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Aug 20, 2008 10:10 AM CST Define a successful relationship
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.


Anyone agree??
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Aug 20, 2008 10:12 AM CST Define a successful relationship
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??


No
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Aug 20, 2008 10:15 AM CST Define a successful relationship
I sort of agree. To me though... a good relationship isn't necessarily a successful one. It may have been good, but wasn't good enough (for whatever reason) to succeed - long term / overall.



hmmm
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Aug 20, 2008 10:24 AM CST Define a successful relationship
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
StressFree: No




You forgot to say..."In a word...."tongue
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Aug 20, 2008 10:26 AM CST Define a successful relationship
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??


Quantity of quality. thumbs up Putting in too little time is more like a 'friend or acquaintance type relationship, not committed enough for my liking.

Not sure about your other contention, Some people are only content in an abrasive or contensious environment. Not sure thats a bad thing for them if they like it. confused

cheating would be a def deal breaker for me though.
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Aug 20, 2008 10:26 AM CST Define a successful relationship
2catchastar
2catchastar2catchastarCorning, New York USA12 Threads 1,123 Posts
I would define a successful relationship as two people who are happy being with each other, who work together as a team to reach there dreams and goals. two people that suport each other. Two people who are willing to be there for each other thru bad times as well as the good. A successful relationship is when two people can love each other and let the love grow thru out time. Not just when it's new and then let it die and go there seperate ways. To me that is not a success either.
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Aug 20, 2008 10:31 AM CST Define a successful relationship
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??


Past ones are like an amusement park ride..

Ride the ride until the ride is over then get in line for the next ride.

Now if only a ride that would require me spending all of the tickets I have left would come along..grin (and I do have several tickets left)...
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Aug 20, 2008 10:32 AM CST Define a successful relationship
gypsykisses
gypsykissesgypsykissesPort Huron, Michigan USA9 Threads 1 Polls 3,242 Posts
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??





wholeheartedlywine
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Aug 20, 2008 10:33 AM CST Define a successful relationship
gypsykisses
gypsykissesgypsykissesPort Huron, Michigan USA9 Threads 1 Polls 3,242 Posts
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??




roll eyes sorrylaugh
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Aug 20, 2008 10:41 AM CST Define a successful relationship
Enduro
EnduroEnduroLaunceston, Tasmania Australia18 Threads 467 Posts
shipoker55: Is it always about longevity??

I contend that a successful relationship is about quality time spent together. If a couple is only together for a few months and it ends amicably. Then it was a good relationship. Ashort one...but a good one. If a couple is together 20 years, with constant fighting, or cheating on each other, then that was a much worse relationship that the couple together for only a few months.

A relationship is about quality time together...not quantity of time.Anyone agree??


I agree and perhaps the old adage is valid here:

" It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."
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Aug 20, 2008 10:44 AM CST Define a successful relationship
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
My last marriage lasted less than five years...but we are friends and sometimes the three of us hang out together. So, although the marriage ended, I enjoyed thr eime we had and the relationship is changed....but on goingthumbs up
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Aug 20, 2008 10:45 AM CST Define a successful relationship
A relationship from which I have "learned" a little bit more about myself..grin
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Aug 20, 2008 10:48 AM CST Define a successful relationship
To me a sucessful relationship is....if you spent a considerable amount of time with someone who touched your life for the better in some way, even if it did not end up in marriage, then you should consider it a positive experience. I believe that people come into our lives at different times for various reasons. For example, you may meet someone right before the death of a loved one, and that person may be the one who will help you through it. You may develop a relationship with someone who has an odd set of beliefs and opinions, and that person’s presence may be necessary in order for you to expand your mind and maximize your potential. You could also establish a relationship with someone who treats you better than anyone else ever has, and I believe that person was meant to raise your standards for the kind of life you make for yourself.
Conversely, if you have a relationship with someone who turns out to be unfaithful, consider that you made contact with and had affection for another human being who ended up teaching you a valuable lesson about trust, awareness, and forgiveness. In my mind, the key to determining if a relationship was successful lies in how it impacted your life. And as long as you enjoyed yourself for a time and were able to avoid long periods of unhappiness or suffering, then I’d say you can check one off in the win column!
I believe the goal in relationships should be to spend the moments of your life wisely and to savor every emotion. If you have established a relationship with someone who, as it turns out, is not right for you, so what? You made a connection and, hopefully, a friend. You participated in the flow of your life, made the most of the experience, and continued to move forward. Because isn’t that what our lives really are? A journey over an unknown period of time where our experiences help us to understand and grow and change ourselves and our communities as we search for meaning and happiness and answers to our questions about God and ourselves? Those are the reasons why we have relationships, why we feel love and laughter and wonder and sadness, and why we have to let go and be happy anyway.
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Aug 20, 2008 11:08 AM CST Define a successful relationship
Enduro
EnduroEnduroLaunceston, Tasmania Australia18 Threads 467 Posts
Wise words thank you. conversing applause
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Aug 20, 2008 11:13 AM CST Define a successful relationship
tunnelwary
tunnelwarytunnelwaryLa Jolla, California USA39 Threads 1,059 Posts
A cashier that doesn't freak out when the total is $2.78 and you give them $3.03.

..smiles and says, "Have a nice day." and means it.

...you do the same and mean it too.



Voila! Successful Relationship.
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Aug 20, 2008 11:25 AM CST Define a successful relationship
vonney
vonneyvonneyDublin, Ireland32 Threads 9,360 Posts
Enduro: I agree and perhaps the old adage is valid here:

" It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."



One saying htat drives me crazy.



No its not.
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Aug 21, 2008 8:38 PM CST Define a successful relationship
DatDude03
DatDude03DatDude03Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania USA1 Threads 24 Posts
Communicating effectively will go a long way in a relationship.
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Aug 21, 2008 8:41 PM CST Define a successful relationship
A relationship where both involved allow intimacy, my definition..grin
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Aug 21, 2008 8:41 PM CST Define a successful relationship
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA78 Threads 7 Polls 21,350 Posts
If they never end up on an episode of Cops.....grin
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Aug 21, 2008 8:47 PM CST Define a successful relationship
mbcasey: If they never end up on an episode of Cops.....






... Or the Maury Povich show, or Jerry Springer.uh oh



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