Mutual love (9)
HzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA55 Threads 2,779 PostsAt one time in my life I have been in what may be called a one sided relationship, wherein one person felt much more deeply than the other. Been on both sides, did not like it either way. In the best case scenario, at some point should there be an "equitable balance" of the feelings of love? Or is it normal for one to love more deeply than the other throughout the relationship? I know both parties do not always share the exact same level of love at some point, but if there's a wide disparity, how long can it last? If any of you have been in a one sided relationship, which side, how did you feel about it? I used to think I'd rather be the one that was loved more, but when it happened, I felt badly not feeling the same and I started to not accept demonstrations of love, knowing I could not honestly return it. So to me, a one sided relationship is a lousy place to be. 
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it is not a relationship if love is not mutual, regardless of what side of the equation you stand on
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It's how someone always gets hurt , one stops loving and the other gets hurt. I think often it was never right to begin with, and not totally honest with their mate or their own selves. Emotional Immaturity too has a big part in that and in the men I have found.
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In my last relationship, I gave & I gave & I gave, until I could give mo more. You can give, sometimes too much & they take advantage. They call you weak. Totally unfair. I'm a lover & love to be loved. Now I guard my heart. If I don't get back A little less than what I give out, I end the relationship & move on. 
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Ahh yes unrequited love which I think has happened to just about everybody at some stage and it usually stings but it can also hurt badly.
I had an experience that turned very nasty. Somebody cared for me much more than I for her, then in time I grew to care for her also but to a lesser degree. But then she turned nasty and tried to exact revenge on me for what I think were the hurts of the past.
She had apparantly thought that she could inflict pain because I started to care for her. Rather sick I thought but nevertheless it did hurt badly because by this stage we had 2 beautiful children. Well obviously I left the relationship but because of the children the hurt still continues.
So from my experience I would say that one sided relationships will inevitably fail so they should not be pursued.
I had an experience that turned very nasty. Somebody cared for me much more than I for her, then in time I grew to care for her also but to a lesser degree. But then she turned nasty and tried to exact revenge on me for what I think were the hurts of the past.
She had apparantly thought that she could inflict pain because I started to care for her. Rather sick I thought but nevertheless it did hurt badly because by this stage we had 2 beautiful children. Well obviously I left the relationship but because of the children the hurt still continues.
So from my experience I would say that one sided relationships will inevitably fail so they should not be pursued.
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I've heard it said it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all, does that include unrequited love????
of course you all know my feelings about love!! So I won't go over it
of course you all know my feelings about love!! So I won't go over it
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Manyfeathers: In my last relationship, I gave & I gave & I gave, until I could give mo more. You can give, sometimes too much & they take advantage. They call you weak. Totally unfair. I'm a lover & love to be loved. Now I guard my heart. If I don't get back A little less than what I give out, I end the relationship & move on. Thanks for coming.
I agree when one gives and gives and gets very love in return...one day there is just no more left to give...the best thing to do is to end a one sided relationship and move on to someone who mutually loves and appreciates you....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I agree when one gives and gives and gets very love in return...one day there is just no more left to give...the best thing to do is to end a one sided relationship and move on to someone who mutually loves and appreciates you....
*very little love...
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HzChld: At one time in my life I have been in what may be called a one sided relationship,
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So to me, a one sided relationship is a lousy place to be.
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So to me, a one sided relationship is a lousy place to be.
one sided "relationship"? It's NOT a relationship.
In everybody's life there are times they fall in love with some one who doesn't care for them and vise versa. Sometimes ppl pursue it (for variety of reasons) but in most cases it leads nowhere.
Even when love IS mutual, since love isn't static, two people should LIKE each other too. Helps through thin times. Assuming that trust and support established BEFORE the "thin" time comes.
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