Is it possible to have a positive split and not continue to hurt each other? (25)
ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
As far as a positive break up goes, I can't say it's impossible,
but I'm willing to bet they're pretty rare.
Things will get better, in my opinion moving will probably speed the process along.
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Ocee35: As far as a positive break up goes, I can't say it's impossible,
but I'm willing to bet they're pretty rare.
Things will get better, in my opinion moving will probably speed the process along.
but I'm willing to bet they're pretty rare.
Things will get better, in my opinion moving will probably speed the process along.
Thanks fingers crossed you are correct..
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Well mind didn't improve for 10 years so the move is probably a good thing......
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My ex and I continued living under the same roof for 6 months after our breakup while I saved the money it took to move into my own place......that 6 months was hell....we tried to ignore each other but just the sight of one another irked us.
Once I moved out, harsh feelings quickly started to mend. We are now close friends and still talk about once a week.
Once I moved out, harsh feelings quickly started to mend. We are now close friends and still talk about once a week.
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Depends on the people involved.
I am just thinking out loud, but could his behavior be this way because once you move out, and the split is final he will not have any control of you... & you will be free and on your own?
Sometimes when the person who decides to end the relationship sees you are able to move on, it bother's them. (that goes for males and females.)
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Thanks guys... this is giving me hope that the friendship we once had will come back.
I do feel as if I have lost my best friend and since I am in a foreign country without my family, it is not easy to lose that friendship...
I do feel as if I have lost my best friend and since I am in a foreign country without my family, it is not easy to lose that friendship...
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
The only time I've ever wanted to speed up time is after a breakup. I couldn't of course but the healing always happened faster than I thought it would. So just give it some time and the move is a good thing. JMO.
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In WORD.....YES
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
A positive split is possible but depends on the people involved.
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Again.........thanks for all who are posting, it is helping. Being too close to the situation does not make it easy to see. Maybe he is feeling a wee bit guilty or maybe my prescence is causing guilt.
Wonder why we feel free to hurt people we used to love and are kinder to strangers?!
Wonder why we feel free to hurt people we used to love and are kinder to strangers?!
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Yep, things will start to improve, once you are able to remove yourself from all of that negativity. Next time - the minute he starts to make an attempt to hurt/upset you... tell him
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I feel really bad for you, breaking up is hard to do the first time around. I wish you happiness when your heart stops aching and your head stops telling you it's your fault. It's not. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. Forget the man and move on there are too many wonderful men in the world to be tied up to one that makes you feel guilty all the time. Congratulations on your move in a couple of weeks. 
I hope this helps
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ltlmstrouble: Again.........thanks for all who are posting, it is helping. Being too close to the situation does not make it easy to see. Maybe he is feeling a wee bit guilty or maybe my prescence is causing guilt.
Wonder why we feel free to hurt people we used to love and are kinder to strangers?!
Wonder why we feel free to hurt people we used to love and are kinder to strangers?!
That last part I've wondered also. It is true even when people are still together. We're polite to complete strangers and mad at the ones we love. I use the word 'mad' but the reality is usually worse. Words, actions.
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Thanks all............off to bed now as it is creeping up to midnight
CS people are the best.. I value each and every one of you.
CS people are the best.. I value each and every one of you.
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ltlmstrouble: Thanks all............off to bed now as it is creeping up to midnight
CS people are the best.. I value each and every one of you.
CS people are the best.. I value each and every one of you.
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it's possible my ex wife is now one of my best friends. after a while of being apart.
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You know i know someone that is going through this right now...and all they wants to do is hurt the other ...
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
I think anything's possible in regards to having a postive split and not continue to hurt each other if both people find closure and move on.
I also feel that a postive split is also possible especially in situations where's there's also children involved.
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ltlmstrouble: My soon to be ex is never around, but for some reason he is this weekend... he is doing all he can to hurt and upset me... I am moving out to my own home in a few weeks. Our split is all of his doing and was a total shock to me last year. I have tried to be accomodating and friendly during the whole mess. I feel almost as bad as I did when this all started...
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.
Others don't always deal with situations in the same way we would. When my ex and I split, I assumed we would be able to be mature, fair-minded and civilised about things. But it "takes two to Tango", as they say, and that wasn't the case.......... it was horrendous!!
As for your situation, you know what I think!!
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Will things improve soon? I hate to feel so upset and disheartened.