hollandgirlOPSomewhere in Canada. B.C., British Columbia Canada4,464 posts
This is very painful to say the least. What did I do to deserve this? is the first thing we ask. What did I do wrong? Could I have done something to prevent it from happening? We blame ourselves first and can get stuck in that question.
Well maybe we are really not to be blamed but the other person is. In my case is was my mother first, she would tell me that I irritated her. Found out later my mother had to give up her first child or my dad would not have married her. This first baby came about after and 8 year long engament. The man dropped my mom when she became pregnant.
The second rejection came when the man I had met at fourteen and came to Canada with, started to cheat to bolster his ego. So there I was 28 years old and had no clue about dating etc. I always had my husband to take care of things and now at this age I stood alone for the first time.
I hear you dear lady. I have never been rejected in the early years nor have I seen much of it, however I know about it now. If you can please volunteer with the underprivileged children. They have so much to teach us all. They are a little mean at times but holy macadamia, do they ever appreciate a piece of the pie from some one who listens!
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What did I do to deserve this? is the first thing we ask.
What did I do wrong? Could I have done something to prevent it from
happening?
We blame ourselves first and can get stuck in that question.
Well maybe we are really not to be blamed but the other person is.
In my case is was my mother first, she would tell me that I irritated her.
Found out later my mother had to give up her first child or my dad would not have married her. This first baby came about after and 8 year long engament.
The man dropped my mom when she became pregnant.
The second rejection came when the man I had met at fourteen and came to Canada with, started to cheat to bolster his ego.
So there I was 28 years old and had no clue about dating etc.
I always had my husband to take care of things and now at this age I stood alone for the first time.