relationship fears would be as I get older I think to myself that somehow my sense of humor and my inner child is judge as immaturity. I face this fear most when I date women older than me.
This sounds crazy but one of my relationship fears would be as I get older I think to myself that somehow my sense of humor and my inner child is judge as immaturity. I face this fear most when I date women older than me.
I would have to say not being accepted for who i was, rejection and finding out that the one your with isnt as nice a person as they claim to be and treat you like crap......been there done that and hated in.
Also, more so then anything else lossing that special person you care about at some point in time again been there and done that dont want to go through that again in a hurry, hurts way to much.
Also, more so then anything else lossing that special person you care about at some point in time again been there and done that dont want to go through that again in a hurry, hurts way to much.
For me i think its the fear of someone trying to change me ,alter my veiws or not allowing me to just be myself , Ide like to be loved for exactly who i am today the same person ive always been & will always be .....
Twodawgz: Okay I'll try and be serious for once.This sounds crazy but one of my relationship fears would be as I get older I think to myself that somehow my sense of humor and my inner child is judge as immaturity. I face this fear most when I date women older than me.
Wow to me a sense of humous is certainly a must. Being able to laugh at and with each other can only be a positive in my opinion.
I woudn't change that, Or want it to be changed.
Artythis: I would have to say not being accepted for who i was, rejection and finding out that the one your with isnt as nice a person as they claim to be and treat you like crap......been there done that and hated in.
Also, more so then anything else lossing that special person you care about at some point in time again been there and done that dont want to go through that again in a hurry, hurts way to much.
Also, more so then anything else lossing that special person you care about at some point in time again been there and done that dont want to go through that again in a hurry, hurts way to much.
In my opinion we can only be ourselves and I think as we grow we understand the need to do this more. If a person is unwilling to accept who you are from the start, I dont believe the relationship is worth pursuing.
Losing a love certainly does hurt Arty and I think we all can understand that.
kizzy27: For me i think its the fear of someone trying to change me ,alter my veiws or not allowing me to just be myself , Ide like to be loved for exactly who i am today the same person ive always been & will always be .....
Definatley it always surprises me what a wonderful person they say you are. Then when you become a couple, they seem to want to change the things that attracted you to them in the first place.
No changes for me I am who I am.
I find it impossible to let a woman into my family. I'm a single parent with two boys and my fear is that the boys will become attached to this person only to be hurt if the relationship doesn't work out. I have a sense of it being doomed before I start so I don't bother.
kismat: I find it impossible to let a woman into my family. I'm a single parent with two boys and my fear is that the boys will become attached to this person only to be hurt if the relationship doesn't work out. I have a sense of it being doomed before I start so I don't bother.
Oh Yes Kismat I totally agree. Children play a major role. If the children cannot get on with the new partner the relationship is doomed before it really even began.
Not only that you have to be weary about who you let into your childrens lives. And if the relationship doesn't work they hurt just as much as what we do.
It makes it very hard.
Still kids first always, if that means being alone so be it.
Common problems in a relationship are Fear of Intimacy, Fear of Change, & Fear of Rejection.
Even as a child we fear losing our unique selves and sometimes we unknowingly carry this through out lives and into our relationships.
My biggest fear is not rejection but to be appreciated.....it's in my personality and I give the same.
I think a lot of relationships fail because people don't really appreciate what they have when they are together. There is always times when partners disagree, this is inevitable. And the hurt is inevitable too.
I spoke to an old guy that had been married for over 60 years. I asked him, how did you stay married all that time? did you not argue? he said yes we did most days, but we never finished the day without making up.
You need to be able to relate to your partner on all levels, from money matters to love.
I don't expect the world just a real 50/50 1 on 1 trust relationship....
I dont want dishonesty cause that is the main ingredient for a hurt relationship.....
JMO
Even as a child we fear losing our unique selves and sometimes we unknowingly carry this through out lives and into our relationships.
My biggest fear is not rejection but to be appreciated.....it's in my personality and I give the same.
I think a lot of relationships fail because people don't really appreciate what they have when they are together. There is always times when partners disagree, this is inevitable. And the hurt is inevitable too.
I spoke to an old guy that had been married for over 60 years. I asked him, how did you stay married all that time? did you not argue? he said yes we did most days, but we never finished the day without making up.
You need to be able to relate to your partner on all levels, from money matters to love.
I don't expect the world just a real 50/50 1 on 1 trust relationship....
I dont want dishonesty cause that is the main ingredient for a hurt relationship.....
JMO
Jimi123499: Common problems in a relationship are Fear of Intimacy, Fear of Change, & Fear of Rejection.
Even as a child we fear losing our unique selves and sometimes we unknowingly carry this through out lives and into our relationships.
My biggest fear is not rejection but to be appreciated.....it's in my personality and I give the same.
I think a lot of relationships fail because people don't really appreciate what they have when they are together. There is always times when partners disagree, this is inevitable. And the hurt is inevitable too.
I spoke to an old guy that had been married for over 60 years. I asked him, how did you stay married all that time? did you not argue? he said yes we did most days, but we never finished the day without making up.
You need to be able to relate to your partner on all levels, from money matters to love.
I don't expect the world just a real 50/50 1 on 1 trust relationship....
I dont want dishonesty cause that is the main ingredient for a hurt relationship.....
JMO
Even as a child we fear losing our unique selves and sometimes we unknowingly carry this through out lives and into our relationships.
My biggest fear is not rejection but to be appreciated.....it's in my personality and I give the same.
I think a lot of relationships fail because people don't really appreciate what they have when they are together. There is always times when partners disagree, this is inevitable. And the hurt is inevitable too.
I spoke to an old guy that had been married for over 60 years. I asked him, how did you stay married all that time? did you not argue? he said yes we did most days, but we never finished the day without making up.
You need to be able to relate to your partner on all levels, from money matters to love.
I don't expect the world just a real 50/50 1 on 1 trust relationship....
I dont want dishonesty cause that is the main ingredient for a hurt relationship.....
JMO
I reckon only children get hurt and it can stay with them for a life time. If a relationship doesn't work it doesn't work.
I remember what your talking about but just live the moment and move on, don't take it to seriously cause no one gets out alive.
I will have a Brazillian
Hey stop copyin me !! lol
Hey stop copyin me !! lol
sxc666: We all seem to talk about what we are looking for, and what we want etc.But what are our fears? What holds you back sometimes when someone becomes close.Mine is simple, being Hurt. I hate hurt and hate hurting people.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
The only guy I loved was when I was 19 and he died so I guess my worse fear would be getting close to someone and losing them....
I have had relationships since but none quite as intense as what I once had. I do strive for that again but I prefer to spend my life at the moment with commitments to working with drug addicts, travelling and friendships...
I have had relationships since but none quite as intense as what I once had. I do strive for that again but I prefer to spend my life at the moment with commitments to working with drug addicts, travelling and friendships...
Zarah: The only guy I loved was when I was 19 and he died so I guess my worse fear would be getting close to someone and losing them....
I have had relationships since but none quite as intense as what I once had. I do strive for that again but I prefer to spend my life at the moment with commitments to working with drug addicts, travelling and friendships...
I have had relationships since but none quite as intense as what I once had. I do strive for that again but I prefer to spend my life at the moment with commitments to working with drug addicts, travelling and friendships...
sxc666: We all seem to talk about what we are looking for, and what we want etc.But what are our fears? What holds you back sometimes when someone becomes close.Mine is simple, being Hurt. I hate hurt and hate hurting people.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
Id have to agree. My biggest fear is being hurt badly again. Also, men judging a book by its cover - rather than seeing the real me. I've struck some really shallow men in my life...
Not too keen on being cheated on again either for that matter....
sxc666: We all seem to talk about what we are looking for, and what we want etc.But what are our fears? What holds you back sometimes when someone becomes close.Mine is simple, being Hurt. I hate hurt and hate hurting people.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.
Trust is a big thing for me. If you don't have trust in relationships then u have nothing to begin with. Trust is a big foundation of a relationship. To trust your partner wholly can make the relationship long lasting and whole. :-)
No expert though lol
Is there a problem trusting your partner or your partner trusting you? 
kismat: Is there a problem trusting your partner or your partner trusting you?
There shouldn't be a problem either way. If there is something is wrong. JMO
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But what are our fears? What holds you back sometimes when someone becomes close.
Mine is simple, being Hurt. I hate hurt and hate hurting people.
I am at a stage in my life where I won't just settle for anybody.
They need to connect with me on a lot of levels.
We all fear, be honest.
So let's hear the variety of fears or apprehensions.