This is a waste of my time, online dateing. (141)
hmm gradually i seem to begin is to understand how and why people feel this frustration here ever now and then ..
Hi Mastic
hmm I think on CS the no. of people who mention on the forums that they met and the later followup is much lesser than the ones who actually do. Simply cos a lot of people IMO would love the confidentiality and in case it all goes wrong coming back to the forums is not difficult or painful.
Hi Mastic
hmm I think on CS the no. of people who mention on the forums that they met and the later followup is much lesser than the ones who actually do. Simply cos a lot of people IMO would love the confidentiality and in case it all goes wrong coming back to the forums is not difficult or painful.
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using an international forum to find a date is a little bit redicules. While not impossible, the chances of finding a partner is slim. If you are wealthy and can afford to travel at the drop of a hat, I guess this is a good way to find a partner. And I seem to see a lot of people on this site can afford to do that.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
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Oh you could not possibly do worse than me.
I have done shockingly, I almost gave up, until I joined the forums.
If a person comes along, great, but I am happy bantering and pissing off lots of people in here with my off centre thoughts.
I have done shockingly, I almost gave up, until I joined the forums.
If a person comes along, great, but I am happy bantering and pissing off lots of people in here with my off centre thoughts.
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shipoker58: using an international forum to find a date is a little bit redicules. While not impossible, the chances of finding a partner is slim. If you are wealthy and can afford to travel at the drop of a hat, I guess this is a good way to find a partner. And I seem to see a lot of people on this site can afford to do that.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
But Ship, you have me and you just refuse to see it.
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shipoker58: using an international forum to find a date is a little bit redicules. While not impossible, the chances of finding a partner is slim. If you are wealthy and can afford to travel at the drop of a hat, I guess this is a good way to find a partner. And I seem to see a lot of people on this site can afford to do that.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
However, those of us on a limited income, would be better off in the local sited rather than on an international dating site. But it's a fun site, for some. It's a way to express what you feel about world politics, religion and social issues. You can say what you really feel, and no one can punch you in the nose.
Using CS for dating though is ludicris.
hmm .... travelling all the way to meet someone to just check if its worth it or not can be an expensive affair.
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livinglarge: Don't be silly , the forums are gr8 fun and you would be missed !!
Copy that.
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riyablossom: hmm .... travelling all the way to meet someone to just check if its worth it or not can be an expensive affair.
Or just a waste of money and time....meaning traveling across an ocean to see somebody....I mean, what's so awesome about a
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StressFree: Or just a waste of money and time....meaning traveling across an ocean to see somebody....I mean, what's so awesome about a Transatlantic relationship? I did that for a while with my kids mom way back in the day....It's stupid is what it is unless somebody is going to move like right away...and how smart is that?
Its not necessarily stupid but can become.hmm say if u are exploring and this exploring is like out of the initial infatuation stages or is not well planned .. its definitely a waste of money more than time ..
But if you are adventorous minded , love travelling and meeting people .. it can be the trip you would love to take with meeting someone who has you all bowled over.
Personally .. if i am going to meet someone overseas .. if thats the sole purpose of travel .. i must be very sure i love whatever this person is like and wont regret the outcome .. whatever it maybe. Otherwise .. if its just to explore possibilities .. its going to be a trip plus fun times.
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Hi Mastic55!
I have read many of your forum posts over time, and my impression of you is that you are a lovely, witty, adorable person.
Here's my story, for what it's worth. I used to spend hours on my computer chatting with people I will never meet and reading/posting in the forums. One day I was watching my son at a local state park, marveling at how 5 minutes after our arrival he had already found a playmate and was having a great time. Do you remember how easy it was to make friends as a child? We didn't over analyze everything. We just walked up to someone and started interacting. It suddenly hit my like a brick - GET OFF THE INTERNET AND OUT INTO THE WORLD! PRETEND YOU'RE A KID ON THE SCHOOL YARD! So, I started limiting my internet time to about 15 minutes a day. As a result, I am having the time of my life!
I have read a number of posts referring to the wonderful "friends" met here on CS. I came to realize that all those "friends" with whom I was chatting were really "acquaintances." My friends were the people nearby whom I was neglecting by spending so much time on line! My friends are the people who pick up my kid from school when I have a flat tire, accompany me to the funeral of a loved one when they know I need a shoulder to lean on, help me pack when I'm moving, lend me a cup of sugar when I'm too just too tired or lazy to go to the store, bring me chicken soup when I'm sick, let me sleep at their place when a storm causes an electrical outage at mine, etc., etc., etc. I reciprocate such acts of friendship for them as well. I have realized that friendship is a lot of work.
Although there are MANY fabulous people on CS whom I am sure would be great friends, the inherent geographic challenge prevents friendship (by my definition). The most anyone here can offer is a kind word or solicited/unsolicited advice. To me, that is an acquaintance. I decided that it is worthwhile to forego 100 cyber-acquaintances for 1 three-dimensional friend.
Well, my 15-minute internet time has expired. I'm outta here! Again, I think you're great!
I have read many of your forum posts over time, and my impression of you is that you are a lovely, witty, adorable person.
Here's my story, for what it's worth. I used to spend hours on my computer chatting with people I will never meet and reading/posting in the forums. One day I was watching my son at a local state park, marveling at how 5 minutes after our arrival he had already found a playmate and was having a great time. Do you remember how easy it was to make friends as a child? We didn't over analyze everything. We just walked up to someone and started interacting. It suddenly hit my like a brick - GET OFF THE INTERNET AND OUT INTO THE WORLD! PRETEND YOU'RE A KID ON THE SCHOOL YARD! So, I started limiting my internet time to about 15 minutes a day. As a result, I am having the time of my life!
I have read a number of posts referring to the wonderful "friends" met here on CS. I came to realize that all those "friends" with whom I was chatting were really "acquaintances." My friends were the people nearby whom I was neglecting by spending so much time on line! My friends are the people who pick up my kid from school when I have a flat tire, accompany me to the funeral of a loved one when they know I need a shoulder to lean on, help me pack when I'm moving, lend me a cup of sugar when I'm too just too tired or lazy to go to the store, bring me chicken soup when I'm sick, let me sleep at their place when a storm causes an electrical outage at mine, etc., etc., etc. I reciprocate such acts of friendship for them as well. I have realized that friendship is a lot of work.
Although there are MANY fabulous people on CS whom I am sure would be great friends, the inherent geographic challenge prevents friendship (by my definition). The most anyone here can offer is a kind word or solicited/unsolicited advice. To me, that is an acquaintance. I decided that it is worthwhile to forego 100 cyber-acquaintances for 1 three-dimensional friend.
Well, my 15-minute internet time has expired. I'm outta here! Again, I think you're great!
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riyablossom: Its not necessarily stupid but can become.
hmm say if u are exploring and this exploring is like out of the initial infatuation stages or is not well planned .. its definitely a waste of money more than time ..
But if you are adventorous minded , love travelling and meeting people .. it can be the trip you would love to take with meeting someone who has you all bowled over.
Personally .. if i am going to meet someone overseas .. if thats the sole purpose of travel .. i must be very sure i love whatever this person is like and wont regret the outcome .. whatever it maybe. Otherwise .. if its just to explore possibilities .. its going to be a trip plus fun times.
hmm say if u are exploring and this exploring is like out of the initial infatuation stages or is not well planned .. its definitely a waste of money more than time ..
But if you are adventorous minded , love travelling and meeting people .. it can be the trip you would love to take with meeting someone who has you all bowled over.
Personally .. if i am going to meet someone overseas .. if thats the sole purpose of travel .. i must be very sure i love whatever this person is like and wont regret the outcome .. whatever it maybe. Otherwise .. if its just to explore possibilities .. its going to be a trip plus fun times.
I can understand that perspective
Nothing is as unsure as a sure thing...
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lktolbert: Hi Mastic55!
I have read many of your forum posts over time, and my impression of you is that you are a lovely, witty, adorable person.
Here's my story, for what it's worth. I used to spend hours on my computer chatting with people I will never meet and reading/posting in the forums. One day I was watching my son at a local state park, marveling at how 5 minutes after our arrival he had already found a playmate and was having a great time. Do you remember how easy it was to make friends as a child? We didn't over analyze everything. We just walked up to someone and started interacting. It suddenly hit my like a brick - GET OFF THE INTERNET AND OUT INTO THE WORLD! PRETEND YOU'RE A KID ON THE SCHOOL YARD! So, I started limiting my internet time to about 15 minutes a day. As a result, I am having the time of my life!
I have read a number of posts referring to the wonderful "friends" met here on CS. I came to realize that all those "friends" with whom I was chatting were really "acquaintances." My friends were the people nearby whom I was neglecting by spending so much time on line! My friends are the people who pick up my kid from school when I have a flat tire, accompany me to the funeral of a loved one when they know I need a shoulder to lean on, help me pack when I'm moving, lend me a cup of sugar when I'm too just too tired or lazy to go to the store, bring me chicken soup when I'm sick, let me sleep at their place when a storm causes an electrical outage at mine, etc., etc., etc. I reciprocate such acts of friendship for them as well. I have realized that friendship is a lot of work.
Although there are MANY fabulous people on CS whom I am sure would be great friends, the inherent geographic challenge prevents friendship (by my definition). The most anyone here can offer is a kind word or solicited/unsolicited advice. To me, that is an acquaintance. I decided that it is worthwhile to forego 100 cyber-acquaintances for 1 three-dimensional friend.
Well, my 15-minute internet time has expired. I'm outta here! Again, I think you're great!
I have read many of your forum posts over time, and my impression of you is that you are a lovely, witty, adorable person.
Here's my story, for what it's worth. I used to spend hours on my computer chatting with people I will never meet and reading/posting in the forums. One day I was watching my son at a local state park, marveling at how 5 minutes after our arrival he had already found a playmate and was having a great time. Do you remember how easy it was to make friends as a child? We didn't over analyze everything. We just walked up to someone and started interacting. It suddenly hit my like a brick - GET OFF THE INTERNET AND OUT INTO THE WORLD! PRETEND YOU'RE A KID ON THE SCHOOL YARD! So, I started limiting my internet time to about 15 minutes a day. As a result, I am having the time of my life!
I have read a number of posts referring to the wonderful "friends" met here on CS. I came to realize that all those "friends" with whom I was chatting were really "acquaintances." My friends were the people nearby whom I was neglecting by spending so much time on line! My friends are the people who pick up my kid from school when I have a flat tire, accompany me to the funeral of a loved one when they know I need a shoulder to lean on, help me pack when I'm moving, lend me a cup of sugar when I'm too just too tired or lazy to go to the store, bring me chicken soup when I'm sick, let me sleep at their place when a storm causes an electrical outage at mine, etc., etc., etc. I reciprocate such acts of friendship for them as well. I have realized that friendship is a lot of work.
Although there are MANY fabulous people on CS whom I am sure would be great friends, the inherent geographic challenge prevents friendship (by my definition). The most anyone here can offer is a kind word or solicited/unsolicited advice. To me, that is an acquaintance. I decided that it is worthwhile to forego 100 cyber-acquaintances for 1 three-dimensional friend.
Well, my 15-minute internet time has expired. I'm outta here! Again, I think you're great!
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livinglarge: Don't be silly , the forums are gr8 fun and you would be missed !!
Thats about it I just hang out here to chat...
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SatelliteServer: Thats about it I just hang out here to chat...
And lucky you, people actually respond to your posts
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c_brooks: I Kinda know how ya feel,but I have no luck off or online,I'm screwed both ways.
C'brook please don't say things like "screwed both ways" around here,
it's not safe.
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I'll keep that in mind.I agree and also become the person you seek if you aren't already.... If you want love...be loving...
If you want kindness...be kind..
If you want trust...be trusting...
If you want faithfulness be faithful...
If you want trustworthiness be trustworthy....
If you want compassion...be compassionate...
If you want confidence...be confident...
If you want friendship...be a friend...
If you want honesty be honest.... etc etc etc.BUT you have to genuinely become these things...not just go through the motions....too many people seek what they have not or are not willing to become!!!!![/quote]
Seriously, Hugsy, that last sentence packs a very nice wallop! 
If you want kindness...be kind..
If you want trust...be trusting...
If you want faithfulness be faithful...
If you want trustworthiness be trustworthy....
If you want compassion...be compassionate...
If you want confidence...be confident...
If you want friendship...be a friend...
If you want honesty be honest.... etc etc etc.BUT you have to genuinely become these things...not just go through the motions....too many people seek what they have not or are not willing to become!!!!![/quote]
Seriously, Hugsy, that last sentence packs a very nice wallop!
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Mastic
See my rant about it in the divorce thread.
See my rant about it in the divorce thread.
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c_brooks: Oh yeah I forgot bunch of pervs are on here. I'll keep that in mind.
Don't worry...I'll save you.
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No wonder you're getting frustrated.
Fishing is much more fun,
of course you heave tyo know where to look but there are... plenty of fish ...in the sea.
Ocee is right.
CS is a nice site, but I think there is more action elsewhere....
Ever notice how many people mention meeting someone, but they say they met them on another site??
A least you have a geographical advantage and don't live in the middle of nowhere like me!!!!