Has anybody ever met or even made love to a ghost (no not goat) or am I the only one ? (34)

Is Elley an acronym for Gilly?

I have had ghosts in my life - maybe bad dreams or hallucinations but I have vivid memories of touch, smell and awareness...memories also of faces and they re-occur from time to time. (Ah, I dont do drugs by the way).

My first experience was when sleeping in bed at a friend's ancestral palatial home - my bed was under the staircase because although there were many bedrooms they were not really usuable; drafty; no adjoining bathroom or even no lighting system. My friend was in his room on the third floor which was perhaps the only habitable bedroom in that mansion. Just after 1am in the morning when I'd fallen asleep I woke up with a start hearing footsteps on the staircase right above me. Now this is going to sound mad but a figure rounded the corner of the staircase and came towards me then disappeared but in a blink of an eye I felt as though a block of ice had come into my bed and lain down next to me. Thinking about it some 30 years later makes my hairs rise. I was too paralysed to do anything but croak the name of my friend which of course he couldn't hear at that distance. I remained in bed and even fell asleep again but for the next 10 days I had high fever with convulsions which doctors had no explanation for.

Later experiences came when, once having being scared out of my wits, I dared myself to do things like accompany a friend of mine who was also a tantric practitioner into visiting the obscure corners of open crematoriums where tantrics gathered to meet and practise their beliefs. There were open pyres burning away only metres away; the relatives of the dead had all left; and then a kind of booming sound came from nowhere and enveloped our group, some of who were real sadhus with matted hair, wearing nothing but ashes and a loin cloth. In the morning when I awoke the place was deserted and I was alone.

In later years I dreamt of women I'd never seen in real life and who in the course of the night made love to me till morning came and I was still in a half dream calling out their names. All day long on those occasions I was convinced there was someone else hiding in my apartment.

Maybe all this is a good indication for a visit to a shrink - which in any case I have though it seems so pointless to see these pharmacological shrinks.

Numerous times I have had the most 'real' experiences; things I never knew about but which passed like a parade in front of my eyes; some turned out to be historically authentic events of the past, some not.

So Crusader blood, I totally accept your account of your experiences. The word coincidence actually means nothing. It is often produced as an explanation but it only means that two events occured at the same time in two realities. It is at this deeper level that strange phenomena have to be explained or experimented with. In the late Soviet Union parapsychology had achieved immense heights of research and experimentation. But it's mostly lost now.

The problem really for the sceptic is to prove a negative proposition which is not possible. If you haven't experienced it it does not mean it doesn't exist!