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Aug 22, 2008 12:54 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
I'm considered a big flirt on CS flirty and was asked to provide some input on How to work It! So here goes and by all means this posting is just for fun. Please, feel free to add additional input and lets have some fun with this. Cause I know there are more Flirts then just me out there. giggle

Flirting 101 – How to Work IT

The two most compelling reasons to flirt are: You’re breathing - She’s/He’s breathing
Flirting is the best means to a lovely end: Dates!
Dates = Dinner! Movies! Slow walks in soft rain! Watching sunset on a warm beach! Dancing! Stimulating conversations and nervous systems!

Not convinced? More reasons to flirt:
Increase your heart rate heart beating
Build your self-confidence
Have fun (yes, fun!) joy cartwheel gotta go
Get dates and/or have sex
Make new friends
Practice! Practice! Practice!

Reasons not to Flirt – I can’t think of any! dunno

Who to flirt with - Flirt with women. Any woman. Every woman. Same goes for you Women, Flirt with men Any man and Every man.

Just make your opening conversation appropriate to your surroundings or based on the topic of the thread. If they laugh, you’re in, if not, then they’re not someone you want to possible date anyway. In fact, showing your sense of humour is a great way to screen your possible dates or future partners, do you really want to wind up with someone who doesn’t get your sense of humour? Or worse, someone totally humourless?
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Aug 22, 2008 12:55 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
Flirting Do’s
Flirt with no expectation of reward—just for fun, and not to keep score or with a win/lose mentality.
Ask specific, but open-ended questions; this demonstrates that you're interested specifically in HER/HIM as a person, and provides an opportunity for the discussion to take a natural amorous turn. "What do you think about ...?" or "Tell me your favorite way to relax."
Look for humor in what she/he is saying, and let yourself laugh at her/his jokes if you find them funny.
Be generous with sincere compliments.
Smile, smile, smile! Be friendly.
Being playful yet persistent, but back away gracefully if you keep getting rebuffed.
Show that you’re a vulnerable, real person, and not a “come on” machine.

It's especially important in Net Flirting (or Personal Ads or phone conversations) to use your vocabulary effectively. Remember that 90% of what people think about you comes from your appearance, but without that opportunity, the expertise of language is crucial.
Take the initiative: other women/men are shy too!

Flirting Don’ts
Flirting is not a one-shot deal. Try, try again! (But maybe pick someone else to flirt with)
Talking too much is a sure sign that you aren't listening. blah blah
Don't follow people around or act needy. No one likes a stalker.
Don't be insincere.
Your job, car, how many other women/men you’ve slept with or your inflated ego is not an aphrodisiac. Showing more interest in HER/His achievements than your own is the ultimate turn-on.

Nothing terminates encounters faster than a Terminator approach. Give others time to get to know you. How attractive is “Ba-da bing Ba-da boom” to you? In the event that you get turned down, exit gracefully. There is no need to be nasty, even if your intended is less than kind in turning your generous offer of your fine self, don’t sink to a childish level.

A wave, a kiss, a hug or even some of the other emoticons might make her change her mind, or at least grow up a bit and treat the next unfortunate person to flirt with them better. Or maybe you will intrigue one of their pals. wave kiss hug
Everyone’s entitled to a bad day or off night, don’t make it worse, and don’t dwell on it either. frustrated
Besides, you might end up dating a friend of hers/his, and then she’ll/he’ll really regret having passed you up.

Consuming/conquering Fears
Scared of rejection?
Terrified of being laughed at?
Overwhelmed by perceived inadequacies?
Afraid of being labeled as a sleazebag?
Worried about delivering the goods?

You are a valuable person with lots to offer a gal/guy. You know your own worth and your opinion of you matters the most.
The women/men you are going to flirt with are total strangers and as strangers, their apparent opinion of you shouldn’t matter as much to you as your own self opinion matters. If they can’t recognize that you are someone who is interesting to spend time with, that is their loss. Absolutely. If they can’t see the value of you when you clearly saw value in them (you flirted with them, didn’t you?), then they did you a favour by rejecting you.

Okay Lets have some Fun with this one and provide your input on flirtiing and what makes a good flirt!!!

grin
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Aug 22, 2008 12:58 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
printing out so that I can better memorize these lessons for my surrogate flirt.
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Aug 22, 2008 1:00 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
Trust yourself

Trust your Intuition

Treat others as you would expect to be treated yourself

Don't over do it

Do not not put in 100% - and expect 100% back
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Aug 22, 2008 1:01 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
stooie1971: Trust yourself

Trust your Intuition

Treat others as you would expect to be treated yourself

Don't over do it

Do not not put in 100% - and expect 100% back



Well Summarizedthumbs up batting
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Aug 22, 2008 1:04 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
Justme4uok: Well Summarized


Stop flirting you blushing
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Aug 22, 2008 1:06 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
WhatUwish4
WhatUwish4WhatUwish4St. Augustine, Florida USA2 Threads 12,827 Posts
LovingMassage: printing out so that I can better memorize these lessons for my surrogate flirt.



LOL
tongue tongue
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Aug 22, 2008 1:07 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
WhatUwish4
WhatUwish4WhatUwish4St. Augustine, Florida USA2 Threads 12,827 Posts
Great thread Dori....

You certainly do give good flirt!
laugh laugh laugh laugh
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Aug 22, 2008 1:08 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
cardsfan24
cardsfan24cardsfan24somewhere in paradise, Illinois USA46 Threads 1 Polls 6,704 Posts
hmmm....good flirt you are..hun


I wish i could learn how to flirt..laugh
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Aug 22, 2008 1:13 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
stooie1971: Stop flirting you



I can't help it!laugh giggle
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Aug 22, 2008 1:14 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
WhatUwish4: Great thread Dori....

You certainly do give good flirt!


hmmm I believe I have seen you put some of these suggestions into play Miss Karen!giggle
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Aug 22, 2008 1:14 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
Justme4uok: I can't help it!


Behave... Cheeky hmmm
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Aug 22, 2008 1:16 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
stooie1971: Behave... Cheeky


scold Not gonna stop!devil bouquet
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Aug 22, 2008 1:18 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
Justme4uok: If they laugh, you’re in, if not, then they’re not someone you want to possible date anyway. In fact, showing your sense of humour is a great way to screen your possible dates or future partners, do you really want to wind up with someone who doesn’t get your sense of humour? Or worse, someone totally humourless?

thumbs up Good post Dori. Good flirting should be fun, and funny. My favorite people in the whole world, men or women, are the ones who make me laugh.

Men who make me laugh turn me on more than the macho body builder or GQ types. Little s*xual innuendos and double entendres show your brain works, and your brain is what works the rest of your body. Really, who cares what your body looks like if you haven't got the brainpower to work it.

Making me laugh about stuff is a good way to make me more comfortable, and you'd be surprised what I'm capable of when I'm good and relaxed.

People who try to flirt and be serious about it freak me out. You've got to show me you can laugh before you show me anything else. devil
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Aug 22, 2008 1:18 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
cardsfan24: hmmm....good flirt you are..hunI wish i could learn how to flirt..



Are you taking notes?typing laugh
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Aug 22, 2008 1:19 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
cardsfan24
cardsfan24cardsfan24somewhere in paradise, Illinois USA46 Threads 1 Polls 6,704 Posts
Justme4uok: Are you taking notes?
yep been watchin the whole time..laugh
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Aug 22, 2008 1:20 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
Justme4uok
Justme4uokJustme4uokNorthern CA, California USA44 Threads 7,437 Posts
alabamabebe: Good post Dori. Good flirting should be fun, and funny. My favorite people in the whole world, men or women, are the ones who make me laugh.

Men who make me laugh turn me on more than the macho body builder or GQ types. Little s*xual innuendos and double entendres show your brain works, and your brain is what works the rest of your body. Really, who cares what your body looks like if you haven't got the brainpower to work it.

Making me laugh about stuff is a good way to make me more comfortable, and you'd be surprised what I'm capable of when I'm good and relaxed.

People who try to flirt and be serious about it freak me out. You've got to show me you can laugh before you show me anything else.



I know you know how to flirt Ms. Bev...... You even flirt with your pictures of your Butt in those tight jeans! laugh
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Aug 22, 2008 1:20 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
Miss Karen is the queen of the flirt for sure.
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Aug 22, 2008 1:21 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
Wait, what picture?

I wanna see! Have pitty on me, I am in a hospital bed for crying out loud!
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Aug 22, 2008 1:21 PM CST Flirting 101 - How to work It!
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
Justme4uok: Not gonna stop!


Okay.... what makes you an expert on flirting?

I may need some advice.... should my feeble attempts go wrong

I'm quite confident I can doe this on my own... however, should I fail miserably at the first hurdle, I may be calling on your erm.... expert advice.
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