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Aug 22, 2008 3:59 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Besame
BesameBesameBoston, Massachusetts USA7 Threads 1 Polls 407 Posts
The good news is, the internet provides a much larger pool of candidates for potential relationships. The bad news is, I'm not a very good swimmer.

How many of you have tried a long distance relationship? Did it work? If not, was it related to the distance? What kind of issues did you encounter and how did you resolve them?
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Aug 22, 2008 4:00 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
shipoker55
shipoker55shipoker55St. Petersburg, Florida USA256 Threads 2 Polls 12,797 Posts
Like heroine....never tried it....never will
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Aug 22, 2008 4:00 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
She told me 14 miles was to far.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:01 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Emanuellla
EmanuelllaEmanuelllaeastern europe, Moldova27 Threads 1,826 Posts
tried.did not work.will never try swimming like that again.the end.laugh laugh wave
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Aug 22, 2008 4:02 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
mastic55: She told me 14 miles was to far.


Damn! What a lazy douche bag!
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Aug 22, 2008 4:03 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
diogenes: Damn! What a lazy douche bag!
And to top it off she looked like the one from the Drew Carry show...rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 22, 2008 4:05 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Besame
BesameBesameBoston, Massachusetts USA7 Threads 1 Polls 407 Posts
Mimi? I'd say you dodged a bullet then.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:06 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Besame: The good news is, the internet provides a much larger pool of candidates for potential relationships. The bad news is, I'm not a very good swimmer.

How many of you have tried a long distance relationship? Did it work? If not, was it related to the distance? What kind of issues did you encounter and how did you resolve them?


I am in the one..

relocating to North Carolina..

distance is hard..but if you stick to it and work at it..things will be fine..

i am getting marriedyay
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Aug 22, 2008 4:06 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
mrsmiles4444
mrsmiles4444mrsmiles4444Colonial Beach, Virginia USA42 Threads 560 Posts
Besame: The good news is, the internet provides a much larger pool of candidates for potential relationships. The bad news is, I'm not a very good swimmer.

How many of you have tried a long distance relationship? Did it work? If not, was it related to the distance? What kind of issues did you encounter and how did you resolve them?


I have tried a long distance relationship and found I was not strong enought to handle it. Wanting to be with, or see the other party more often came in the way, and of course there has to be discussed what if, what if this really works, who's the one to take that plunge and move to the residence or state of the other to be closer.
The heart knows no boudaries, yet in reality there are, and real as they can be, they can be quite challenging. Some have made it, and I also see some drop everything and move rather quickly to be with or near the other. That to me a dangerous risk I'm not willing to take. So in conclussion, long distance works for some, and for others, like myself, if I can't find her close to home, I guess I'm going to be living the single, single, single...............LIFE! yay
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Aug 22, 2008 4:07 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
diogenes: Damn! What a lazy douche bag!
try 1500 mileswave
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Aug 22, 2008 4:09 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Besame
BesameBesameBoston, Massachusetts USA7 Threads 1 Polls 407 Posts
kissmedeeply: I am in the one..

relocating to North Carolina..

distance is hard..but if you stick to it and work at it..things will be fine..

i am getting married


That's great, Congratulations! How did you keep the romance alive from such a long distance? What did you find most difficult?
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Aug 22, 2008 4:11 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
I haven't, and to be honest, I won't.

For me, if I find the right gal, I go visit her, it looks like we are good, then I will move to her area. I hate goodbyes.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:14 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Besame: That's great, Congratulations! How did you keep the romance alive from such a long distance? What did you find most difficult?


Its hard..but calling everyday..emailing..text...

He drove here a few times..he is amazing..

Most difficult..DISTANCE

If the love..communication....trust..faithfullness is there..all will be finehug
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Aug 22, 2008 4:16 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Besame
BesameBesameBoston, Massachusetts USA7 Threads 1 Polls 407 Posts
LovingMassage: I haven't, and to be honest, I won't.

For me, if I find the right gal, I go visit her, it looks like we are good, then I will move to her area. I hate goodbyes.


You must be really flexible and a risk taker.

I'm afraid I'm neither. My career is geographically limiting and he has ties to his area as well. But I really like him, and saying goodbye is heartbreaking. I need some hope.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:16 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada288 Threads 1 Polls 7,330 Posts
I believe for a relationship to survive there has to be personal contact. Long distance is fine at the beginning to get to know each other but for it to continue into anything more serious someone will have to move.cats meow cats meow
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Aug 22, 2008 4:17 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Shanmariee
ShanmarieeShanmarieeSpokane, Washington USA11 Threads 480 Posts
Well I have met two men from the internet this year and both did the same thing. One was from here and one was from a different site. They put on a good caring commerical sales pitch presentation of themselves, and we talk via online chat, webcam, telephone and email and gradually arrange a date to meet in person. They flew into Spokane here, and we met, had a wonderful 5 days together, then they went home and at first we would chat as usual saying how we missed each other ect... but then about a month afterwards, they slowly start declining in their email and telephone calls. Next thing I know, I hardly hear from them. Then I dont hear from them at all.

If someone doesn't want to be with me, that is completely fine. That is their choice, I dont even care what the reason is. The only thing that pisses me off is why don't they grow a pear and be mature enough to be upfront and honest like they say they are in their profiles, and tell me outright that they changed their mind. Why do they just fade away like cowards? I told the second one what happened during the first experience and he of course reassured me that he would not do that. That he was different and he would prove it to me and show me. Well I tried to believe him but it's a good thing I didn't cause he did the exact same thing the first one did.

I am now here mainly to chat with people. I haven't expected much from these sites anyway.

Of course this is just my experience. I'm sure others have better ones. I know afew on here that have met and are engaged to people they met through here and that is great! It just hasn't seemed to work for me. Which I am perfectly fine with.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:23 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Emanuellla
EmanuelllaEmanuelllaeastern europe, Moldova27 Threads 1,826 Posts
Shanmariee: Well I have met two men from the internet this year and both did the same thing. One was from here and one was from a different site. They put on a good caring commerical sales pitch presentation of themselves, and we talk via online chat, webcam, telephone and email and gradually arrange a date to meet in person. They flew into Spokane here, and we met, had a wonderful 5 days together, then they went home and at first we would chat as usual saying how we missed each other ect... but then about a month afterwards, they slowly start declining in their email and telephone calls. Next thing I know, I hardly hear from them. Then I dont hear from them at all.

If someone doesn't want to be with me, that is completely fine. That is their choice, I dont even care what the reason is. The only thing that pisses me off is why don't they grow a pear and be mature enough to be upfront and honest like they say they are in their profiles, and tell me outright that they changed their mind. Why do they just fade away like cowards? I told the second one what happened during the first experience and he of course reassured me that he would not do that. That he was different and he would prove it to me and show me. Well I tried to believe him but it's a good thing I didn't cause he did the exact same thing the first one did.

I am now here mainly to chat with people. I haven't expected much from these sites anyway.

Of course this is just my experience. I'm sure others have better ones. I know afew on here that have met and are engaged to people they met through here and that is great! It just hasn't seemed to work for me. Which I am perfectly fine with.



Marie...u yourself answered ur question.They act like that coz they are cowards ( ok, ok...not all of them...there are some few rare pieces around the world haha) and nothing will change that unless life hits them hard enough for them to get aware of their bad side.

You just need to go on, keep smiling and NEVER have too many expectations coz it is not worth it. The rest REALLY doesn't matter!:)
hug hug bouquet
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Aug 22, 2008 4:27 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
Not necessarily a risk taker, My roots just don't go very deep. The only thing that has really kept me where I am is that I have a strong clientele with my shop and a lot of friends that I have made. But overall, I have no family here, and this injury has forced me to close my shop for at least 6 months.

I don't have anything really holding me down....my pets will travel, although I am sure the turtle will pitch a fit.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:28 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
Besame
BesameBesameBoston, Massachusetts USA7 Threads 1 Polls 407 Posts
I had no expectations when I first joined the site a few months ago. I have been very happy with the results. I've met some good people, live and on-line that I would never have met otherwise.

Now, my expectations have changed. I'm trying to manage that so they dont become too unrealistic. I have no hopes of marrying anyone, really don't feel a need to do that again. But I do hope to fall in love again. Just need to choose carefully so I don't set myself up for a broken heart.
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Aug 22, 2008 4:32 PM CST Long Distance Relationships
LovingMassage
LovingMassageLovingMassageCentral Missouri, Missouri USA11 Threads 283 Posts
I guess I don't understand...what is the point of falling in love again if marriage is not an option?

I long for the day when I can be in love again and seal the deal with marriage.
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