Please help us.. My cousin needs love advice and I can't help (19)
tryandcatchme72: To give my opinion, and it is only that. I would say if I were in your shoes I would not give up or risk what I feel for my bf, for somthing that is only curiosity. If you feel more then that for the other guy that makes a little diferent.
But not by much. Take one word of advice from some one who learned the hard way. You really don't know what you have until you loose it.
But not by much. Take one word of advice from some one who learned the hard way. You really don't know what you have until you loose it.
Thanks, thats the best answer she's gotten all day read some of them on Yahoo Answers and they were awful..
And I'm in no position to give love advice. But i figured you guys have more life experience.
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Well given that your very young and started to date young...maybe taking time off from your relationship to date other people is not a bad idea....That gives you time to explore your feelings and decide decide from there....If you were older I would say no...BUT you're too young to settle yourself down with just one person....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Well given that your very young and started to date young...maybe taking time off from your relationship to date other people is not a bad idea....That gives you time to explore your feelings and decide decide from there....If you were older I would say no...BUT you're too young to settle yourself down with just one person....
Hugs does have some good suggestions there! It is a hard call really I guess it boils down to how strong your feelings are for the bf.
I would not take a chance on loosing someone you feel very strongly about. But if you don't feel that strongly I agree with Hugs completely.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Well given that your very young and started to date young...maybe taking time off from your relationship to date other people is not a bad idea....That gives you time to explore your feelings and decide decide from there....If you were older I would say no...BUT you're too young to settle yourself down with just one person....
Good advice.
Your turning out to be alright, after all.
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drivenbysound: Good advice.
Your turning out to be alright, after all.
Your turning out to be alright, after all.
Yeah well you won't say that once ya get to know me better!!!!!!!!!
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yeah well you won't say that once ya get to know me better!!!!!!!!!
Hehe..
I love that little guy.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Well given that your very young and started to date young...maybe taking time off from your relationship to date other people is not a bad idea....That gives you time to explore your feelings and decide decide from there....If you were older I would say no...BUT you're too young to settle yourself down with just one person....
Yepster
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tryandcatchme72: To give my opinion, and it is only that. I would say if I were in your shoes I would not give up or risk what I feel for my bf, for somthing that is only curiosity. If you feel more then that for the other guy that makes a little diferent.
But not by much. Take one word of advice from some one who learned the hard way. You really don't know what you have until you loose it.
But not by much. Take one word of advice from some one who learned the hard way. You really don't know what you have until you loose it.
Yeah I agree it all comes down to WHAT she feels for her boyfriend... if she genuinely loves him and sees a future with him.. then no.. definitely not worth it.. she sounds like a genuinely nice girl as well.. so I imagine if she did stray it would eat her up.. definitely not worth that.. JMO
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Aries01: Yeah I agree it all comes down to WHAT she feels for her boyfriend... if she genuinely loves him and sees a future with him.. then no.. definitely not worth it.. she sounds like a genuinely nice girl as well.. so I imagine if she did stray it would eat her up.. definitely not worth that.. JMO
I would have to agree with Aries and Try on this one having learned the hard way myself many many eons ago....
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Solitarius: I would have to agree with Aries and Try on this one having learned the hard way myself many many eons ago....
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This is JMO, but....
I think what she really needs to do is step out of the picture and look at it from all perspectives. Apparently this Joe guy does like her, and seems to have his life together. This guy that she's been dating seems to have no goals for himself except to date her for the rest of his life. She needs to do what's best for her. She needs to decide what she wants in life in general, and then go from there.
Fortunately, but unfortunately I know how she feels. I've been there myself. I've regretted never exploring the relationship. We're still friends to this day and he's been married now for I think somewhere around 15 years. We still ask each other what might have happened if we had ever had a relationship, but neither of us really know. I just know that it just wasn't meant to happen for what ever reason.
Tell her not to agonize over it...Write it down, look at the pros and cons of it all with each on separately and don't combine the two guys or compare them to one another. Tell her to look at it as though she has an interest in each of them and they have both asked her out and now she has to make a decision on which one she wants to go out with. Leave out the feelings and the current/past relationship, looking at it as a new venture into unknown territory.
I think what she really needs to do is step out of the picture and look at it from all perspectives. Apparently this Joe guy does like her, and seems to have his life together. This guy that she's been dating seems to have no goals for himself except to date her for the rest of his life. She needs to do what's best for her. She needs to decide what she wants in life in general, and then go from there.
Fortunately, but unfortunately I know how she feels. I've been there myself. I've regretted never exploring the relationship. We're still friends to this day and he's been married now for I think somewhere around 15 years. We still ask each other what might have happened if we had ever had a relationship, but neither of us really know. I just know that it just wasn't meant to happen for what ever reason.
Tell her not to agonize over it...Write it down, look at the pros and cons of it all with each on separately and don't combine the two guys or compare them to one another. Tell her to look at it as though she has an interest in each of them and they have both asked her out and now she has to make a decision on which one she wants to go out with. Leave out the feelings and the current/past relationship, looking at it as a new venture into unknown territory.
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Aries01: Hiya Sol... long time no see.. how r ya doing???
I am doing okay....I really am just been busy a lot lately. How have you been? Email me.
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Answered it yourself!
In response to: but i have a feeling if i ever did leave my bf for this guy it wouldn't last long and i just threw a almost 4 year relationship down the toilet.
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Solitarius: I am doing okay....I really am just been busy a lot lately. How have you been? Email me.
Is late now
.... but will do 
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rasgumby: Answered it yourself!
exactly, and if you have real feelings for your bf then why risk it.
And you have to remember this other guy there is nothing saying that once he wins over that is not all he wanted.
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Thanks You guys!! I knew you guys would be great answer givers..
I will be sure to tell her..
You guys are the best
Love you
I will be sure to tell her..
You guys are the best
Love you
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You are not being ridiculous at all. You are young and have only been with this one boy. I may be older than your mother, but I can remember being your age. You've already made your decision whether you know it or not! You've said you dated your boyfriend for 4 years. He doesn't treat you the way you would like to be treated, it doesn't seem as though you really enjoy being with him, it's a habit. You're afraid of throwing away a 4-year relationship. This is not a relationship. Is this all you want for yourself for the rest of your life? Trust me when I say, you will not be the same person when you are 30 as you were when you were 15 and met this boy. You've aleady noticed that Joe has dreams and goals. Are they also dreams you have? How about your boyfried? I'll bet he's never shared with you what he wants to be when he grows up! Life is so short, think for yourself. You are not happy now, so what would be so terrible if you took the chance and found out Joe doesn't make you happy either? It just puts you closer to what will make you happy. Never settle!! Stay in college and work hard for your degree, make friends, smile alot (especially when you don't feel like it!). Concentrate on you. What do you bring to others? Always remember, if a guy tries to hold you back or is not encouraging you to be you, he's not in love with you. I wish you happiness and big dreams!
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This may not be the best place to ack for advice
For some reason we are all single here!
So we must have done something wrong along the way
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But not by much. Take one word of advice from some one who learned the hard way. You really don't know what you have until you loose it.