I know for everyone its a bit different but from experience and/or expectation...
...What are the general ground rules or steps from conntacting someone, to going out on that first date? How long do you have to chat/message before it's appropriate to ask? etc. What is an acceptable first date?
Not sure there are actually rules. I think the first thing to establish is a common interest ground. be able to communicate well about everything each other is interested in. I would think that after an email or two..finding out some of the things each other likes and does not like...you could suggest a common safe meeting time and place. do not get pushy or offeneded by caution on the other persons part. it is way better to make freinds than finding one to just to hit the sack with. A great relationship takes time, concideration, and an open and great communication on both sides. good luck buddy. Chuck.
mrNice26: I know for everyone its a bit different but from experience and/or expectation...
...What are the general ground rules or steps from conntacting someone, to going out on that first date? How long do you have to chat/message before it's appropriate to ask? etc. What is an acceptable first date?
I agree with casual....I don't believe there are specific rules for this.
I think that through your online messaging and chatting you can determine if this is someone you'd like to perhaps meet in person...
It has been known (especially on dating sites) for people to fall madly in love with those they have been chatting with...meet them in person and NO CHEMISTRY!!
However, unless you are interested in "dating your computer", my theory was to get it over and done with and not invest an excess amount of time with someone where the relationship had no potential. (JMO)
after a first date they have to know if they want friendship or a relationship cause i don't play the dating game....my man felt the same way as well thankfully so i didn't waste time dating
RULES? THERE ARE RULES? yikes! I probably have broke them then
JMO, but I do think that by the time, we as presumed adults, are at this stage of the game, we can make up our own rules as we go along. Yes, by all means, the standbys of honesty and sincerity, respect and dignity are at the fore front. But, I believe that each new pairing have to decide some stuff for themselves and what they are comfortable with, individually and together. Sometimes, like in my (our) case, we have let things follow their own course in a sense; we have been coping with a substantial distance and doing the best we can everyday. Is there challenges? Hell yah! But, we have been given this opportunity to get to know one another with out other ummm..."distractions". We have chosen to spend a significant amount of time together and have planned for it.... 14 sleeps to go!!! Will it work? Will we be happy? There are no guarantees, but we are willing to give it our all - whether we broke/break the rules or not. The fact is, something in this world lined up just right and brought us together and our "rule" is we don't ask why; we say why not.; we hand it all over and don't try to control it all....
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...What are the general ground rules or steps from conntacting someone, to going out on that first date?
How long do you have to chat/message before it's appropriate to ask? etc.
What is an acceptable first date?
What are the rules?