alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.
What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?
Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
Send him a text message.
LET'S DO LUNCH! :-)
Bev.One step back two steps forward.
It's a dance.This will lighten things up for the both of you.
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
Hellooooo Bev
I wouldn't call.. but that's just me.
I've had a chap chasing me about for 3mths (ish) .. He has asked and asked and asked for me to call him. He gave me ALL (yeah LOADS! haha).. of contact numbers.. even his PA's number (LOL!!) He kept asking to come down (300miles) to take me out on a date.
and we this and we that.. (what! ) ::runs:::
But I thought nowaaayyy am I calling.. He didn't once ask for MY number.. just kept asking me to call him. (and I'm learning NOT to do that with my new found dating skills haha)
Anyway.. after nearly 3mths he finally asked for my number.. and called me. We talked for aaaages.. and he seemed like a really nice man. I liked him a lot.
But the second time he called me I had to go back to work within about 20mins.. and he got sulky and childish about it..
So I emailed him later that evening just saying something about how I was surprised at his childish behaviour.. and that I had put up with that petty crap for years.. and wasn't prepared to do it again.. but if he still wanted to be buddies etc etc..
He took five days to reply to that.. (hahah).. saying he was sorry... he hadn't meant to upset me. (He didn't upset me.. his crappy behaviour pissed me off)
I thought right.. I will make you wait for a reply to then..
Except after a while I forgot all abut replying to him at all.. and then it was too late..
so I never replied.. lol
and I don't even care if he is some big cheese millionaire.. haha
Okayy.. so that was an example of what happens when you don't call.. LOL
I've had a chap chasing me about for 3mths (ish) .. He has asked and asked and asked for me to call him . He gave me ALL (yeah LOADS! haha).. of contact numbers.. even his PA's number (LOL!!) He kept asking to come down (300miles) to take me out on a date.
and we this and we that.. (what! ) ::runs:::
But I thought nowaaayyy am I calling.. He didn't once ask for MY number.. just kept asking me to call him. (and I'm learning NOT to do that with my new found dating skills haha)
Anyway.. after nearly 3mths he finally asked for my number.. and called me . We talked for aaaages.. and he seemed like a really nice man. I liked him a lot.
But the second time he called me I had to go back to work within about 20mins.. and he got sulky and childish about it..
So I emailed him later that evening just saying something about how I was surprised at his childish behaviour.. and that I had put up with that petty crap for years.. and wasn't prepared to do it again.. but if he still wanted to be buddies etc etc..
He took five days to reply to that.. (hahah).. saying he was sorry... he hadn't meant to upset me. (He didn't upset me.. his crappy behaviour pissed me off)
I thought right.. I will make you wait for a reply to then..
Except after a while I forgot all abut replying to him at all .. and then it was too late..
so I never replied.. lol
and I don't even care if he is some big cheese millionaire.. hahaOkayy.. so that was an example of what happens when you don't call.. LOL
So maybe you should?
can i date you instead now ???
BTW ... I ALWAYS call .. sooooo am i doing things wrong ???
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.
What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?
Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
Could be he's just wanting to see just how interested you are.. give him a call, see where it goes.. no sense in sitting around and asking yourself later, I wonder how it could have been if I had just called..jmo
well way i figure it , he been out on a date with you but now hes putting ball in your court if you like him then you call if not then he will take that as you not interested though after 2 or 3 dates should be clear one way or other as a guy i feel sometimes we get confusing signals if we call to often we desperate and stalker material if we dont call we not interested maybe you meet him half way send mobile text saying you had good time on the date and and look forward to it again see if he rings back
if u really like him that much......go ahead.....but dont b so needy about it...... give it some time...like 4 or 5 days....then call him....and when u do......tell him that u called 2 check up on him as if u didnt hear from him 4 a while.......dont show any desperation...... dont ever tell him that u wanna go out with him sometime....try 2 pull him 2 it....and let him ask u 4 it.....
Hey girl You got the pick up the phone put it down slowly go crazy Blues? I always controlled the situation but not this time.The emtional s--t. I've gone through, ugh! The advice about 4-5 days then call just to see if he's ok ,is good. Then mak the conversation light laugh(psyc yourself up)& make short & sweet. he shpuld call in a week. It's a matter of pride for a woman. This way your not running after him even though you are. It doesn't t look that way. Need to know more partculars. email me. going back to sleep You'd be amassed I-ve never used a man money or othrtwise. When I've loved I've done so with heart. talk to me
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.
What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?
Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
kissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada15,139 posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: I hate it too...the attempting to figure out how the other one feels stage...SUCKSSSSSSSS...big time...but maybe he just wants to see if you really want to see him and make the effort like he has...I would call him and go from there...don't try to figure it out...you'll just get an even bigger head-ache!!!!!!
I agree with Queen Sister Shelley..
Call him...
Then see where it goes from there..
wondering what may or may not happen will drive you crazy
alabamabebe: and any women who have a clue what goes on in men's heads. Never mind, no woman can or should know that.
What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?
Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
There are no rules in a relationship, the rules "WE" make eventually get broken..
If a relationship takes a lot of hard work & is not free flowing, it ain't worth it.. JMO
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What does it mean when you've seen a man a couple or three times, had a real good time, and he tells you to call him, in a way that seems to mean, if you want to see me call me. Is it some kind of power play, like seeing how much you really want to see him, or what?
Second question, should I? I hate this stage of a relationship, I never know what the rules are.
Send him a text message.
LET'S DO LUNCH! :-)
Bev.One step back two steps forward.
It's a dance.This will lighten things up for the both of you.
You seem to be laboring over a decision here.