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Sep 6, 2008 12:03 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Hello to all...

I was just wondering,

We all or most are on here looking for our soulmates...

This came to mind..

What if we could not chose our soulmates..

and it was arranged for us..

How would you Feel????

Pls i am not knocking anyone cultures here..

I think it would be a good topic to talk about...

For me, I dont think i would like someone else to Pick for me...

Nice Comments pls..

Lets keep this discussion on a positive level..

And i am sorry again if i have offended anyone...hug
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Sep 6, 2008 12:06 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
If I was looking for my soulmate I wouldn't want someone choosing him me.
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Sep 6, 2008 12:09 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
somechick: If I was looking for my soulmate I wouldn't want someone choosing him me.


Hello and me neither...

but then again maybe earlier when i was single for 10 years..

I may have change my mind

I might of needed the helplaugh
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Sep 6, 2008 12:33 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
solitare
solitaresolitareBariloche, Rio Negro Argentina106 Threads 6,639 Posts
From my perspective, in Europe where this age old practice still is used,( depending on what class one belongs to), it would generally eliminate a lot of tragic mistakes that random pairings perpetuate, especially 'in the heat of the moment' affairs, as it were.
I still regret my own hastiness in not having taken advantage of my family's advice in a potential 'arrangement'. I got to know her well enough in that it really would have been great, but alas, it came far too soon for me and I didn't heed their counsel; I had too many roads to travel...I really should have gone for it and had someone to finally come home too. Absolutely nothing came of anything on my own...
Our families, our parents if they have stayed together and weathered all the storms of their own marriage, have the experience and abilities to see a good potential 'arrangement' for their children. If it can be there, it should not be summarily dismissed , most especially on any whimsical excuse such as 'it's not done anymore' or 'it's stupid'; if one's family is trying to help you, then leave open the options. You never know...Usually a family has their children's best interests at heart( depending on your own backgrounds, of course) It is the world's oldest 'tried and true' method after all for most societies around this world; not 'new' ones. Compare the divorce stats, and also include the domestic assaults, drunkenness, s*xual assaults etc. etc. In a very broad sense it is the comparison of chaos versus stability of a society...as I perceive it.
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Sep 6, 2008 12:38 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Thank you solitare for ur input..

My parents have been married over 45 years..

So i am hoping i can follow in their footsteps

Well said in ur post..wave
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Sep 6, 2008 12:46 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
Tamarory
TamaroryTamaroryPlymouth, Devon, England UK33 Threads 2 Polls 654 Posts
recently my grandparents had their 50th anniversary, and i was having a cup of tea with my nan the other day and she was sayin about how they met when they were 14 and were the first and only relationship they ever had... respect to that!! then shes like when am i gonna settle down mumbling laugh
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Sep 6, 2008 12:48 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Tamarory: recently my grandparents had their 50th anniversary, and i was having a cup of tea with my nan the other day and she was sayin about how they met when they were 14 and were the first and only relationship they ever had... respect to that!! then shes like when am i gonna settle down


Aww that is great to hear...

If only relationships would last like that now adays...

Tks for ur inputhug
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Sep 6, 2008 12:48 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
Godsgift
GodsgiftGodsgiftEnnis, Clare Ireland326 Threads 16 Polls 15,017 Posts
I have been so unlucky in love, perhaps an arranged marriage would be the way to go! It's such a pity Nicole Kidman's not available!laugh
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Sep 6, 2008 12:50 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Godsgift: I have been so unlucky in love, perhaps an arranged marriage would be the way to go! It's such a pity Nicole Kidman's not available!

Yeh i think some may have to go this route...

Some been here way to long..

laugh wave
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Sep 6, 2008 12:51 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
I don't think so. I have a hard time with the thought of someone attempting to make choices for me, regarding my personal life, in particular.



hmmm



wave
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Sep 6, 2008 12:52 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply:

Some been here way to long..






Yeah, like me! help
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Sep 6, 2008 12:53 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
RedHeadedTaurus: I don't think so. I have a hard time with the thought of someone attempting to make choices for me, regarding my personal life, in particular.

Yes it would be really hard wouldnt it...

I just cant see myself being with someone, that someone else pickedwave
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Sep 6, 2008 12:53 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
RedHeadedTaurus: Yeah, like me!
Hmm maybe just maybe you might want to take this route...

Just kidding...

ur beautiful...

when you least expect it..it will happen

It has for mehug
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Sep 6, 2008 12:54 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply: Hmm maybe just maybe you might want to take this route...

Just kidding...

ur beautiful...

when you least expect it..it will happen

It has for me




laugh



Thanks... we shall seesigh

dunno





bouquet
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Sep 6, 2008 12:56 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
RedHeadedTaurus: Thanks... we shall see


I will have you in my prayers..

You shall seehug
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Sep 6, 2008 12:56 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
For me.. being a bit of a rebel (in general & especially with 'affairs of the heart' ) ..

Over my dead body would that happen.
There is NO WAYYYYYYYYYY... I would be told who I should marry .. no WAY.


Marriage is about love.. (to me)

not about who is the best person other people think would be make a good partnership.
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Sep 6, 2008 12:57 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply: It has for me






thumbs up And I for one, am very happy for you & wish you all the very best... cheering





teddybear
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Sep 6, 2008 12:57 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Claayer: For me.. being a bit of a rebel (in general & especially with 'affairs of the heart' ) ..

Over my dead body would that happen.
There is NO WAYYYYYYYYYY... I would be told who I should marry .. no WAY. Marriage is about love.. (to me)

not about who is the best person other people think would be make a good partnership.


Yeh i feel for some that have to do it this way...

I am sure some have worked out...

but just what if..you couldnt stand anything about that person..dunno
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Sep 6, 2008 12:58 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
Godsgift: I have been so unlucky in love, perhaps an arranged marriage would be the way to go! It's such a pity Nicole Kidman's not available!


Yeah... and as you can see MOST of us are in the same boat.

Welcome to the singles site.

giggle

wave
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Sep 6, 2008 12:58 PM CST Arrange Marriages!!!!!!
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
RedHeadedTaurus: And I for one, am very happy for you & wish you all the very best...


Thank you hun...Yes he is very Kind and gentle man...bouquet
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