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Sep 3, 2008 9:52 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are. frustrated
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Sep 3, 2008 9:53 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
livinglarge
livinglargelivinglargein a good place, Kildare Ireland13 Threads 8,222 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
wave JMO .. do not call!
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Sep 3, 2008 9:55 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA78 Threads 7 Polls 21,350 Posts
livinglarge: JMO .. do not call!


I agree...don't call him.
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Sep 3, 2008 9:55 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.



I hate it too...the attempting to figure out how the other one feels stage...SUCKSSSSSSSS...big time...but maybe he just wants to see if you really want to see him and make the effort like he has...I would call him and go from there...don't try to figure it out...you'll just get an even bigger head-ache!!!!!!


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Sep 3, 2008 9:56 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
desmond
desmonddesmondkissimmee, Florida USA586 Threads 13,816 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.



Bev you should not have to caal if he really likes you and had a great time he should what another date don't chase him around
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Sep 3, 2008 9:58 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
I'd have no problem calling him.
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Sep 3, 2008 9:59 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
Ocee35
Ocee35Ocee35Jackson, Michigan USA94 Threads 2 Polls 6,057 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.



If you enjy spending time with him, call him, if he turns into jackass, he would have done that eventually anyway.


He could just be looking for a bit of reassurance that you enjoy your time together

and aren't just coming along for the ride..
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Sep 3, 2008 10:01 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
It can't mean anything good. The only time I can imagine saying that would be to a customer - to give them the option of contacting me if they were interested, rather than my soliciting them. I might also consider saying that if a lady's schedule was such that I couldn't predict a convenient time...also, if I'd been making most of the calls and thought she should take the initiative...

From what little I know of your situation, I'd guess it was a clear indicator of non-interest, and that you'd be wasting your time contacting him.
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Sep 3, 2008 10:02 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada33 Threads 24,897 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.



Call him if you want to talk to him, or don't. Maybe he'll call you, maybe he won't

It's not a "man" thing. doh

Is it just your perception of how he said it that makes it seem like a "power play"? Or has he indicated in other ways that he's like that?


On second thought, forget about him, don't call, kick his dog and burn down his house. He might be decent, but you can never be too careful.laugh


wave
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Sep 3, 2008 10:03 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
Ambrose2007
Ambrose2007Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA110 Threads 17 Polls 14,069 Posts
I just read the other responses to your question, Bebe... Interesting, the different takes on it.

It is certainly conceivable that his request is benign, as others have suggested. I just can't personally imagine saying that except under qualified circumstances...which don't seem to be yours.dunno
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Sep 3, 2008 10:05 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA298 Threads 31,072 Posts
kidatheart: Call him if you want to talk to him, or don't. Maybe he'll call you, maybe he won't

It's not a "man" thing.

Is it just your perception of how he said it that makes it seem like a "power play"? Or has he indicated in other ways that he's like that?On second thought, forget about him, don't call, kick his dog and burn down his house. He might be decent, but you can never be too careful.
doh rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 3, 2008 10:05 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
desmond: Bev you should not have to caal if he really likes you and had a great time he should what another date don't chase him around
[email protected], that's what I was afraid you'd all say. What if he seems a little insecure about things, should I maybe email him and let him know I did have a good time and would like to get to know him better? He did say, you have my number and my email. Then I said you've got mine too. So, email at least? dunno

Sorry gals, I'm deferring to the men on this, they are the only ones who know the insane workings of the male mind. confused laugh
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Sep 3, 2008 10:07 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
Call your favorite Texan.
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Sep 3, 2008 10:08 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
hollandgirl
hollandgirlhollandgirlSomewhere in Canada. B.C., British Columbia Canada711 Threads 6,072 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.



I would call him and if you can communicate with him, ask him why he asked you too call.
This I would do in person and not over the phone.
Bring things out in the open.
I always believe that communication is the key.
You got nothing to lose but maybe a lot to gain.



teddybear
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Sep 3, 2008 10:14 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
Ocee35: If you enjy spending time with him, call him, if he turns into jackass, he would have done that eventually anyway.He could just be looking for a bit of reassurance that you enjoy your time together
and aren't just coming along for the ride..
That's kinda the impression I got, he's not really the player type, just a good old country boy. dunno But what do I know? confused
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Sep 3, 2008 10:16 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
diogenes: Call your favorite Texan.
Uhh, digits hon, if I had yours this would not be a problem! laugh
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Sep 3, 2008 10:18 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
wixomwizard
wixomwizardwixomwizardWixom, Michigan USA50 Threads 5,742 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.


He is throwing the ball back into your court, now he wants to see how much interest you have in him and with a good many guys, not all, this means s*xual opportunity. I lot of guy's like to sample the goods before they make a descision and even then ,beware! Again, I say beware; again, I say not all.

Not all of us are after a quick piece, on the other hand, use caution. Trust me my Bama Belle, women do not corner the market on MANipulation!professor smitten hug kiss teddybear bouquet
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Sep 3, 2008 10:19 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA85 Threads 3 Polls 6,177 Posts
kidatheart: Call him if you want to talk to him, or don't. Maybe he'll call you, maybe he won't

It's not a "man" thing.

Is it just your perception of how he said it that makes it seem like a "power play"? Or has he indicated in other ways that he's like that?On second thought, forget about him, don't call, kick his dog and burn down his house. He might be decent, but you can never be too careful.
Wow, you're a lot of help! frustrated

Ok, everything but kick his dog! grin (Really not sure if he has one.confused )
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Sep 3, 2008 10:19 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
wfriars
wfriarswfriarsOklahoma City, Oklahoma USA26 Threads 467 Posts
I once dated a guy who had a three month rule...it drove me crazy...but I think now I see the perks of it. Have fun for a while, feel things out...don't worry about all the silly love stuff, just get to know them, and let them get to know you. In the end at minimum you have a new friend.
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Sep 3, 2008 10:20 PM CST I need help from my guy friends
katiecharlyn
katiecharlynkatiecharlyndublin, Georgia USA8 Threads 3,424 Posts
alabamabebe: Uhh, digits hon, if I had yours this would not be a problem!
let him call you bev! thats jmo grin


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