its wrecking my head... ( Archived) (23)

hey, im just lookin for some advice, ill go from the start and try keep it as short as possible, but anyways, about 3 months ago me and this girl i reall ylike were gonna get together, but she decided to go back to her boyfriend because she has this medical thing and didnt wanna put pressure on me, and there was a slight distance problem too.. so i spent a while mopin about then 2 weeks later i was out with friends and met this chick, and we have loads in common and stuff, and she is attractive and all and ive been goin out with since 3 weeks ago, but then the girl that turned me down first text me last week sayin she broke up with the ex because he wants to take breaks from the relatonship everytime he travels away.. but she said she has been cryin herself to sleep everynight over what she did to me, and she was gettin kinda suicidal and stuff, and ever since then i cant stop thinking of her.. ive told her im with someone and she says its ok, but im starting to realise that i feel something more for the first girl rather than the girl im with now..

and this is the short version of the story!!

Tough situation. If you care about the girl that you are with now, I would stay with her. The gal from three months ago didn't exactly jump at the chance to be with you in the first place, only now this much later. She doesn't sound very stable to me. And playing the suicide trump card just lends to the impression that she is unstable. That's just not cool. That is a rotten manipulation. Wasn't dying to see you three months ago, was she? Just now when she wants to get her way and you are unavailable. Pfffft.

Keep the new gal.

Dont let any female use you..if she had wanted you she would NEVER have gone back to her ex....you are hopefully only thinking about what you couldnt have at the time (one that went back to ex)she could do it again and you might be giving up an attractive nice girlthats so right for you....the grass isnt always greener..R.

Well, the suicide angle can work if you have co-dependency issues.

Suicidal you said? No








Sorry, thought i'd make it brief.

She sounds like a manipulator.. the worst kind of person.. trust me... run a mile!!! and don't ever look back... I agree with the above post

I've seen this suicide played, not nice, had it played on me, she "faked" a suicide and later sat with a doctor who spent two hours explaining to me that the person concerned would need a lifetime of chemical treatment and Psychological counseling.

It is very difficult to see this when you are close to someone and also difficult to get them out of your head afterwards.

Best of luck with the girl you are with now

I think this is a case of the girl three months ago, wanting what she could have had, but chose not too. Once she gets what she wan'ts she won't want it anymore.

Don't ask me to repeat that

It seems to me a case of her out to prove that she can get you. Once she has you, she will throw you back.

Stay with the one you are with, the one that cares.

I think she is playing the emotinonal thing and sitting back to prounce on her prey.


JMO of course.

But hey I'm PMTing so only take half the advice at the moment.