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Aug 31, 2008 8:19 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
womanofvalues
womanofvalueswomanofvaluesHamburg, Germany7 Threads 31 Posts
And he would star to tell you things, that he never did before, and asking you for forgiveness, and, and ,and...
Regarding that this relationship was difficult, and sort of awkward... And considering of the difficulties of his personality.. What would you think, and, would you give him a knew chance ? If he did asked you for ? Your opinion is important to me...
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Aug 31, 2008 8:21 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
For me personally.. no.

had your chance.. you snooze you lose!

I have had something like that happen to me.. and much as I still thought the world of them.. still missed them.. and still hurt to think of them.. and would still love to be with them really.


NOPE... no chance.

snooty I'm stubborn like that.



laugh
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Aug 31, 2008 8:36 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
fireliter
fireliterfireliterAllen Park, Michigan USA635 Threads 17 Polls 7,934 Posts
womanofvalues: And he would star to tell you things, that he never did before, and asking you for forgiveness, and, and ,and...
Regarding that this relationship was difficult, and sort of awkward... And considering of the difficulties of his personality.. What would you think, and, would you give him a knew chance ? If he did asked you for ? Your opinion is important to me...


10 years and still "not really over him" !!!

sounds like you already have made a decision.

final thought if he's changed then he's not the same person you knew 10 years ago.... So enjoy relearning him, heck throw out that "3 date rule"wink
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Aug 31, 2008 8:37 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
womanofvalues
womanofvalueswomanofvaluesHamburg, Germany7 Threads 31 Posts
Hi Claayer,

Thanks you for your response. You said you are stubborn like that.. Can it be, that you are cunfusing with "pride". I am sorry, I hope that I could express myself well...! Or maybe it wasn't really love... I always heard that who really loves can always forgive. ( If there's a big problem in between.. ) blushing
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Aug 31, 2008 8:48 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
womanofvalues: Hi Claayer,

Thanks you for your response. You said you are stubborn like that.. Can it be, that you are cunfusing with "pride". I am sorry, I hope that I could express myself well...! Or maybe it wasn't really love... I always heard that who really loves can always forgive. ( If there's a big problem in between.. )


Hellooo wave

Yes it's probably pride. (and some stubbornness lol)

I just flatly refuse to move backwards.

and you are right..

given time .. if they pestered me ENOUGH.. and said enough of the right things.. then perhaps I WOULD buckle.. (but I don't know)

but I don't intend to go down without a fight to maintain my 'pride'

Are you in this situation now?

hug
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Aug 31, 2008 8:52 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
BnaturAl
BnaturAlBnaturAlSarnia, Ontario Canada141 Threads 8 Polls 10,411 Posts
womanofvalues: And he would star to tell you things, that he never did before, and asking you for forgiveness, and, and ,and...
Regarding that this relationship was difficult, and sort of awkward... And considering of the difficulties of his personality.. What would you think, and, would you give him a knew chance ? If he did asked you for ? Your opinion is important to me...


I dont like to have a real hardline stance on such things, but there would have to be some real significant change in that person under consideration, a series of never ending bl** job and begging might also tip the scales.

For the most part there's a reason they were X'd and its not because there was any treasure there. roll eyes
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Aug 31, 2008 8:53 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada288 Threads 1 Polls 7,330 Posts
I would say since it has been 10 years and maybe the difficulties with his personality is different now. The only way you will find out is to see him again, but with caution.
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Aug 31, 2008 8:54 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
kitty01: I would say since it has been 10 years and maybe the difficulties with his personality is different now. The only way you will find out is to see him again, but with caution.


Oo Kittola..

you are in a grown up 'sensible' mooood this morning.

giggle

wave hug
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Aug 31, 2008 8:57 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Every situation is different, but I would be inclined to at least meet up for a coffee or a drink and see how things are.

After my divorce a guy I had never quite gotten over gave me a call, we met for dinner and had a really good conversation, but the fact was we had both changed so much and were very different people then when we had been together. It was nice to see him and the added bonus was I didn´t have any of those "what if" thoughts about him any more.
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Aug 31, 2008 9:00 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
HondoLaneNJ
HondoLaneNJHondoLaneNJtoms river, New Jersey USA6 Threads 1,194 Posts
I guess it would depend on whether or not I were involved in a relationship at the time, how much I actually liked her, how long since I last...you know...lol....rolling on the floor laughing


sigh.....I'm shallow...I know....wave
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Aug 31, 2008 9:02 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada288 Threads 1 Polls 7,330 Posts
Claayer: Oo Kittila..

you are in a grown up 'sensible' mooood this morning.


I am in a tired mood been up since 2:30 this morning when my granddaughter got up and came to sleep with me. She sleep me got up.wave
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Aug 31, 2008 9:03 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
HondoLaneNJ: I guess it would depend on whether or not I were involved in a relationship at the time, how much I actually liked her, how long since I last...you know...lol.... sigh.....I'm shallow...I know....


No darling... you´re just a man...laugh comfort
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Aug 31, 2008 9:04 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
kitty01: I am in a tired mood been up since 2:30 this morning when my granddaughter got up and came to sleep with me. She sleep me got up.


Oo try and have a little more sleep later.. I little snooze on the sofa maybe.

then you can fill up your naughty Kitty tank.. thumbs up


laugh
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Aug 31, 2008 9:04 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
HondoLaneNJ: I guess it would depend on whether or not I were involved in a relationship at the time, how much I actually liked her, how long since I last...you know...lol.... sigh.....I'm shallow...I know....


laugh laugh
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Aug 31, 2008 9:05 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
bob1959
bob1959bob1959otisfield, Maine USA65 Threads 3 Polls 2,729 Posts
From the guy point of veiw, This guy has been thinking of you at least off and on for 10 years. It's REALLY hard for a guy to do what he is doing. He coming crawling back, even if it dosen't look that way to you, I bet my last dollar it feels that way to him. And he's doing it. He may very well feel like he's never going to find anyone like you. I say absolutly, give him a CHANCE. I'm not saying go walzing down any isles any time soon. You don't need to rush either. I'm not saying play games with the poor guy's heart, but if he's for real, he's not going anywhere any time soon. I would be excited about this if I were you.
I noticed he was asking for" forgivness". If this was about cheating, then all bets are off. Run, that leopard dosen't change it's spots, but anything short of that, hey take a shot. give him a chance. jmho
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Aug 31, 2008 9:07 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
bob1959
bob1959bob1959otisfield, Maine USA65 Threads 3 Polls 2,729 Posts
jbibiza: Every situation is different, but I would be inclined to at least meet up for a coffee or a drink and see how things are.

After my divorce a guy I had never quite gotten over gave me a call, we met for dinner and had a really good conversation, but the fact was we had both changed so much and were very different people then when we had been together. It was nice to see him and the added bonus was I didn´t have any of those "what if" thoughts about him any more.
"what if" thoughts, now THATS a good point.thumbs up
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Aug 31, 2008 9:07 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
bob1959: From the guy point of veiw, This guy has been thinking of you at least off and on for 10 years. It's REALLY hard for a guy to do what he is doing. He coming crawling back, even if it dosen't look that way to you, I bet my last dollar it feels that way to him. And he's doing it. He may very well feel like he's never going to find anyone like you. I say absolutly, give him a CHANCE. I'm not saying go walzing down any isles any time soon. You don't need to rush either. I'm not saying play games with the poor guy's heart, but if he's for real, he's not going anywhere any time soon. I would be excited about this if I were you.
I noticed he was asking for" forgivness". If this was about cheating, then all bets are off. Run, that leopard dosen't change it's spots, but anything short of that, hey take a shot. give him a chance. jmho


Hellooooo Bob wave

On the flip side of that..

I would take it to mean.. that some how he has landed on his arse.. feels alone.. everything has gone wrong.. he is single.. cant find anyone.. and then looks to the person that he knew things were good with.

Then tries to recreate it.

dunno

But thats just me.. Ms Queen Analyst. laugh


hug
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Aug 31, 2008 9:08 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
and if that were the case..

he could BUGGER OFF! thumbs down


laugh
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Aug 31, 2008 9:11 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada288 Threads 1 Polls 7,330 Posts
Claayer: Hellooooo Bob

On the flip side of that..

I would take it to mean.. that some how he has landed on his arse.. feels alone.. everything has gone wrong.. he is single.. cant find anyone.. and then looks to the person that he knew things were good with.

Then tries to recreate it.



But thats just me.. Ms Queen Analyst.


True, why now after 10 years. What took him so long to see he was a jerk before.
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Aug 31, 2008 9:14 AM CST Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..)
venere08
venere08venere08Puglia and Autumn, South Australia Australia147 Threads 2 Polls 14,452 Posts
womanofvalues: And he would star to tell you things, that he never did before, and asking you for forgiveness, and, and ,and...
Regarding that this relationship was difficult, and sort of awkward... And considering of the difficulties of his personality.. What would you think, and, would you give him a knew chance ? If he did asked you for ? Your opinion is important to me...


Ten years is a long time. Time enough for people to possibly grow and mature. It is possible that this man has done just that. You will not know until you do meet with him. If you are not yet over him, then even more reason to go through this process, and allow yourself to achieve some closure. If more than that occurs, even better. Give it a chance though. All the best.

wave
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