How do you keep your 'Love' alive: Despite time, aging, quarrells, sickness.....? (160)
Taking out the garbage....
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Lonely1: Pity we live so far away. You are my kind of lady.
Thank you. I just say what's in my heart.
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Awwww you would make someone a very good husband !
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Dknew: If I knew this I'd still be in KY
At least it is water soluable!!
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Giving her some space...when she needs it.
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I could be wrong in thinking this but.....I've always believed that love's supposed to heal not hurt.
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From what I understand here in So Cal, you just buy her a new chest...
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Thats a lovely sentiment , however love does not heal , one is supposed to heal oneself and then one can be loved and offer love unconditionaly !!
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somechick: Being loving and sharing love keeps love alive. Being loving and sharing love means:
When each person learns to take responsibility for their own feelings rather than making the other person responsible for their feelings of worth, lovability, security, happiness, joy or pain.
When each person has their own and their partner’s highest good at heart. when we both support our own and our partner’s joy and well being. Both of us are considerate of the other person without giving ourselves up.
When each person chooses to be honest and authentic about how we feel and what we want and don’t want. That we are each willing to speak our truth without blame or judgment.
That each person stays open to learning about our own and our partner’s wants, needs, and fears, especially in conflict.
I think what keeps love alive is each person’s willingness to do whatever inner work is necessary to keep the heart open to loving and learning. Controlling behavior is motivated by fear – of loss of self and loss of other, of engulfment and rejection, of smothering and abandonment.
When each person is willing to do the inner work necessary to heal these fears, they are able to keep their hearts open more and more of the time. Love flows freely when hearts are open to loving and learning.JMO
When each person learns to take responsibility for their own feelings rather than making the other person responsible for their feelings of worth, lovability, security, happiness, joy or pain.
When each person has their own and their partner’s highest good at heart. when we both support our own and our partner’s joy and well being. Both of us are considerate of the other person without giving ourselves up.
When each person chooses to be honest and authentic about how we feel and what we want and don’t want. That we are each willing to speak our truth without blame or judgment.
That each person stays open to learning about our own and our partner’s wants, needs, and fears, especially in conflict.
I think what keeps love alive is each person’s willingness to do whatever inner work is necessary to keep the heart open to loving and learning. Controlling behavior is motivated by fear – of loss of self and loss of other, of engulfment and rejection, of smothering and abandonment.
When each person is willing to do the inner work necessary to heal these fears, they are able to keep their hearts open more and more of the time. Love flows freely when hearts are open to loving and learning.JMO
WOW...Beautifully put darlin and 100% accurate....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: WOW...Beautifully put darlin and 100% accurate....
Thank you Shelly. Like I told Lonely1 I just say what's in my heart.
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livinglarge: Thats a lovely sentiment , however love does not heal , one is supposed to heal oneself and then one can be loved and offer love unconditionaly !!
Yes. This is kinda what happened to me when I first fell in love at 18. I was a selfish fool who thought more about my emotions. Had no idea how to keep the love that was been offered to me.
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Lonely1: Yes. This is kinda what happened to me when I first fell in love at 18. I was a selfish fool who thought more about my emotions. Had no idea how to keep the love that was been offered to me.
But every one has had troubles when first starting out , my Lord you were only 18 !! I do believe there is someone out there for everyone , but I don't believe "love will conquer all" . Love has to be worked at for sure , If I love myself first , I can give first class to anyone ! Love is a choice too !!------ This thread is Archived ------
livinglarge: But every one has had troubles when first starting out , my Lord you were only 18 !! I do believe there is someone out there for everyone , but I don't believe "love will conquer all" . Love has to be worked at for sure , If I love myself first , I can give first class to anyone ! Love is a choice too !!
Still trying to love myself. Have to be careful though. Have to be careful I don't give me what I really want: Nice house, fast cars, lots of girls, no work, [drugs, alcohol, party all night? hmmm.. not really], little sleep, MY way...... Sounds familiar?
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Lonely1: Still trying to love myself. Have to be careful though. Have to be careful I don't give me what I really want: Nice house, fast cars, lots of girls, no work, [drugs, alcohol, party all night? hmmm.. not really], little sleep, MY way...... Sounds familiar?
No not love yourself in that way ...... thats spoiling yourself . No it means to have respect for yourself , to have healthy bounderies , to be tue to your beliefs , to want a person in your life , rather than need one etc .......... but deffo no drugs 
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Lonely1: ?
Oh the irony
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rwantin: From what I understand here in So Cal, you just buy her a new chest...
a hope chest?
Love..true love never has to be kept alive.
It is naturally surviving on its own.
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I´m with you Ken, if you love someone it just is... Bit like the thread I posted before about why do people say relationships are hard work. If two people love each other then life is competition to see who can make the other happiest... it´s about giving and sharing and accepting.
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Lots of imagination, and plausible deniabilty.
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I dont know i have seen it so i know its possible ...
I guess you just got to have your feet firmly grounded and have a very good understanding of your relationship.
I guess you just got to have your feet firmly grounded and have a very good understanding of your relationship.
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When each person learns to take responsibility for their own feelings rather than making the other person responsible for their feelings of worth, lovability, security, happiness, joy or pain.
When each person has their own and their partner’s highest good at heart. when we both support our own and our partner’s joy and well being. Both of us are considerate of the other person without giving ourselves up.
When each person chooses to be honest and authentic about how we feel and what we want and don’t want. That we are each willing to speak our truth without blame or judgment.
That each person stays open to learning about our own and our partner’s wants, needs, and fears, especially in conflict.
I think what keeps love alive is each person’s willingness to do whatever inner work is necessary to keep the heart open to loving and learning. Controlling behavior is motivated by fear – of loss of self and loss of other, of engulfment and rejection, of smothering and abandonment.
When each person is willing to do the inner work necessary to heal these fears, they are able to keep their hearts open more and more of the time. Love flows freely when hearts are open to loving and learning.JMO
Pity we live so far away. You are my kind of lady.