No bagage, no headgames please. How I sooo dislike these statements (88)
Relationships are like airplanes. Everyone has baggage, some more than others. You get a small carry-on and the rest gets stored below the plane. When someone brings more than their fair share of baggage, they need to ride the plane with those who have less. Otherwise, there will be WAY too much baggage on the plane and it will crash and burn.
Unfortunately, some people (like my ex) take up the whole dang plane.
Unfortunately, some people (like my ex) take up the whole dang plane.
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Yes when life gives you lemons you make lemonade.
Nomindgames I am very sorry about your lose special when they are yet children.
Don't worry about me I am not THAT lonely that I will just fall for anyone.
Now that I am on this forum longer I recognize the ones I would never want to be with, for different reasons.
I know what I need/want and I really won't settle for less, ever!
Nomindgames I am very sorry about your lose special when they are yet children.
Don't worry about me I am not THAT lonely that I will just fall for anyone.
Now that I am on this forum longer I recognize the ones I would never want to be with, for different reasons.
I know what I need/want and I really won't settle for less, ever!
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I have an overwhelming amount of Baggage.
And more than happy to fill some of it to go on a trip!!
but as far as the people that play mind games.... they can burn.
I can easily handle the past - but not the ones that are hell bent on screwing up the future.
And more than happy to fill some of it to go on a trip!!
but as far as the people that play mind games.... they can burn.
I can easily handle the past - but not the ones that are hell bent on screwing up the future.
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I am on another forum where the complaint often is that people set up a date, then don't show up or as I met with one guy who had a relationship for 4 years.
The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
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hollandgirl: I am on another forum where the complaint often is that people set up a date, then don't show up or as I met with one guy who had a relationship for 4 years.
The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
That is the sad part of it right there!
We shouldn't have to be so guarded that we must LOOK for signs.
If we have been hurt so badly in past relationships that we can't trust the next person.. isn't that the baggage spoke of previously?!
I just want someone that I can believe in and have faith in to be true , honest and devoted.
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Rasgumby I have been given a healthy dose of common sense, and use it.
I am surely not suspiscious of every man I meet. Cautious is something we all need to be.
Love is NOT blind but MAKES blind.
I have and still am in many ways, too trusting and naive.
You see if someone has hurt me in the past, I do not let the next guy "pay for it"
I start all over again with the next person.
Do I leave myself open to more hurt, yes I do but it is my way.
I am surely not suspiscious of every man I meet. Cautious is something we all need to be.
Love is NOT blind but MAKES blind.
I have and still am in many ways, too trusting and naive.
You see if someone has hurt me in the past, I do not let the next guy "pay for it"
I start all over again with the next person.
Do I leave myself open to more hurt, yes I do but it is my way.
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2catchastar.
Hi I keep thinking about you.
Wow the things you have had to go through!
And all that at your age!
You are still smilling your beautiful smile and you
are not only very beautiful, but have a good insight in
to the psyche of people.
Great attitude too.
Just wonder how come your prince has not come for you yet.
Keep smilling as the one who would appreciate you should be
around the corner.
Hi I keep thinking about you.
Wow the things you have had to go through!
And all that at your age!
You are still smilling your beautiful smile and you
are not only very beautiful, but have a good insight in
to the psyche of people.
Great attitude too.
Just wonder how come your prince has not come for you yet.
Keep smilling as the one who would appreciate you should be
around the corner.
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nomindgames: You see my user name,but it has not worked as I have met many who still like to play them I have not seen you before,but nice to meet you I hope you all goodness on this site,think you already are aware,but careful of those preying on onley widow.I am not saying you are,many do look for that.Hope you enjoy us here and stick around.No,a cry now and then in private(only if possible)is not baggage.I lost a son 12 yrs. ago whose birthday is Sunday the 24th.I will cry that day as I always do and go through my little ritual of getting out photos,remembering good and funny things.Then the 25th I am back in reality.So because now and then I let on a few tears for both chidren I have lost,I do not carry them and my mourning of them on my sleeve.
So sorry to know that , hope you are keeping well
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2catchastar: Bagage and head games? Everyone has some so called bagage, Anyone who says they don't have it is a liar and plays headgame!
I have bagage and I will tell you what it is. My parents died and I never got over it completely, both of cancer. And I never got over loosing them. I was married and abused severly for a long time. I fought to get out of that situation, but it left some pretty nasty scars. I met a man fell in love was engaged to be married. Got pregnant lost the baby, and was told I had cancer just like my mom. I fought the cancer but it left me not able to have kids. My fiance loved kids had none. I left so he could meet someone who could have kids. He did! Now I ask you with all this bagage I carry in my heart do you not think that finding love would help resolve some of my bagage? Do you not think that finding someone to love would help me to move on with my life? Give me a reason to be happy again? Do you not think that carring that bagage has not made me a stonger person? Head Games! mine not telling you of the bagage I carry because you dont want bagage.
I personally want someone with bagage, so that I know one he has delt with life, two he is a stronger person for it. And three I would like to be the person that gives him reason to shed the bagage and move on to a happier life.
Here here !! I have bagage and I will tell you what it is. My parents died and I never got over it completely, both of cancer. And I never got over loosing them. I was married and abused severly for a long time. I fought to get out of that situation, but it left some pretty nasty scars. I met a man fell in love was engaged to be married. Got pregnant lost the baby, and was told I had cancer just like my mom. I fought the cancer but it left me not able to have kids. My fiance loved kids had none. I left so he could meet someone who could have kids. He did! Now I ask you with all this bagage I carry in my heart do you not think that finding love would help resolve some of my bagage? Do you not think that finding someone to love would help me to move on with my life? Give me a reason to be happy again? Do you not think that carring that bagage has not made me a stonger person? Head Games! mine not telling you of the bagage I carry because you dont want bagage.
I personally want someone with bagage, so that I know one he has delt with life, two he is a stronger person for it. And three I would like to be the person that gives him reason to shed the bagage and move on to a happier life.
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Livinglarge, thank you for your welcome.
I had introduced myself some time ago but hey who cares?
I hear men say that women when older become hard. Really?
Well we can still cry and have compassion for others.
We can still count our blessings as there are many.
I also love it when men can cry it tells me a lot about them.
I had introduced myself some time ago but hey who cares?
I hear men say that women when older become hard. Really?
Well we can still cry and have compassion for others.
We can still count our blessings as there are many.
I also love it when men can cry it tells me a lot about them.
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hollandgirl: Livinglarge, thank you for your welcome.
I had introduced myself some time ago but hey who cares?
I hear men say that women when older become hard. Really?
Well we can still cry and have compassion for others.
We can still count our blessings as there are many.
I also love it when men can cry it tells me a lot about them.
You are very welcome ! I don't think women become hard , although if she is around a difficult guy for long enough , maybe they need to be hard . Is being strong , resolute and looking for the best possible relationship for oneself in life hard ? JMO , I think no !!I had introduced myself some time ago but hey who cares?
I hear men say that women when older become hard. Really?
Well we can still cry and have compassion for others.
We can still count our blessings as there are many.
I also love it when men can cry it tells me a lot about them.
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How often I have been told; I wished I had met you x amount of
years ago.
My answer is always; What ever you like about me today is because
of past experiences.
You may not have liked me x amount of years ago. ???
years ago.
My answer is always; What ever you like about me today is because
of past experiences.
You may not have liked me x amount of years ago. ???
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hollandgirl: I am on another forum where the complaint often is that people set up a date, then don't show up or as I met with one guy who had a relationship for 4 years.
The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
What the hey, if he found her on another dating site it means he was there looking too. The woman never told him she wanted out but he found her on another dating site.
Most of us I believe, see now the sign's if we pay attention.
It is cruel to and childies to play games with people's feelings
Another example of men (ok, some men)always making out that they are the victims when they are doing the same thing. Gimme a break! No baggage means to me, don't bring your hurt from what someone else did to you and try to put it on me. I would never put that in my profile, cause people who do that don't even know they are. I know after one or two conversations with someone if they're doing that.
I don't even know what no head games means. I don't play em, and probably don't even know when I'm being played cause I don't play back. It takes two to play a game. No one can play with your head unless you let them. Game players don't have much fun with me.
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It has always been my Modus of Operandis to start with a new
person all over again.
I don't blame him for what someone else has done to me.
Yes I know it leaves me open for more hurts but hey that is
life.
I try to use the common sense that was given to me and that
is all I can do.
Ha never thought of asking this guy hey what where you doing on
that dating site.
Four years into a relationship and you never deleted yourself?
See I am not yet as smart as I ought to be.
person all over again.
I don't blame him for what someone else has done to me.
Yes I know it leaves me open for more hurts but hey that is
life.
I try to use the common sense that was given to me and that
is all I can do.
Ha never thought of asking this guy hey what where you doing on
that dating site.
Four years into a relationship and you never deleted yourself?
See I am not yet as smart as I ought to be.
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hollandgirl: Number one do people who say these things in their profile, have had such bad experiences that make them say this?
It is very negative and unrealistic.
I lost a loving husband in January 2005, the odd times I find myself cry for just a moment, does this mean I have bagage?
No headgames please. I wonder if those who engage in this are even aware of doing so.
I came to this forum to sincerely find a new relationship.
I believe in honesty and loyalty, I need to trust, without this there is nothing!
My trinity is Trust, Respect and Giving, (of one self)
(Read my profile for the rest)
I could say a lot more but will rest my case for now.
Jenny
It is very negative and unrealistic.
I lost a loving husband in January 2005, the odd times I find myself cry for just a moment, does this mean I have bagage?
No headgames please. I wonder if those who engage in this are even aware of doing so.
I came to this forum to sincerely find a new relationship.
I believe in honesty and loyalty, I need to trust, without this there is nothing!
My trinity is Trust, Respect and Giving, (of one self)
(Read my profile for the rest)
I could say a lot more but will rest my case for now.
Jenny
I know what you mean. I hate when some people say that.
Because to be honest with you, EVERYBODY HAS BAGGAGE AND THINGS GOING ON WITH THEIR LIVES...
I can't understand the No Baggage and No Headgames kind of title some people use on their profiles.
I've met a couple of guys, who had these on their profile, and it happens that one of them had a damn breathalizer (sp?) in his vehicle!!! Talking about baggage! The damn guy had gotten a DUI in the past and has to have that thing according to his probation...
Who has the baggage now??!! At least, my baggage, is nothing like that!!! My only baggage is not having a job and living with a roommate that I don't get along with.
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HondoLaneNJ: Now, now...women can be every bit the Drama Queen! Let's not stereotype and generalize...you have to take each individual on their own merit....
Otherwise, we'd never get anywhere with Love, would we?
Otherwise, we'd never get anywhere with Love, would we?
Good point
I wonder why some of us women get to feel that way though.Playing the drama queen. Hmm well crying
Only ever got me was;Stop it or I give you a good reason to cry.(this when growing up)
So there never was a pay-off for me.
I have learned to cry silently, with my ex. To him it was black mail.
Yes I do get your drift here for sure.
She will try to be better now.
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tunnelwary: HAD TO run just one more......Um , about me eh , hmmmmmm ,
Well I am not fire proof , water proof , or earthquake proof , at all , yes I admit it , although I do bounce if the impact is great enough ,
I still have not figured out how to avoid spontanious combustion , so I really think I need a partner who is fast with the fire extinguisher , and NOT afraid of catching on fire them selves (its been known to happen ) .
The sucsessfull candidate also should have a good understanding of quantum physics and nuclear physics as I am also a mad scientist on the side and am in the midst of plans to take over the universe...
an interest in Genetics and Biotechnology would be an asset but not yet a requirement.....
interested candidates should contact administration .....AND NOT JUST STROLL ON BY CAUSE IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN IF YA JUST KEEEP WALKIN PAST AN NOT APPLYING FOR THE SAID POSTITION!!...........
MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO APPLY
WARNING THE FOLLOWING MAY CONTAIN NUTS ....... ALLERGIES BE FOREWARNED
ADULT SUPERVISION REQUIRED
CAUTION HAIR ENTANGLEMENT MAY OCCUR !!
Well I am not fire proof , water proof , or earthquake proof , at all , yes I admit it , although I do bounce if the impact is great enough ,
I still have not figured out how to avoid spontanious combustion , so I really think I need a partner who is fast with the fire extinguisher , and NOT afraid of catching on fire them selves (its been known to happen ) .
The sucsessfull candidate also should have a good understanding of quantum physics and nuclear physics as I am also a mad scientist on the side and am in the midst of plans to take over the universe...
an interest in Genetics and Biotechnology would be an asset but not yet a requirement.....
interested candidates should contact administration .....AND NOT JUST STROLL ON BY CAUSE IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN IF YA JUST KEEEP WALKIN PAST AN NOT APPLYING FOR THE SAID POSTITION!!...........
MUST BE 18 YEARS OR OLDER TO APPLY
WARNING THE FOLLOWING MAY CONTAIN NUTS ....... ALLERGIES BE FOREWARNED
ADULT SUPERVISION REQUIRED
CAUTION HAIR ENTANGLEMENT MAY OCCUR !!
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no baggage=no life
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I think everyone has baggage...if not then the person can't have lived and experienced much...it's whether you have dealt with that baggage or not that makes all the difference....a person expecting no baggage at all...is likely a person who has never dealt with any of theirs but just pushed it to the side waiting for it to rear it's ugly head at a later time...most likely in a new relationship!!!!!!!!!As for head-games...well those are just for the immature....probably the ones who still have lots of luggage floating out there in "I pushed it away so it's dealt with" land!!!!!!!!!
Well said gf.
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I am so sorry for your loss and will think of you on the 24th and wish you well.
Thanks much.