Arrange Marriages!!!!!! ( Archived) (221)

Hello to all...

I was just wondering,

We all or most are on here looking for our soulmates...

This came to mind..

What if we could not chose our soulmates..

and it was arranged for us..

How would you Feel????

Pls i am not knocking anyone cultures here..

I think it would be a good topic to talk about...

For me, I dont think i would like someone else to Pick for me...

Nice Comments pls..

Lets keep this discussion on a positive level..

And i am sorry again if i have offended anyone...

Hello and me neither...

but then again maybe earlier when i was single for 10 years..

I may have change my mind

I might of needed the help

From my perspective, in Europe where this age old practice still is used,( depending on what class one belongs to), it would generally eliminate a lot of tragic mistakes that random pairings perpetuate, especially 'in the heat of the moment' affairs, as it were.
I still regret my own hastiness in not having taken advantage of my family's advice in a potential 'arrangement'. I got to know her well enough in that it really would have been great, but alas, it came far too soon for me and I didn't heed their counsel; I had too many roads to travel...I really should have gone for it and had someone to finally come home too. Absolutely nothing came of anything on my own...
Our families, our parents if they have stayed together and weathered all the storms of their own marriage, have the experience and abilities to see a good potential 'arrangement' for their children. If it can be there, it should not be summarily dismissed , most especially on any whimsical excuse such as 'it's not done anymore' or 'it's stupid'; if one's family is trying to help you, then leave open the options. You never know...Usually a family has their children's best interests at heart( depending on your own backgrounds, of course) It is the world's oldest 'tried and true' method after all for most societies around this world; not 'new' ones. Compare the divorce stats, and also include the domestic assaults, drunkenness, s*xual assaults etc. etc. In a very broad sense it is the comparison of chaos versus stability of a society...as I perceive it.

Thank you solitare for ur input..

My parents have been married over 45 years..

So i am hoping i can follow in their footsteps

Well said in ur post..

recently my grandparents had their 50th anniversary, and i was having a cup of tea with my nan the other day and she was sayin about how they met when they were 14 and were the first and only relationship they ever had... respect to that!! then shes like when am i gonna settle down

Aww that is great to hear...

If only relationships would last like that now adays...

Tks for ur input

I have been so unlucky in love, perhaps an arranged marriage would be the way to go! It's such a pity Nicole Kidman's not available!

Yeh i think some may have to go this route...

Some been here way to long..

Yes it would be really hard wouldnt it...

I just cant see myself being with someone, that someone else picked

Hmm maybe just maybe you might want to take this route...

Just kidding...

ur beautiful...

when you least expect it..it will happen

It has for me

I will have you in my prayers..

You shall see

For me.. being a bit of a rebel (in general & especially with 'affairs of the heart' ) ..

Over my dead body would that happen.
There is NO WAYYYYYYYYYY... I would be told who I should marry .. no WAY.


Marriage is about love.. (to me)

not about who is the best person other people think would be make a good partnership.

Yeh i feel for some that have to do it this way...

I am sure some have worked out...

but just what if..you couldnt stand anything about that person..

Yeah... and as you can see MOST of us are in the same boat.

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