Raymond1953: I've been dealing with depression issues for most of my life but it seems to be getting worse with each day regardless of medication and therapy. I have no real friends to speak of. That is, the kind of friends that will be there when I go through these really dark horrible times. I'm always trying to fight back this feeling like I want to end it all. I'm really scared and extremely lonely.
talk talk talk.get out in the sunshine,excercise enjoy urself.............only words as u r the one in the middle.but may help
Try writing down things at night that you are grateful for and appreciative for.
It can be anything:
Example: Getting out of bed. Thankful for a friend. Thankful that the sun is shining. Thankful for your children(if you have any) Look for anything that would make a smile on your face.
Keep log for two months, you can write down as many as you want. Notice how your thought processes are changing, no negative thoughts, if they enter your mind......go to your diary/log. Just the smallest things in life are precious.
Keep a schedule of activities that you are going to get done that day. Morning 8-12 afternoon 12 -4 Evening 4-10
Get enough sleep Get enough exercise-3 to four days a week. If you aren't exercising, start off gradually. Join the local gym. Try the YMCA.
Volunteer-try a local shelter. Walk those dogs, think of the exercise and UNCONTIONAL LOVE THEY GIVE.
AND PLEASE LET ME KNOW HOW YOU MAKE OUT. TRY THIS. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE AROUND YOU
I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
mbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA16,449 posts
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Glad to hear it Ray...hang in there...don't let it win.
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Glad to hear your feeling better Ray...ya know things can't always be resolved with just medication either...sometimes it helps to seek professionals who can help you to get to the root of your depression!!!!!!!!
HzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA2,779 posts
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Welcome to the Forums Raymond. Lots of nice people here...always someone that will talk to you here.
I know how you feel. I have also suffered with depression for quite a few years and when it creeps up on me, I feel terrible. My stomach feels like I'm on a rollercoaster, and I just can't shake the darkness that comes over me. When this happens, I talk to a friend and we talk about the good times and then we go out to eat and maybe a club. I have to make myself do these things because if I don't I would just hole up in misery.
Maybe you need to ask the doc to change your meds. Sometimes if you take the same med for a long time, your body becomes imune to it. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Raymond1953: I've been dealing with depression issues for most of my life but it seems to be getting worse with each day regardless of medication and therapy. I have no real friends to speak of. That is, the kind of friends that will be there when I go through these really dark horrible times. I'm always trying to fight back this feeling like I want to end it all. I'm really scared and extremely lonely.
I think talking about it, helps, but if you know what it is that gets you really depress, that's where you start. Is it work, family pressures, a a break up, something happening in the environment, an illness besides the depression like an underlying physical illness..i,e diabetes?
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
I been in that dark place,I couldn't think right. I know what your saying is real, by the word dark, and I'll pray you will beat it as I know you will.
your already doing the right thing, communicating your feelings just remember that everyone has their ups and downs and we all have our own personal struggle with life's pressures. when bad things happen it always helps to try and stay focused on what is positive in your life which can be anything your health, family or just realizing how lucky we all are to live one more day. Just remember the happiness you have had. even though your having bad times there is still many more good times to experience
Raymond,I was so concerned in beginning of this thread.Now came back and saw your feeling som better.Be careful taing our advice.As much as we akll mean well,not everyone has the answer.It is so different Major Depression and Enviromenal Depression,where you pull your self up,get moving etc.A chemical not being able to get through can only be cured with meds. and therapy.Find positive ways to deal with the sad and upsetting things in life.So glad you stayed in forum and that so many fellow membrs reached out to you.Some gave you great advice.Think you made some friends?Yippers bet you did. It taks stentghand courage to open up as you did.
Will say prayer,will concetrate on positve energy to you.Keep in threads.We will all want to know how you are.
jbibiza: There is a huge difference between the normal times of depression or feeling blue and being clinically depressed. It sound like you need to check yourself into a facility for a period of time to get on the right meds, the right dosage and a heavy dose of therapy. Thinking that you can get through this by yourself or with a bit of support from people around you is a huge mistake.
Raymond1953: I've been dealing with depression issues for most of my life but it seems to be getting worse with each day regardless of medication and therapy. I have no real friends to speak of. That is, the kind of friends that will be there when I go through these really dark horrible times. I'm always trying to fight back this feeling like I want to end it all. I'm really scared and extremely lonely.
Ray as a recovered depressive I know what youre going through. I've been there, done that and got the T-Shirt. Zoloft helped me immensely. I dont know if you'd tried it....but it worked for me. Rick
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Depression is the ilness of our modern world, a huge percentage of population is suffering, some of them don't know about their disease. I received a lot of help from a movie that I reccommend: "The Secret", it is about the Law of Universal attraction. Please watch it!
My advise is to GO OUT daily at least 1/2 hour, meet positive people, new ones, move the furniture in the house, do some new things that you never done, buy a puppy, invite people to your house, listen relaxation music. If you feel you can not do none of this now, go to see a doctor to take a pill prescription. You'll feel much, much better.
Raymond1953: I am very moved by all the wonderful advice and well wishes from everyone on this forum. I feel a little bit better today. It's unreal how one minute I'll be fine, then out of nowhere, like magic, I'll sink into a very dark place as if some cloud just came over me and left me feeling hopeless, lost and paralyzed with fear and dread. Thank you everyone. And I will stay here in these forums and get involved with other topics. And maybe, by me trying help someone that feels the way I do, I might be able to help myself in the process.
Great to hear you say this, Raymond. Remember, we are essentially made of a whole heap of electrical wiring and chemicals all in one big intricate mix. It's so easy for our system to get 'out of tune'. Sometimes it doesn't take much to upset the electrical firing in our brain. Do be mindful of the quality of your thoughts, and try to reframe any negative thinking into something more positive and constructive, inevitably it will be a much less catastrpohic thinking pattern.
The other thing is to be mindful of being more in the 'here and now'. Go for a walk, be close to nature, notice the flower bud, walk near water, listen to sounds of the birds, they are very uplifting. All the best. And do smile. It's hard to be sad if you smile. better still. Hire some very funny dvd's.
Dysthymia has plagued me since I was a teen. It is a chronic low level depression. I would have maybe 3 good days followed by 7 or 8 days of doom and gloom. It got to the point where I was suicidal in my late twenties, and early thirties. Wellbutrin has helped alot. I would also recommend the books The Power of Now, and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
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I have no real friends to speak of.
That is, the kind of friends that will be there when I go through these really dark horrible times.
I'm always trying to fight back this feeling like I want to end it all.
I'm really scared and extremely lonely.
talk talk talk.get out in the sunshine,excercise enjoy urself.............only words as u r the one in the middle.but may help