Arrange Marriages!!!!!! ( Archived) (220)

Its not just about their culture..

Its how everyone feels about it

I am not agreeing or disagreeing, just asking the question.. I do know a couple here in Phoenix that came from that culture and have been married over 30 years. I can tell you that they have a hell of a lot more than most of us here have..

That is great to know..

I just want to learn and be educated is all..

Thank you

I understand what you are saying. What I am saying is, if they know no other way, why would they have ill feelings?

BTW......... I personally would not feel good about it for myself..

I was just asking what other people thought about that if they were
in that situation..

Not the ones who are and dont know other

u are not touching my " little " hair.

Besides , i knew u guys must be muching something along the way somewhere .. i fell asleep trying to be gracefully rescued

Arranged marriages were popular here right up to my grandfather's time and lasted lifetimes. I knew one old couple who met for the first time at the altar on their wedding day. The first time he saw her was when she lifted the veil at the end of the ceremony....they were married nearly 80 years. She was 17 and he was 18.
She was 97 and he was 98 when they died. They had 14 children.

They knew it was for life and made the best of it and became friends and good companions and helped each other. It grew to love and they were devoted. Because their families arranged it, they also supported them through financially difficult early years, which took the burden off a little and probably helped them to be less stressed.

There is a lot to be said for arranged marriages and extended families when they work out like this.