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Sep 4, 2008 12:19 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
friendsfirst
friendsfirstfriendsfirstBurbank, Illinois USA105 Threads 1 Polls 5,965 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.




Send him a text message.

LET'S DO LUNCH! :-)

Bev.One step back two steps forward.

It's a dance.This will lighten things up for the both of you.


You seem to be laboring over a decision here.

yay
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Sep 4, 2008 3:00 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK107 Threads 9 Polls 15,888 Posts
Hellooooo Bev wave

I wouldn't call.. but that's just me. snooty

I've had a chap chasing me about for 3mths (ish) .. He has asked and asked and asked
for me to call him. He gave me ALL (yeah LOADS! haha).. of contact numbers.. even his PA's number (LOL!!) He kept asking to come down (300miles) to take me out on a date.

and we this and we that.. (what! shock) ::runs:::

But I thought nowaaayyy am I calling.. He didn't once ask for MY number.. just kept asking me to call him. (and I'm learning NOT to do that with my new found dating skills haha)

Anyway.. after nearly 3mths he finally asked for my number.. and called me.
We talked for aaaages.. and he seemed like a really nice man. I liked him a lot.

But the second time he called me I had to go back to work within about 20mins..
and he got sulky and childish about it.. shock

So I emailed him later that evening just saying something about how I was surprised at his childish behaviour.. and that I had put up with that petty crap for years.. and wasn't prepared to do it again..devil
but if he still wanted to be buddies etc etc..

He took five days to reply to that.. (hahah).. saying he was sorry... he hadn't meant to upset me.
(He didn't upset me.. his crappy behaviour pissed me off)

I thought right.. I will make you wait for a reply to then.. snooty roll eyes laugh

Except after a while I forgot all abut replying to him at all.. and then it was too late..

so I never replied.. lol roll eyes

and I don't even care if he is some big cheese millionaire.. snooty haha


Okayy.. so that was an example of what happens when you don't call.. LOL

So maybe you should?

hug
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Sep 4, 2008 3:03 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK107 Threads 9 Polls 15,888 Posts
friendsfirst: Send him a text message.

LET'S DO LUNCH! :-)

Bev.One step back two steps forward.

It's a dance.This will lighten things up for the both of you.You seem to be laboring over a decision here.


Hellooo lovely Walter.. laugh teddybear
I agree.. it is a dance of sorts..

I have got much better at it the last few months.. learning what I should and shouldn't do.. should and shouldnt say.

and its been working really well.. applause

Except for me forgetting to call back Mr Big Cheese giggle

ahhh well.. plenty more fish in the dating pool. laugh
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Sep 4, 2008 3:04 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
markizamkd25
markizamkd25markizamkd25Skive, Central Jutland Denmark235 Threads 5 Polls 4,706 Posts
me neather,but i think its showing power and to see how much he can controle you.
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Sep 4, 2008 3:44 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
riyablossom
riyablossomriyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA184 Threads 18 Polls 11,244 Posts
Claayer: Hellooooo Bev

I wouldn't call.. but that's just me.

I've had a chap chasing me about for 3mths (ish) .. He has asked and asked and asked
for me to call him . He gave me ALL (yeah LOADS! haha).. of contact numbers.. even his PA's number (LOL!!) He kept asking to come down (300miles) to take me out on a date.

and we this and we that.. (what! ) ::runs:::

But I thought nowaaayyy am I calling.. He didn't once ask for MY number.. just kept asking me to call him. (and I'm learning NOT to do that with my new found dating skills haha)

Anyway.. after nearly 3mths he finally asked for my number.. and called me .
We talked for aaaages.. and he seemed like a really nice man. I liked him a lot.

But the second time he called me I had to go back to work within about 20mins..
and he got sulky and childish about it..

So I emailed him later that evening just saying something about how I was surprised at his childish behaviour.. and that I had put up with that petty crap for years.. and wasn't prepared to do it again..
but if he still wanted to be buddies etc etc..

He took five days to reply to that.. (hahah).. saying he was sorry... he hadn't meant to upset me.
(He didn't upset me.. his crappy behaviour pissed me off)

I thought right.. I will make you wait for a reply to then..

Except after a while I forgot all abut replying to him at all .. and then it was too late..

so I never replied.. lol

and I don't even care if he is some big cheese millionaire.. hahaOkayy.. so that was an example of what happens when you don't call.. LOL

So maybe you should?


daydream can i date you instead now ???

giggle

BTW ... I ALWAYS call .. sooooo am i doing things wrong ??? confused
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Sep 4, 2008 3:49 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK107 Threads 9 Polls 15,888 Posts
riyablossom: can i date you instead now ???
BTW ... I ALWAYS call .. sooooo am i doing things wrong ???


Nooo you can't date meee

I share cake with no one.. devil very mad


laugh wave hug
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Sep 4, 2008 3:50 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
riyablossom
riyablossomriyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA184 Threads 18 Polls 11,244 Posts
Claayer: Nooo you can't date meee

I share cake with no one..


broken heart

but but i always call .. ermm guys too .. girls even ..
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Sep 4, 2008 3:56 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK107 Threads 9 Polls 15,888 Posts
riyablossom: hmmmmm i am following every pearl of advice here ..

( if u want to talk to me , u will call )


hahaha.. don't listen to me for gawwds sakes..

I'm on a singles site don't forget.. laugh
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Sep 4, 2008 3:57 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
riyablossom
riyablossomriyablossomsomewhere, Pennsylvania USA184 Threads 18 Polls 11,244 Posts
Claayer: hahaha.. don't listen to me for gawwds sakes..

I'm on a singles site don't forget..


giggle so am i ..
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Sep 4, 2008 3:59 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
Daniel4021
Daniel4021Daniel4021Somewhere, Tennessee USA157 Threads 8,986 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.


Could be he's just wanting to see just how interested you are.. give him a call, see where it goes.. no sense in sitting around and asking yourself later, I wonder how it could have been if I had just called..jmo
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Sep 4, 2008 4:10 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
well way i figure it , he been out on a date with you but now hes putting ball in your court if you like him then you call if not then he will take that as you not interested though after 2 or 3 dates should be clear one way or other
as a guy i feel sometimes we get confusing signals if we call to often we desperate and stalker material if we dont call we not interested
maybe you meet him half way send mobile text saying you had good time on the date and and look forward to it again see if he rings back
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Sep 4, 2008 4:22 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
I'd give him a call what do you have to loose.
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Sep 4, 2008 4:35 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
speed1986freak
speed1986freakspeed1986freakhawalli, Hawalli Kuwait2 Threads 24 Posts
if u really like him that much......go ahead.....but dont b so needy about it...... give it some time...like 4 or 5 days....then call him....and when u do......tell him that u called 2 check up on him as if u didnt hear from him 4 a while.......dont show any desperation......
dont ever tell him that u wanna go out with him sometime....try 2 pull him 2 it....and let him ask u 4 it.....
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Sep 4, 2008 5:42 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
angelface51
angelface51angelface51somewhere, Arkansas USA1 Threads 121 Posts
Hey girl You got the pick up the phone put it down slowly go crazy Blues?
I always controlled the situation but not this time.The emtional s--t. I've gone through, ugh! The advice about 4-5 days then call just to see if he's ok ,is good. Then mak the conversation light laugh(psyc yourself up)& make short & sweet. he shpuld call in a week. It's a matter of pride for a woman. This way your not running after him even though you are. It doesn't t look that way. Need to know more partculars. email me. going back to sleep You'd be amassed I-ve never used a man money or othrtwise. When I've loved I've done so with heart. talk to me lips hug
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Sep 4, 2008 6:18 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
VDLL1972
VDLL1972VDLL1972Sweet F.A., New Jersey USA977 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.


I wouldn't call him

JMO
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Sep 4, 2008 6:24 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: I hate it too...the attempting to figure out how the other one feels stage...SUCKSSSSSSSS...big time...but maybe he just wants to see if you really want to see him and make the effort like he has...I would call him and go from there...don't try to figure it out...you'll just get an even bigger head-ache!!!!!!


I agree with Queen Sister Shelley..

Call him...

Then see where it goes from there..

wondering what may or may not happen will drive you crazyroll eyes
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Sep 4, 2008 6:28 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
markizamkd25
markizamkd25markizamkd25Skive, Central Jutland Denmark235 Threads 5 Polls 4,706 Posts
im an idiot frustrated frustrated i never call blues
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Sep 4, 2008 6:33 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
markizamkd25: im an idiot i never call


Aww dont say thatcomfort hug
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Sep 4, 2008 6:42 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
bodleing
bodleingbodleingGreater Manchester, England UK238 Threads 8 Polls 13,810 Posts
If you want to talk to him....call him.

Its really that simple!!!


Jeeezdoh
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Sep 4, 2008 10:11 AM CST I need help from my guy friends
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.

What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?

Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.


There are no rules in a relationship, the rules "WE" make eventually get broken..

If a relationship takes a lot of hard work & is not free flowing, it ain't worth it.. JMO grin
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