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Sep 14, 2008 10:24 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
It seems many take offense to one offering another a place to stay, a meal, etc. if another visits or relocates to there area.

What is a stranger (although I am pretty strange to some)? I once heard it said a stranger is simply a friend one has yet to meet. I like that concept.

If ANYONE came to visit AZ, they would be welcome to stay with my mom & I for a few days if they needed/wanted. I do have a spare room. I do NOT care who they are. I am one that believes that if someone would take me up on such an offer and they screwed me over, it would be on them, not on me.

As for any hanky panky with some "sweet young thing", it would probably not be a great idea in the house with my 87 yo mom. All you mom's know what is best for your little boys.frustrated I seriously doubt a meeting would lead me to "loving" you, and wanting you for ever & ever.

Now, if you are a sweet young thing, and you would "choose" to take a late evening walk on the golf course..........devil

So, I am an open and friendly type of guy, is that wrong? Maybe some others should learn that it is OK to be open and friendly..confused dunno
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Sep 14, 2008 10:27 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan
pyaremohanpyaremohandelhi, Delhi India22 Threads 1,549 Posts
no offence uncle .if this is in the same context as regards to the ladys thread ........i dont agree with ya ............that guy is clearly a stalker n should be dealt with .
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Sep 14, 2008 10:30 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Pat it's fine that you'd open your home to stangers but..... as a woman and in todays society I'd be leary to just let anyone in my.


I don't think you can be to overly cautious anymore.



I know we let the refrigerator repair men and internet company employers etc into our homes. and what's the difference right.


I guess I just blew my own logic out of the ballpark.


I'm going back in my sandbox.

hole laugh
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Sep 14, 2008 10:30 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan: no offence uncle .if this is in the same context as regards to the ladys thread ........i dont agree with ya ............that guy is clearly a stalker n should be dealt with .


I have no clue as to his "motives", I will not judge him. SO many make a "choice" to live in fear these days..sigh
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Sep 14, 2008 10:33 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
somechick: Pat it's fine that you'd open your home to stangers but..... as a woman and in todays society I'd be leary to just let anyone in my.I don't think you can be to overly cautious anymore.
I know we let the refrigerator repair men and internet company employers etc into our homes. and what's the difference right. I guess I just blew my own logic out of the ballpark.I'm going back in my sandbox.


No, no, no dear lady.......... You of all people do NOT need to hide in your sandbox, please come back out.

I am simply trying to say, so many "choose" to live in fear these days and I just do not understand why.. Fear has torn the world apart..sigh
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Sep 14, 2008 10:34 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
HJFinAZ: It seems many take offense to one offering another a place to stay, a meal, etc. if another visits or relocates to there area.

What is a stranger (although I am pretty strange to some)? I once heard it said a stranger is simply a friend one has yet to meet. I like that concept.

If ANYONE came to visit AZ, they would be welcome to stay with my mom & I for a few days if they needed/wanted. I do have a spare room. I do NOT care who they are. I am one that believes that if someone would take me up on such an offer and they screwed me over, it would be on them, not on me.

As for any hanky panky with some "sweet young thing" , it would probably not be a great idea in the house with my 87 yo mom. All you mom's know what is best for your little boys. I seriously doubt a meeting would lead me to "loving" you, and wanting you for ever & ever.

Now, if you are a sweet young thing, and you would "choose" to take a late evening walk on the golf course..........

So, I am an open and friendly type of guy, is that wrong? Maybe some others should learn that it is OK to be open and friendly..



I don't think it's offensive if you know the person somewhat and have interacted with them...I would find it somewhat strange if a person mailed me out of the blue not ever having talked to me and offered me a place to stay though...I certainly would never take them up on it for one...nor would I offer someone I had never spoke with accomodations at my own place...BUT If you have talked with them and interacted with them I don't see a problem...there's being nice and then there's crossing boundaries and I would see a stranger e-mailing me that I have never even spoke to offering me accomodations as crossing my boundary line....wave hug teddybear hug bouquet
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Sep 14, 2008 10:37 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Dusty45
Dusty45Dusty45Louisville, Kentucky USA57 Threads 3,238 Posts
HJFinAZ: I have no clue as to his "motives", I will not judge him. SO many make a "choice" to live in fear these days..


I would just make a choice to be very selective. I believe you are a
smart man, generous and warm hearted but there is a difference
between fear and stupidity. Both men an women would be wise
to know who it is they would be letting into their home.
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Sep 14, 2008 10:44 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan
pyaremohanpyaremohandelhi, Delhi India22 Threads 1,549 Posts
Dusty45: I would just make a choice to be very selective. I believe you are a
smart man, generous and warm hearted but there is a difference
between fear and stupidity. Both men an women would be wise
to know who it is they would be letting into their home.



thumbs up couldnt agree more.
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Sep 14, 2008 10:44 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan
pyaremohanpyaremohandelhi, Delhi India22 Threads 1,549 Posts
HJFinAZ: I have no clue as to his "motives", I will not judge him. SO many make a "choice" to live in fear these days..



hey uncle ..i didnt mean any offence hug .ur old but not senile ....its just that i think i can make a judgement call on the info the lady provided on the first post .Pardon me wise man if i offended ya in any way. handshake
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Sep 14, 2008 10:47 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
HondoLaneNJ
HondoLaneNJHondoLaneNJtoms river, New Jersey USA6 Threads 1,194 Posts
Trust in your fellow man...but keep your hand on your .45! professor
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Sep 14, 2008 10:48 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan
pyaremohanpyaremohandelhi, Delhi India22 Threads 1,549 Posts
HondoLaneNJ: Trust in your fellow man...but keep your hand on your .45!




rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing handshake how r ya hondo
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Sep 14, 2008 10:51 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Several months back I was at the grocery store and then stopped at KFC to pick up a little chickie to bring home and eat as I was feeling lazy and didn't want to cook.

When I got into my car at the store and headed across the parking lot to KFC, I almost ran over a lady that walked in front of me. WHen I came out of KFC, this same lady was lingering around the area of the dumpster and started walking toward me. I asked if I could help her. She asked if she could have my receipt, she wanted to go inside and lie, she wanted to say she dropped her order and would it be repalced.

This woman was obviously hungry and dirty and tired. I went back in, bought her a meal, took her back to my place, let her enjoy a cheap a** chicken dinner from KFC, allowed her to shower and clean up, gave her a pair of my swets to put on while I washed her clothes. I offered to allow her to stay for a couple of days, she declined. I then drove her back to the area of the grocery store and said good luck.

What does that make me? There is an old Native American saying, "never judge another until you have walked a mile in there moccasins".
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Sep 14, 2008 10:52 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
HondoLaneNJ: Trust in your fellow man...but keep your hand on your .45!


Agree!!!!!!!thumbs up
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Sep 14, 2008 10:53 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
pyaremohan: hey uncle ..i didnt mean any offence .ur old but not senile ....its just that i think i can make a judgement call on the info the lady provided on the first post .Pardon me wise man if i offended ya in any way.


PS.............. No offense was taken my friend..handshake
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Sep 14, 2008 10:54 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
HJFinAZ: It seems many take offense to one offering another a place to stay, a meal, etc. if another visits or relocates to there area.

What is a stranger (although I am pretty strange to some)? I once heard it said a stranger is simply a friend one has yet to meet. I like that concept.


I am like that too Pat.. I agree..

Me casa su casa


wave hug
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Sep 14, 2008 10:55 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
HondoLaneNJ: Trust in your fellow man...but keep your hand on your .45!


rolling on the floor laughing hahaha

wave hug
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Sep 14, 2008 10:56 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Me casa su casa


ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Sep 14, 2008 10:58 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
HJFinAZ: Me casa su casaABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!


haha.. giggle
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Sep 14, 2008 10:58 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Dusty45
Dusty45Dusty45Louisville, Kentucky USA57 Threads 3,238 Posts
HJFinAZ: Several months back I was at the grocery store and then stopped at KFC to pick up a little chickie to bring home and eat as I was feeling lazy and didn't want to cook.

When I got into my car at the store and headed across the parking lot to KFC, I almost ran over a lady that walked in front of me. WHen I came out of KFC, this same lady was lingering around the area of the dumpster and started walking toward me. I asked if I could help her. She asked if she could have my receipt, she wanted to go inside and lie, she wanted to say she dropped her order and would it be repalced.

This woman was obviously hungry and dirty and tired. I went back in, bought her a meal, took her back to my place, let her enjoy a cheap a** chicken dinner from KFC, allowed her to shower and clean up, gave her a pair of my swets to put on while I washed her clothes. I offered to allow her to stay for a couple of days, she declined. I then drove her back to the area of the grocery store and said good luck.

What does that make me? There is an old Native American saying, "never judge another until you have walked a mile in there moccasins".


It says you made a generous choice for that moment in time. Good for you - that was kind. I'll bet, though, that there have been plenty of circumstances where the choice might have been different. Just guessing.
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Sep 14, 2008 11:07 AM CST Friends vs Strangers
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK144 Threads 13 Polls 22,386 Posts
HJFinAZ: Several months back I was at the grocery store and then stopped at KFC to pick up a little chickie to bring home and eat as I was feeling lazy and didn't want to cook.

When I got into my car at the store and headed across the parking lot to KFC, I almost ran over a lady that walked in front of me. WHen I came out of KFC, this same lady was lingering around the area of the dumpster and started walking toward me. I asked if I could help her. She asked if she could have my receipt, she wanted to go inside and lie, she wanted to say she dropped her order and would it be repalced.

This woman was obviously hungry and dirty and tired. I went back in, bought her a meal, took her back to my place, let her enjoy a cheap a** chicken dinner from KFC, allowed her to shower and clean up, gave her a pair of my swets to put on while I washed her clothes. I offered to allow her to stay for a couple of days, she declined. I then drove her back to the area of the grocery store and said good luck.

What does that make me? There is an old Native American saying, "never judge another until you have walked a mile in there moccasins".


I love all that stuff.. thumbs up thumbs up

I was once in a baby shop.. In front of me were a couple that didn't seem to have a lot..

They were talking to the woman on the desk (who was being a Beee-A-cth)... and something about them not having enough money to pay the next installment on the buggy and cot and other baby things they had put a deposit on. But that they reeeeeally needed at least the buggy..

The cashier was having none of it... and the couple looked so desperate.. the poor lady was in tears. (not the snooty b*tch cashier)

I stopped them when they got outside and told them I had a HEAP of baby things I no longer needed.. and if they let me know where they lived I would bring them over later.

I gave them a cot, a buggy a car seat.. bath bath and heaps of clothes and bedding. (it was a good clear out for me hahaha.. )..

I did it.. not because I wanted to 'feel good' or have 'praise' ...

But because know how MUCH I would have appreciated (and do appreciate) someone doing something like that for me.

I always help a stranger if I can..

for that VERY reason.
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