lanabyteOPCharleston, West Virginia USA1,223 posts
Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!
And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.
My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?
mbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA16,449 posts
There may be many reasons, good or bad, why he hasn't asked you any questions. Maybe he doesn't want to appear pushy or nosy. Maybe you are right, he wants to just hook up.
I would come out and ask him if he would like to know anything about you. Good luck to you!!
lanabyte: Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!
And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.
My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?
some people dont want to appear to pushy or nosey right off the bat, but I'd say after a while if nothing comes along, there's either a self absorbed person on the other end or someone who likes to just enjoy themselves online ... I'd give it more time, see which way the wind blows, could just be a non pushy person.
I wouldn't be worried, not everybody is into asking lots of questions.
I usually don't ask too much, I prefer to listen and understand what's being said....eventually I will ask questions but sometimes you are finding out much more just by small conversation .....sometimes extremely important details that would not come up at a standard" interview" conversation....
Plus, "go with the flow" created a stronger bond usually and brings comfortability into a relatioship.
I appreciate a man that holds an enjoyable conversation without giving me a CV or asking for one.
mbcasey: There may be many reasons, good or bad, why he hasn't asked you any questions. Maybe he doesn't want to appear pushy or nosy. Maybe you are right, he wants to just hook up.
I would come out and ask him if he would like to know anything about you. Good luck to you!!
Clarification: I wouldn't make a female feel like she was being grilled by Joe Friday. But I would tend to ask open ended questions....rather than sit there w/a blank look on my face.
lanabyte: Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!
And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.
My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?
JMO he doesn't like rejection and he is waiting for you to let him know that you are very interested in him
Indyfella: Clarification: I wouldn't make a female feel like she was being grilled by Joe Friday. But I would tend to ask open ended questions....rather than sit there w/a blank look on my face.
I kind of like my blank look ... makes me look distinguisheD
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And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.
My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?