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Sep 20, 2008 4:51 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
So, many find it difficult to date someone who already has children.
Is it because they don't want the ex around them?
What if it's an adopted child, would it make a difference?

Thoughts folks? Please be deepwink
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Sep 20, 2008 5:09 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
shipoker58
shipoker58shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA30 Threads 2,969 Posts
relationships are difficult within themselves. Throw in a couple or evemn one offspring and there is a whole new set of problems. Discipline being a major source of contention. "Replacement" issues being another.
Just not worth the effort
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Sep 20, 2008 5:13 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
shipoker58: relationships are difficult within themselves. Throw in a couple or evemn one offspring and there is a whole new set of problems. Discipline being a major source of contention. "Replacement" issues being another.
Just not worth the effort


crying
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Sep 20, 2008 5:16 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
cristina: So, many find it difficult to date someone who already has children.
Is it because they don't want the ex around them?
What if it's an adopted child, would it make a difference?

Thoughts folks? Please be deep


Hey hun...

I dont mind at all...

I have 2 boys..Eric has 2 girls...

They come with the package..

and i will love them as my own..

as eric loves mine as his own...

Children need love as well as we adults...

Life can be difficult..but hell nothing is easybouquet
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Sep 20, 2008 5:17 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
cristina: So, many find it difficult to date someone who already has children.
Is it because they don't want the ex around them?
What if it's an adopted child, would it make a difference?

Thoughts folks? Please be deep


It would not be fair to your kids. adopted or otherwise to have them hang around an "Old Fart" like me. Would you really want those kids corrupted?confused

devil









grin
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Sep 20, 2008 5:21 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
Lonely1
Lonely1Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts
cristina: So, many find it difficult to date someone who already has children.
Is it because they don't want the ex around them?
What if it's an adopted child, would it make a difference?

Thoughts folks? Please be deep


This is a tricky one, Cristina. I love kids and would love to have had more. But with women deciding what to do with their bodies and me preferring to throw the little swimmers out in a Trojan, rather than have them ruin the act, I don't have as many as I wish I had.

If I fall in love with a woman with kids, I would welcome them as long as we can get along. There are too many issues here to state, but I am sure this thread will offer more scenarios.

I really feel for women with kids who are single. I never wanted to let any of my offspring's grow up without me around, so I have been very careful over the years. bouquet
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Sep 20, 2008 5:23 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
kissmedeeply: Hey hun...

I dont mind at all...

I have 2 boys..Eric has 2 girls...

They come with the package..

and i will love them as my own..

as eric loves mine as his own...

Children need love as well as we adults...

Life can be difficult..but hell nothing is easy


Hell yeah Joanne, nothing is easyapplause

Hey, you guys were lucky like that. Perfect family combinationcool
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Sep 20, 2008 5:24 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
HJFinAZ: It would not be fair to your kids. adopted or otherwise to have them hang around an "Old Fart" like me. Would you really want those kids corrupted?


rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 20, 2008 5:25 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
cristina: Hell yeah Joanne, nothing is easy

Hey, you guys were lucky like that. Perfect family combination
hug
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Sep 20, 2008 5:25 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
I would love to date someone with children. I do not have children, and would very much welcome them. It doesn't matter if they are adopted or not.

wave bouquet
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Sep 20, 2008 5:25 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
kissmedeeply: Hey hun...

I dont mind at all...

I have 2 boys..Eric has 2 girls...

They come with the package..

and i will love them as my own..

as eric loves mine as his own...

Children need love as well as we adults...

Life can be difficult..but hell nothing is easy


15 days Joanne???hug hug
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Sep 20, 2008 5:27 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
It's hard when you're a single mom. I have two teenage sons who currently live with their dad, but for me it's important for a man to accept them...esp as this could always change.

I have no problem dating men with children. I'm not looking to take over as their mother, but would try to be friends. handshake
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Sep 20, 2008 5:28 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
Lonely1: This is a tricky one, Cristina. I love kids and would love to have had more. But with women deciding what to do with their bodies and me preferring to throw the little swimmers out in a Trojan, rather than have them ruin the act, I don't have as many as I wish I had.

If I fall in love with a woman with kids, I would welcome them as long as we can get along. There are too many issues here to state, but I am sure this thread will offer more scenarios.

I really feel for women with kids who are single. I never wanted to let any of my offspring's grow up without me around, so I have been very careful over the years.


That's very sweet of you, being careful over the years.
Maybe only those who already have children accept better their partner having kids as well. Interesting i see profiles of people who have children and ask for people who don't. Perhaps is for economic reasonssigh
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Sep 20, 2008 5:29 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
mbcasey: 15 days Joanne???
yeh i know ken..uh oh
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Sep 20, 2008 5:30 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
druidess6308: It's hard when you're a single mom. I have two teenage sons who currently live with their dad, but for me it's important for a man to accept them...esp as this could always change.

I have no problem dating men with children. I'm not looking to take over as their mother, but would try to be friends.


Thanks druidsbouquet
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Sep 20, 2008 6:10 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
cristina: So, many find it difficult to date someone who already has children.
Is it because they don't want the ex around them?
What if it's an adopted child, would it make a difference?

Thoughts folks? Please be deep


Hiya sweetie... hug..long time...


Well I am going to look into adoption and fostering....I adore kids.. and man or not I want to have the opportunity to give some kid/s the chance of a good life.. if a guy doesn't like it....well he can look elsewhere..laugh

wave hug
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Sep 20, 2008 6:11 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
Aries01: Hiya sweetie... ..long time...Well I am going to look into adoption and fostering....I adore kids.. and man or not I want to have the opportunity to give some kid/s the chance of a good life.. if a guy doesn't like it....well he can look elsewhere..


Wow...that is terrific Aries...a very worthy cause...hug
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Sep 20, 2008 6:15 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
Aries01: Hiya sweetie... ..long time...Well I am going to look into adoption and fostering....I adore kids.. and man or not I want to have the opportunity to give some kid/s the chance of a good life.. if a guy doesn't like it....well he can look elsewhere..


That's right girl. You said he may take a hike right? Yeah, take a hiiiiiiike!grin banana banana

Good to see you around girlhug
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Sep 20, 2008 7:57 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
chevy95
chevy95chevy95pollard, Arkansas USA4 Threads 135 Posts
hell i have seven of them and love them all,course they are all married and gone now so its peace at lastcheers
sigh beer
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Sep 20, 2008 8:00 PM CST Adopted children/own children...would you date me?
shipoker58
shipoker58shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA30 Threads 2,969 Posts
chevy95: hell i have seven of them and love them all,course they are all married and gone now so its peace at last




That's all well and good, but I don't think that addressed the questiondoh
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