arabella: Someone mentioned nagging on another thread.It occurred to me that maybe women and men have a different view of what is "asking" and what is "nagging"
How many times does a woman get to ask before the man thinks she is nagging?
Or is asking always nagging?
Or is there a special way to ask that never becomes nagging?I do believe no woman REALLY wants to be seen as a nag to the man she loves
It's "nagging" when the woman is never satisfied, or never expresses any appreciation.
I live for pats on the back.
I will do almost anything for a woman I love, but if I don't feel appreciated, I promise I won't keep doing it for very long.
Tell me how awesome I am, tell me I'm appreciated, and I will run myself ragged just to hear it some more.
dillydally: Sorry but men nag more ,its been proven .
Now if only they could stop shifting the blame or at least learn what it means first
example:
We are meeting friends at 7pm for dinner... you start to get ready at 3pm.... it's 6.45pm and your still in the bathroom.... Now that's justification to nag!!!
Aug 28, 2008 12:43 PM CST Men, Please Explain "Nagging"
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads2,697 Posts
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK2,697 posts
stooie1971: example:
We are meeting friends at 7pm for dinner... you start to get ready at 3pm.... it's 6.45pm and your still in the bathroom.... Now that's justification to nag!!!
BnaturAl: guilt trips, tickets for a guilt trip, recycled guilt trips, all day guilt trips, weekend guilt trips and no vacation .
You don't need a vacation.... Now get back to the laundry...I've only asked you to finish it 5 times today..and stop typing to me with that look on your face.....
dillydally: thanks for that demonstration see ladies ?
I say that we'll going out for a dinner dance.... here's the crafty party... I tell her it starts at 4pm.... she starts to get ready a 1pm.... by 3.45pm she's done.... RESULT
The dinner dance doesn't start till 7pm..... sounds like a plan... I get myself ready....in 40 mins
You left her for forty minutes whilst you stroked your.... erm Ego
What has you little 'Cherry Bakewell' done in this time..... let me tell you!!!!
She's stood there looking in the Mirror... she's thinking 'My Hair's not right, Ma Bum looks big, I can't believe I thought I looked good in this........................... I'm getting changed!!!!!
Guy's we're ready to Rock N Roll........ do yourself a favour my brothers... grab a beer from the fridge and enjoy the football
diogenes: It's "nagging" when the woman is never satisfied, or never expresses any appreciation.
I live for pats on the back.
I will do almost anything for a woman I love, but if I don't feel appreciated, I promise I won't keep doing it for very long.
Tell me how awesome I am, tell me I'm appreciated, and I will run myself ragged just to hear it some more.
JMSelfRighteousO
Great post. I totally agree with that. I think nobody likes to feel unappreciated.
I also wanted to say taht nagging never involves asking. Its someone repeatedly tells you to do something over and over again and hassles you until you do it. Yes, i know what you're going to say - if you did it the first time, you wouldn't have to be nagged constantly but everyone procrastinates
I think nagging is just much a do about little things ... both men and women do it .. sooooooo no big deal.
But must say some people are terrible terrible nags .. ohh a known to me uncle is .. annddd a cousins wife is ...
I think its endless non-appreciation and i want more sort of attitude topped with bad behavior and lack of concern for the other persons feelings or negativism and complaints day and nite ..
But when u are many years or months in to a relation and u know each other toooo well .. a little adjustment with each others attitudes can prevent a whole lot of frustration induced nagging.
Hugz_n_Kissez: You don't need a vacation.... Now get back to the laundry...I've only asked you to finish it 5 times today..and stop typing to me with that look on your face.....
nagging is what men say women are doing if they ask them nicely, to do the thing they have been asking them to do a hundred times already and they havent done it. If you don't want a woman ( or man- goes both ways) to 'nag' at you , then just effing DO IT!!!!
Nagging is when a woman won't let things drop. She has to get the last word. She can't just ask you to do xyz, she has to remind you how long it took you to do uvw and stu. Basically, imagine your wife or girlfriend treating you like they are your employer and asking for things in that tone....
I manage to find intelligent guys, who notice when the lawn needs mowing, the bathroom tile is falling off, a lightbulb is out, the car needs a service.
And if he does not, then I will mow the grass when it needs doing, empty the trash, fix the tile, change the lightbulb, book the car to be collected.
I manage to find intelligent guys, who notice when the lawn needs mowing, the bathroom tile is falling off, a lightbulb is out, the car needs a service.
And if he does not, then I will mow the grass when it needs doing, empty the trash, fix the tile, change the lightbulb, book the car to be collected.
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It occurred to me that maybe women and men have a different view of what is "asking" and what is "nagging"
How many times does a woman get to ask before the man thinks she is nagging?
Or is asking always nagging?
Or is there a special way to ask that never becomes nagging?
I do believe no woman REALLY wants to be seen as a nag to the man she loves