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Aug 24, 2008 10:24 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
lanabyte
lanabytelanabyteCharleston, West Virginia USA31 Threads 1 Polls 1,674 Posts
Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!

And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.

My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?

sigh
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Aug 24, 2008 10:27 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Indyfella
IndyfellaIndyfellaindianapolis, Indiana USA230 Threads 9 Polls 27,698 Posts
I would ask tons of questions, but that's just my style... No clue what's up w/him? dunno
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Aug 24, 2008 10:33 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA78 Threads 7 Polls 21,350 Posts
There may be many reasons, good or bad, why he hasn't asked you any questions. Maybe he doesn't want to appear pushy or nosy. Maybe you are right, he wants to just hook up.

I would come out and ask him if he would like to know anything about you. Good luck to you!!
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Aug 24, 2008 10:37 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
lanabyte: Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!

And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.

My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?


some people dont want to appear to pushy or nosey right off the bat, but I'd say after a while if nothing comes along, there's either a self absorbed person on the other end or someone who likes to just enjoy themselves online ... I'd give it more time, see which way the wind blows, could just be a non pushy person.
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Aug 24, 2008 10:37 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Xtabentun
XtabentunXtabentunOntario, Canada28 Threads 2,372 Posts
I wouldn't be worried, not everybody is into asking lots of questions.

I usually don't ask too much, I prefer to listen and understand what's being said....eventually I will ask questions but sometimes you are finding out much more just by small conversation .....sometimes extremely important details that would not come up at a standard" interview" conversation....


Plus, "go with the flow" created a stronger bond usually and brings comfortability into a relatioship.

I appreciate a man that holds an enjoyable conversation without giving me a CV or asking for one.
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Aug 24, 2008 10:38 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
mbcasey: There may be many reasons, good or bad, why he hasn't asked you any questions. Maybe he doesn't want to appear pushy or nosy. Maybe you are right, he wants to just hook up.

I would come out and ask him if he would like to know anything about you. Good luck to you!!


haha, I copied and pasted your post almost ..


wave
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Aug 24, 2008 10:39 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
worst people are the ones who's first question is ASL? mumbling
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Aug 24, 2008 10:39 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Xtabentun
XtabentunXtabentunOntario, Canada28 Threads 2,372 Posts
doh

Hehehe, I was intruding, you wanted a male perspective!

blushing roll eyes well....erase that from your study then!
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Aug 24, 2008 10:40 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
kkitty4u
kkitty4ukkitty4uSt Paul, Minnesota USA33 Threads 3 Polls 1,824 Posts
BnaturAl: haha, I copied and pasted your post almost ..



isn't it past your bed time tongue laugh wave
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Aug 24, 2008 10:41 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
kkitty4u: isn't it past your bed time


maybe its past my bed time .. yawn laugh


listen to music
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Aug 24, 2008 10:42 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Indyfella
IndyfellaIndyfellaindianapolis, Indiana USA230 Threads 9 Polls 27,698 Posts
Clarification: I wouldn't make a female feel like she was being grilled by Joe Friday. But I would tend to ask open ended questions....rather than sit there w/a blank look on my face.
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Aug 24, 2008 10:42 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
Indyfella: I would ask tons of questions, but that's just my style... No clue what's up w/him?
f*ck chuck D
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Aug 24, 2008 10:43 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
kkitty4u
kkitty4ukkitty4uSt Paul, Minnesota USA33 Threads 3 Polls 1,824 Posts
lanabyte: Last week someone (on another site) emailed me and we sent a couple emails back and forth. Not once did he ever ask anything about me, even when I said "feel free to ask me anything." So I figure he's not interested and just being polite so I didn't respond to the last email. A few days later, he emails again asking if I'm okay since he hadn't heard back from me and gave me his offsite email. So I figure ok, and send a note to his offsite email. We've chatted back and forth all weekend, but guess what? He *still* hasn't asked me a single question!

And no I didn't put my lifestory in my profile or any of my emails, so there should be plenty of questions someone would ask if they wanted to get to know me.

My first thought was that he just wants a hookup, but after our emails this weekend, I really don't think so. He seems very polite, funny, down-to-earth, and hasn't mentioned meeting once. I'm baffled. What gives?! Do guys not normally ask women questions when they're getting to know them? Or do I just have another weirdo?


JMO he doesn't like rejection and he is waiting for you to let him know that you are very interested in him wave
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Aug 24, 2008 10:43 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
shipoker58
shipoker58shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA35 Threads 4,332 Posts
guys can't win. either they are asking too many questions...or they aren't asking at all
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Aug 24, 2008 10:44 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Xtabentun
XtabentunXtabentunOntario, Canada28 Threads 2,372 Posts
mastic55: f*ck chuck D


jaw drop scold I didn't know you fancy Indy?
I kinddda had my eyes on himblues sigh
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Aug 24, 2008 10:45 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
Indyfella: Clarification: I wouldn't make a female feel like she was being grilled by Joe Friday. But I would tend to ask open ended questions....rather than sit there w/a blank look on my face.


I kind of like my blank look ... makes me look distinguisheD redclown
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Aug 24, 2008 10:45 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
kkitty4u
kkitty4ukkitty4uSt Paul, Minnesota USA33 Threads 3 Polls 1,824 Posts
BnaturAl: maybe its past my bed time ..

you know that some will be looking for you to be woked up in the morning banana yay
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Aug 24, 2008 10:46 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
Xtabentun
XtabentunXtabentunOntario, Canada28 Threads 2,372 Posts
BnaturAl: I kind of like my blank look ... makes me look distinguisheD


Deep, dark and mysterious smitten
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Aug 24, 2008 10:47 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
lanabyte
lanabytelanabyteCharleston, West Virginia USA31 Threads 1 Polls 1,674 Posts
mastic55: f*ck chuck D

That's even funnier considering that's his name! rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

Thanks for the replies everyone! Guess I'll go with the flow and see what happens. beer
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Aug 24, 2008 10:48 PM CST Male Perspective Please?
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
kkitty4u: you know that some will be looking for you to be woked up in the morning


I was up at 5 this morning, no one was around laugh

the cats meow is still alive even the he was the reason. mumbling


wink laugh
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