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Sep 3, 2008 8:52 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
bluepoint
bluepointbluepointzurich, Zurich Switzerland37 Threads 103 Posts
what is batter to hide and keep like sicret,or openly thell the news?yay
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Sep 3, 2008 8:59 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
Dusty45
Dusty45Dusty45Louisville, Kentucky USA57 Threads 3,238 Posts
Maybe better to change what you do. If what you believe is hurtful... stop it.

Perhaps it's your cross to bear. Change.

dunno
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Sep 3, 2008 9:22 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
Who's cheating you or your partner?... it's your right to go with who you want and it's a partners right to know to see if the relationship should continue.
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Sep 3, 2008 9:23 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
mastic55
mastic55mastic55Long Island, New York USA217 Threads 10,073 Posts
Also to the both of you, on top of me, get some color photos this ain't the 30's....jmo
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Sep 3, 2008 9:44 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
Well, interesting question.

Depends.

Anybody like me to elaborate?
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Sep 3, 2008 9:45 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
Sommerauer71: Well, interesting question.

Depends.

Anybody like me to elaborate?



Yes, please do.wave
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Sep 3, 2008 9:46 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
bluepoint: what is batter to hide and keep like sicret,or openly thell the news?








doh
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Sep 3, 2008 9:54 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
kidatheart: Yes, please do.


Hi you!

Have not seen you for a couple of days.

If a partner has a need to ask, then of course tell the truth, but if a partner has made the mistake of having a one night stand, then I think it is best that we keep our mouths shut.

Now, I am all about honesty, I like it, I do it, but I pressed and pressed my last partner, who in the end confessed to a one night stand, if I had not pressed, then I would not have known any different.

In the end, it drove us apart, along with many other issues, but I could not let it go.

I suppose the mistruat was there, initially, but there should not be questions asked about fidelity, if you are with a person, it should be natural that you trust them.

I have loved two men, deeply, one had an affair for three years, the other had a one night stand.

So, no, a one night stand, if the other person has no need to question trust, then what is to be gained from confessing?

Nothing.


If you want to remain with that person.
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Sep 3, 2008 9:58 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
Tater
TaterTaterspringfield, Illinois USA69 Threads 3 Polls 5,159 Posts
thumbs down thumbs down thumbs down scold barf
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Sep 3, 2008 10:06 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
Harleyquinn
HarleyquinnHarleyquinnBetwixt the stix, Illinois USA11 Threads 2,109 Posts
I believe in the truth, from both sides, to be fully informed.

This is the only way that both can make a fully informed decision.

If you don't want to lose somebody, don't mess around! That simple!
If you don't want to know then tell your partner so. However that doesn't necessarily mean that your patner wouldn't want to know.

Love is easy, relationships, however, require some work.







SHANTI
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Sep 3, 2008 10:08 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
shipoker58
shipoker58shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA35 Threads 4,332 Posts
tell the person....at least give them the opportunity to get tested . You disgusting pervert, you
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Sep 3, 2008 10:18 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
Sommerauer71: Hi you!

Have not seen you for a couple of days.

If a partner has a need to ask, then of course tell the truth, but if a partner has made the mistake of having a one night stand, then I think it is best that we keep our mouths shut.

Now, I am all about honesty, I like it, I do it, but I pressed and pressed my last partner, who in the end confessed to a one night stand, if I had not pressed, then I would not have known any different.

In the end, it drove us apart, along with many other issues, but I could not let it go.

I suppose the mistruat was there, initially, but there should not be questions asked about fidelity, if you are with a person, it should be natural that you trust them.

I have loved two men, deeply, one had an affair for three years, the other had a one night stand.

So, no, a one night stand, if the other person has no need to question trust, then what is to be gained from confessing?

Nothing. If you want to remain with that person.



I went to the city and forgot Monday was a holiday here, then my truck puked it's guts out on the highway, leaving me stranded for half the day yesterday. doh

At least it was sunny.laugh


I do sot of agree with you, but I've never been in this position from either end, but have wondered if I'd want to know, or would tell. If it was a one time fling it might be best to keep quiet and live with the guilt, but would that come back and haunt you later, or if your partner found out years down the road, would it have been better to confess earlier on.
I guess all one can do is hope they're never in that situation.
sad flower
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Sep 3, 2008 10:28 AM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
kkitty4u
kkitty4ukkitty4uSt Paul, Minnesota USA33 Threads 3 Polls 1,824 Posts
shipoker58: tell the person....at least give them the opportunity to get tested . You disgusting pervert, you


why does this make a person a pervert? You dont even know the situation wow
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Sep 4, 2008 4:56 PM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
airliner
airlinerairlinerCentral, New Jersey USA24 Threads 2 Polls 6,726 Posts
I would like to nominate this tread one of the funniest ones everrolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 4, 2008 4:58 PM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia77 Threads 1 Polls 26,530 Posts
weird a** thread uh oh
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Sep 4, 2008 5:01 PM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA78 Threads 7 Polls 21,350 Posts
airliner: I would like to nominate this tread one of the funniest ones ever


I don't even understand the damn thread Hank...

is this about 3-somes? I guess the other person should be told they are currently having sex with the other 2 people...doh dunno
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Sep 4, 2008 5:08 PM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
airliner
airlinerairlinerCentral, New Jersey USA24 Threads 2 Polls 6,726 Posts
mbcasey: I don't even understand the damn thread Hank...

is this about 3-somes? I guess the other person should be told they are currently having sex with the other 2 people...


rolling on the floor laughing

my best guess is she had no clue what she was typing, as she was probably way over the legal alcohol limit laugh
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Sep 4, 2008 5:09 PM CST is it better to thell partner for having sex with other person?
mrsmiles4444
mrsmiles4444mrsmiles4444Colonial Beach, Virginia USA42 Threads 560 Posts
Sommerauer71: Hi you!

Have not seen you for a couple of days.

If a partner has a need to ask, then of course tell the truth, but if a partner has made the mistake of having a one night stand, then I think it is best that we keep our mouths shut.

Now, I am all about honesty, I like it, I do it, but I pressed and pressed my last partner, who in the end confessed to a one night stand, if I had not pressed, then I would not have known any different.

In the end, it drove us apart, along with many other issues, but I could not let it go.

I suppose the mistruat was there, initially, but there should not be questions asked about fidelity, if you are with a person, it should be natural that you trust them.

I have loved two men, deeply, one had an affair for three years, the other had a one night stand.

So, no, a one night stand, if the other person has no need to question trust, then what is to be gained from confessing?

Nothing. If you want to remain with that person.



No! No! No! No! No! If you should have a one night stand, and choose NOT to devulge this information to your significant other, do you know the pain you could cause this person WHEN they find out? How could you live with yourself? How do you sleep at night? OH yeah! some people are just dishonest, and actually believe, THEY WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. NOT!
Once you've done it ,and your gf/bf does not know, because you've decided not to tell them, next time the opportunity presents itself , you will dive right in for more, because you feel, the excitement is great, and the fact you're getting away with it thrills you.
Get real! Once a cheat, always a cheat! a cheat feels one thing, and one thing only, me, me, me, me, me.
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