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Sep 10, 2008 9:13 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
I'm asking CS-Land to give some advice for a first date.... Am I being to focused and over doing it.. or Am I okay with this

1. I'll pay for everything. even if she feels obliged to pay her way

2. I'm planning on taking her out for dinner rather than meeting for 'a coffee and a chat'

3. I'll be there early and not late.

4. I am not to expecting anything in return!

5. I'm confident, but i would like to take charge of the evening, not dragging her around but have planned the locations, the meal.. the coffee's or even drinks later, so we won't be sitting there scratching our heads...'wot do we do now?'

6. I'll dress appropriately for the date... She'll know where we are going... and what type of place it will be, so she can dress comfortably too

7. I won't be focusing on myself during the evening, And I won't talk about ex-girlfriends.

8. I'm thinking on the lines of it being like a good meal - when we finish our meals, I was thinking it would be the best time to finish a date.

9. I considering giving her a single Rose (too cheesy?)

10. I'm hoping that should the first date be a success... we'll will arrange to meet again, if it goe's badly..... I'll be back for more advice
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Sep 10, 2008 9:17 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA344 Threads 5 Polls 11,456 Posts
Sounds great! But for me, I prefer no flowers on a first date. Makes me feel like a heel if I'm not into the guy. As it is, they usually get mad that they've spent so much money & get nowhere for it. Yes, I've had guys throw that in my face. I like just a casual place... not talking McDonalds though... & nice conversation.

And you're right.... DO NOT talk about any ex's!!!! BAD NEWS!!
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Sep 10, 2008 9:25 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
sweetowen: Sounds great! But for me, I prefer no flowers on a first date. Makes me feel like a heel if I'm not into the guy. As it is, they usually get mad that they've spent so much money & get nowhere for it. Yes, I've had guys throw that in my face. I like just a casual place... not talking McDonalds though... & nice conversation.

And you're right.... DO NOT talk about any ex's!!!! BAD NEWS!!


I'm not talking about Michelin Star restaurants here... and certainly not a burger bar

no flowers on a first date...... check

Thanx
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Sep 10, 2008 9:26 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
yeah, I´d have to nix the flowers as well, especially a single red rose (symbol of love) If flowers are important to you then a small bunch or colorful, natural flowers.

The only other comment I would make is to see if there is a connection over dinner before suggesting coffee or drinks... and while I agree about you picking up the check for dinner, if she wishes to buy you an after dinner drink then I would gracefully accept. (this is something I like to do if I like a guy)

Good Luck Stooie and remember the most important thing.... be yourself!!!
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Sep 10, 2008 9:29 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Stooie for me advice is good..

but if you feel a single rose is what you want then do it..

Its about you...and what you feel is romantic..

these two ladies said no with the flower..

but what if she wants it???

I say yes to the single Rose..

Its Sweet..

See its about you my dear and what you think is romantic...

Honey you need to do what you want..

Still nice with the advice..but this lady may like exactly what you said h ere..
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Sep 10, 2008 9:30 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
jbibiza: yeah, I´d have to nix the flowers as well, especially a single red rose (symbol of love) If flowers are important to you then a small bunch or colorful, natural flowers.

The only other comment I would make is to see if there is a connection over dinner before suggesting coffee or drinks... and while I agree about you picking up the check for dinner, if she wishes to buy you an after dinner drink then I would gracefully accept. (this is something I like to do if I like a guy)

Good Luck Stooie and remember the most important thing.... be yourself!!!


She's a nutter..... Am a nutter too!!!!!!!!!

I'll be myself.... that's all i can be....
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Sep 10, 2008 9:30 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA344 Threads 5 Polls 11,456 Posts
stooie1971: I'm not talking about Michelin Star restaurants here... and certainly not a burger bar

..... check

Thanx


Good luck Stooie! I hope all works out for you. wine
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Sep 10, 2008 9:34 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
kissmedeeply: Stooie for me advice is good..

but if you feel a single rose is what you want then do it..

Its about you...and what you feel is romantic..

these two ladies said no with the flower..

but what if she wants it???

I say yes to the single Rose..

Its Sweet..

See its about you my dear and what you think is romantic...

Honey you need to do what you want..

Still nice with the advice..but this lady may like exactly what you said h ere..


That's the problem with first dates... especially when you live in different countries... I'm trying to keep it simple...We have never met.... now that is a lot of pressure for both of us for a start....

I will be myself... I do know how to woo a woman...(STOP LAUGHING)... but that was yonks ago....

The last date I had... she approached me..... get this she said 'when are you taking me out for dinner'....I was gobsmacked and said.... 'whenever you want'!!!!!
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Sep 10, 2008 9:35 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
sweetowen: Good luck Stooie! I hope all works out for you.


50% of us hopes so to.... thankyou hug
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Sep 10, 2008 9:37 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
All sounds good to me stooie.......I like your style..........I think it will go very well...applause
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Sep 10, 2008 9:37 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
stooie1971: That's the problem with first dates... especially when you live in different countries... I'm trying to keep it simple...We have never met.... now that is a lot of pressure for both of us for a start....

I will be myself... I do know how to woo a woman...(STOP LAUGHING)... but that was yonks ago....

The last date I had... she approached me..... get this she said 'when are you taking me out for dinner'....I was gobsmacked and said.... 'whenever you want'!!!!!


Stooie you know you will be nervous..

Who cares..

Eric and i were as well..

Go with what you believe...

YOu have to be you..not do what others say...

Every Girl is different in her own way...

Stop it i am not laughing at you..roll eyes
Well maybe just a littlelaugh
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Sep 10, 2008 9:37 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
stefonline: All sounds good to me stooie.......I like your style..........I think it will go very well...
thumbs up
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Sep 10, 2008 9:42 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
stefonline: All sounds good to me stooie.......I like your style..........I think it will go very well...


Cheers..... ave a 'Liffy Water' beer
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Sep 10, 2008 9:45 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
stooie1971: Cheers..... ave a 'Liffy Water'



Just be your self....at this stage of our lives we dont have to prove ourselves to anyone.....best wishes....let us know how it goes....wine
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Sep 10, 2008 9:45 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
kissmedeeply: Stooie you know you will be nervous..

Who cares..

Eric and i were as well..

Go with what you believe...

YOu have to be you..not do what others say...

Every Girl is different in her own way...

Stop it i am not laughing at you..
Well maybe just a little


I don't tend to be an overly nervous person... I work with strangers everyday, and they buy from me sometimes for thousands of pounds/euro's or Dollars...

I don't want her to feel nervous.... mind you she called me... I was waiting before I did this... so she is confident too
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Sep 10, 2008 9:46 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
stooie1971
stooie1971stooie1971Las America's, Canary Islands Spain131 Threads 3 Polls 3,571 Posts
stefonline: Just be your self....at this stage of our lives we dont have to prove ourselves to anyone.....best wishes....let us know how it goes....


Thanx Stef.... advice taken on board
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Sep 10, 2008 9:56 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Stooie you need a boot to the bum..

Pls let me be the one to do itroll eyes grin hug
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Sep 10, 2008 9:58 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA100 Threads 8 Polls 7,200 Posts
Don't assume she's on "the pill".....have a condom handy, just in case.
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Sep 10, 2008 10:01 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
Arlene101
Arlene101Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada12 Threads 4,845 Posts
Stooie: I had a bad date last wek from someome from the U.S.. You don't sound a thing like him by the way. 1.-- Do Not talk about any ex's or all the material things you might have 2.--Try to keep the conversation mostly being interested in her without sounding like you are asking for a resume. 3.--LISTEN and last but not least 4.--Have fun!!!!!! My date talked about everything he owns and all his websites and where he has been just last year, Phoned a woman when he as next to me watching a movie and never said a please or a thank you for anything. I even had his dog here. Well just have fun and that will be the charm!!!! Good luck although I think you will be fine the way you are.hug
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Sep 10, 2008 10:05 AM CST I got a plan for a first date and seeking advice
Arlene101
Arlene101Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada12 Threads 4,845 Posts
OH-BIG ONE--Compliment her shoes no matter what!professor laugh wink
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