who thinks its smart to be friends before lovers (18)
smiylley17Cortland, New York USA42 Threads 717 Postslong term friends first what do you think?
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Being friends first can be great, but if you're friends for a long time, and things change between you, what happens if it doesn't work out? Can you go back to being JUST friends? I don't think it will ever be the way it was. Just a thought.
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and you're welcome "Smiylley"
Wings ;-)
Wings ;-)
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so you dont believe in friends with benefits
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yea its tricky it does work for some after awhile someone always starts to get feelings and expect more
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Physical offline that is....I have had "relations" online in the past 3 years but didnt venture out for one on one contact.
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Why am I talking about this??????? ROFL
I am going to finish packing!
I am going to finish packing!
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3 years wow ! think i need a nap waiting for that special some one
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i think it depaends on how much you like someone
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yea i have too not since high school but for awhile and we have a good friendship
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on line ? it does work with some people
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This has back-fired on me too many times more than its been successful anyway. speaking for myself friends and love are two words I really need to have clarified, they are so overused.... and the meanings that these words have ofr others is vast and numerous..... I do not want to the one who causes pain because the word friend or love was mis-interpeted strike that I do not want to be hurt because I misunderstood what you meant when you say those words.
Maybe I should return back to the cave from hence i have been ..... because I see these words bantered about soo freely here. .....just my opinion
Maybe I should return back to the cave from hence i have been ..... because I see these words bantered about soo freely here. .....just my opinion
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I think there certainly needs to be a foundation of friendship before you become lovers...my last relationship started out on a physical attraction very quickly, and I really believe now that was all that really kept us together. We didn't have much in common, and besides work and movies, there wasn't a lot to talk about. Had we been friends first, I would have discovered that...
On the flip side, I agree with Wings...if you are friends for a long time, and then try to move into the lovers role, things may have changed and it no longer is that what it once was. I guess thats why this online dating thing can have its benefits...especially if the person lives 10,000 miles away from you! We got to know each other first, and we started talking on a friendly basis, and our attraction to each other grew from there...ok, i'll stop rambling now!
On the flip side, I agree with Wings...if you are friends for a long time, and then try to move into the lovers role, things may have changed and it no longer is that what it once was. I guess thats why this online dating thing can have its benefits...especially if the person lives 10,000 miles away from you! We got to know each other first, and we started talking on a friendly basis, and our attraction to each other grew from there...ok, i'll stop rambling now!
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i've had...friendships...i've had friends with benefits...i've had strictly lovers...(some i didn't even like)...i've had relationships...i've had relationships where they were also my best friend.
each person requires a different dynamic...it can't be "set" per se...currently i would like both. we'll see.
each person requires a different dynamic...it can't be "set" per se...currently i would like both. we'll see.
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You have to bulis a foundation for the love to stand on otherwise it will crumble. Like I said, getting past the "puppy love" stage and into bulding a mature relationship is the only way any realtionship will last. I think alot of us have experienced rushing into things when young and here we are today!
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Damn typos..lol
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Not ME! hehdehehehe
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Ya I agree ya half to bulis a bise first. 
Lionhearted 1967 kiddin!!
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