I´m useless at this whole "dating" thing.... (100)
jbibiza: I guess it´s time to take my own advice and lose the baggage...
"Holy Enlightenment Batwoman!"
Now you get it...
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mastic55: At times princess turn into frogs and frogs into princess , it sounds like things are developing already"He also said that this year should bring some fantastic changes in my life and that we should talk about it" that sounds like a hint to me, take him up on the offer.
Thanks mastic... Now I´ll just have to wait and see if he comes in again and go from there.... with my new enlightened attitude.... (that sounds so much easier then it is....)
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jbibiza: "Holy Enlightenment Batman!" here I´ve been going along with my life seemingly free of baggage and this whole thread has made me realize that isn´t the case...
Isn't that always the case when you've met someone really interesting...
It sure is with me... Wise men say that this period is like when you've invited guests to your home and only cleaned the living room, but when suddenly after coffee they ask you to show them around your house, panic sets in as you realize the other rooms are a mess.... I thought this was a pretty good analogy with the state of mind we're in when a new person is about to come into our life.------ This thread is Archived ------
AudrysSis: Isn't that always the case when you've met someone really interesting... It sure is with me... Wise men say that this period is like when you've invited guests to your home and only cleaned the living room, but when suddenly after coffee they ask you to show them around your house, panic sets in as you realize the other rooms are a mess.... I thought this was a pretty good analogy with the state of mind we're in when a new person is about to come into our life.
If I meet a lady and there is ANY chance of a relationship developing, I want to see their house.. It shows me a lot about that person..
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Often, I have turned around and RAN the other way..
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jbibiza: In the past my relationships have always started with a bang... eyes meet, stomach does flipflops, heart races, instant rapport and a feeling of having known each other forever, and from that moment you just are and you both know it.
I´ve never done the "dating, getting to know each other kind of thing" and am feeling a bit lost with it, but am beginning to realize that not all relationships can or do start with that kind of bang and maybe it´s time to open myself up to something that takes time to grow and develop... but I honestly don´t know how to go about this... ( I know... it´s pretty sad for a 48 year old woman)
A couple of months ago I went to an exhibit that was showing a photographers work... he was born here on the island but has spent most of his life traveling the world as a photographer for National Geographic... he recently retired and has come home to Ibiza and has the most beautiful organic farm. I find him incredibly interesting and attractive but there were no fireworks when we met. He has come into the bar a couple of times now and we have had some good conversations but that´s as far as it´s gone.
He was in again last night and I discovered that he is into Chinese astrology... I was born in the year of the rat... he informed me that he was year of the monkey and that the two signs make an ideal couple. He also said that this year should bring some fantastic changes in my life and that we should talk about it. He did not however ask me out.
How should I take this... is he interested in me??? The next time he comes in... should I suggest meeting for a coffee.... should I just sit back and see what happens... I don´t know if there is any potential for something here... but I do know that I have a lot of respect and admiration for him... is that enough to start with....?
Like I said... I´m useless at this whole dating thing...
I´ve never done the "dating, getting to know each other kind of thing" and am feeling a bit lost with it, but am beginning to realize that not all relationships can or do start with that kind of bang and maybe it´s time to open myself up to something that takes time to grow and develop... but I honestly don´t know how to go about this... ( I know... it´s pretty sad for a 48 year old woman)
A couple of months ago I went to an exhibit that was showing a photographers work... he was born here on the island but has spent most of his life traveling the world as a photographer for National Geographic... he recently retired and has come home to Ibiza and has the most beautiful organic farm. I find him incredibly interesting and attractive but there were no fireworks when we met. He has come into the bar a couple of times now and we have had some good conversations but that´s as far as it´s gone.
He was in again last night and I discovered that he is into Chinese astrology... I was born in the year of the rat... he informed me that he was year of the monkey and that the two signs make an ideal couple. He also said that this year should bring some fantastic changes in my life and that we should talk about it. He did not however ask me out.
How should I take this... is he interested in me??? The next time he comes in... should I suggest meeting for a coffee.... should I just sit back and see what happens... I don´t know if there is any potential for something here... but I do know that I have a lot of respect and admiration for him... is that enough to start with....?
Like I said... I´m useless at this whole dating thing...
No you're not biza.. but I do know how you feel, I feel like myself sometimes.. I wish I could say things will be ok, but only time will tell that.. until then sweetie, here's a flower..
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Daniel4021: No you're not biza.. but I do know how you feel, I feel like myself sometimes.. I wish I could say things will be ok, but only time will tell that.. until then sweetie, here's a flower..
Thanks Daniel
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HJFinAZ: Often, I have turned around and RAN the other way..
That would be the case right now! I´m saving money for my daughters wedding in February and since during the summer I spend so little time at home... I´ve been living in a tiny one room studio... I can literally tough the stove and shower from my bed in the middle of the two and have boxes of books, momentous and winter clothes stacked in most of the available floor space! I´ll start looking for a "home" once the tourist season is over and all the apartments are available again... in about a month. It will be so nice to invite people over for a meal again!!! There is no way I would let a potential see where I live now!!!!
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jbibiza: Thanks Daniel
Your Welcome, hey look, i'm sorry about the other day.. I really shouldn't have let myself act the way I did..
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Daniel4021: Your Welcome, hey look, i'm sorry about the other day.. I really shouldn't have let myself act the way I did..
No worries hun...
I have my share of bad days too.
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Ask him out!!!!!! shock the sh"t out of him..... that's what my ex did to me.. she asked me out... and I was flabergasted.... after the initial shock I said yes!!!... we were together for 8 months
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jbibiza: No worries hun... I have my share of bad days too.
Thank you.. I really needed to hear that..
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No real point in trying to be logical about such matters...
it is or isn't.....
if it is...
DO IT!
it is or isn't.....
if it is...
DO IT!
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HJFinAZ: If I meet a lady and there is ANY chance of a relationship developing, I want to see their house.. It shows me a lot about that person..
Right.... LOL.... then it's just as well that there's no chance of a relationship developing between us.. LMAO...
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stooie1971: Ask him out!!!!!! shock the sh"t out of him..... that's what my ex did to me.. she asked me out... and I was flabergasted.... after the initial shock I said yes!!!... we were together for 8 months
That's a pretty good result there (8 months)
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I suck at it too. I'm s l o w l y figuring out fireworks don't necessarily make for a great relationship, but I've never done the dating around thing in my life, always just dated one person for a while then got married. That obviously didn't work either.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
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alabamabebe: I suck at it too. I'm s l o w l y figuring out fireworks don't necessarily make for a great relationship, but I've never done the dating around thing in my life, always just dated one person for a while then got married. That obviously didn't work either.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
I hear ya...I have been divorced for 14 years and still haven't learned how to do it...I still just date one person at a time because thats' what I am the most comfortable doing I guess....
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Well I thank you all for your input and for helping me reach a moment of enlightenment.
I think at this point I´ll do a little flirting, show an interest in him and let him take the lead on this. The reality is that I need a strong man as a partner and if he is interested and I have to take the lead... chances are it wouldn´t work out in the long run. So hopefully he comes in again and we´ll see what happens.
Thank you all!!! 
I think at this point I´ll do a little flirting, show an interest in him and let him take the lead on this. The reality is that I need a strong man as a partner and if he is interested and I have to take the lead... chances are it wouldn´t work out in the long run. So hopefully he comes in again and we´ll see what happens.
Thank you all!!!
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alabamabebe: I suck at it too. I'm s l o w l y figuring out fireworks don't necessarily make for a great relationship, but I've never done the dating around thing in my life, always just dated one person for a while then got married. That obviously didn't work either.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
I've gone out with two guys recently, still don't know what to talk about with them. And two more have written me this morning wanting to "talk" and get to know each other, I just have no idea what to say about myself, they need to ask questions or something. Blech, I can't stand being this age and having to learn how to date.
I´m sorry bebe and hugs.... but damn it´s good to know I´m not alone in this!!!!
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