Question for the women of CS ( Archived) (62)

Sep 26, 2008 12:18 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
Why do women put prefer not to say when it asks if the want children? I don’t understand why it would be a secret one way or the other and hope someone can explain this to me.



Oh and so I don't forget, thanks in advance for the imput.teddybear
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Sep 26, 2008 12:22 AM CST Question for the women of CS
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
Shadow_lover: Why do women put prefer not to say when it asks if the want children? I don’t understand why it would be a secret one way or the other and hope someone can explain this to me.
Oh and so I don't forget, thanks in advance for the imput.
I couldn't tell you the motive behind that, but guessing I would say if the woman says something like that she is willing to use the man. Or she has a total problem with making babies, I would find out what the reason is, before getting too attached to one that states that. Some may have made all they want to make. dunno confused laugh
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Sep 26, 2008 12:22 AM CST Question for the women of CS
waiting4u
waiting4uwaiting4uGB's Heart, Oregon USA3 Threads 1,869 Posts
I'm not sure why women would put that. I have "Not Sure" in my profile. I'm still undecided on that subject.

Sorry I couldn't answer your question sigh
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Sep 26, 2008 12:23 AM CST Question for the women of CS
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
mylifewithu: I couldn't tell you the motive behind that, but guessing I would say if the woman says something like that she is willing to use the man. Or she has a total problem with making babies, I would find out what the reason is, before getting too attached to one that states that. Some may have made all she wants to make.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:25 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
I can understand not sure, but this just takes me off guard. I just wondered if there was some reason for not answering.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:26 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
mylifewithu: I couldn't tell you the motive behind that, but guessing I would say if the woman says something like that she is willing to use the man. Or she has a total problem with making babies, I would find out what the reason is, before getting too attached to one that states that. Some may have made all she wants to make.


The only thing it says to me is she wants to be able to play either side.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:27 AM CST Question for the women of CS
waiting4u
waiting4uwaiting4uGB's Heart, Oregon USA3 Threads 1,869 Posts
Shadow_lover: I can understand not sure, but this just takes me off guard. I just wondered if there was some reason for not answering.


More than likely there is a reason. But there could also be a chance that the box was checked by mistake and over looked.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:31 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
waiting4u: More than likely there is a reason. But there could also be a chance that the box was checked by mistake and over looked.


I was browsing on another site and that option is picked a lot for want children as well as have children.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:36 AM CST Question for the women of CS
HealthyLiving
HealthyLivingHealthyLivingSomewhere In, Tennessee USA527 Threads 2 Polls 4,775 Posts
Many women, like myself, are old, and past the childbearing years...
In menopause...
There is no pick which would apply for our situation.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:41 AM CST Question for the women of CS
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
HealthyLiving: Many women, like myself, are old, and past the childbearing years...
In menopause...
There is no pick which would apply for our situation.
Thats me too, I am menopaused no more will be made, now my girlfriend had to have a histerectomy after having a few kids and now can';t make any more.thumbs up
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Sep 26, 2008 12:44 AM CST Question for the women of CS
candio
candiocandioYoungstown, Ohio USA20 Threads 568 Posts
Maybe the lady doesn't want to completely shut the door on the subject yet she isn't sure if she does want to have children.

I answered the question honestly.

Maybe if I were 10 or 20 years younger I would have answered it prefer not to say. Or I would have answered yes/ no. Which ever I felt at the time.

Simple indecision at the time could be the answer you seek.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:48 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Galactic_bodhi
Galactic_bodhiGalactic_bodhiAkron, Ohio USA609 Threads 1 Polls 9,196 Posts
Maybe she's barren for some reason or other but doesn't want to say so right out on the profile. That kind of negates the "not sure" category without going into detail. They're pretty damned sure, if they've had a hysterectomy for cystic ovaries or something.

And it's not really anything to be ashamed of. Some women just like their reproductive junk to stay private. I don't blame them.


Hope that helps!thumbs up
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Sep 26, 2008 12:49 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
I personally want more children so I base potential with that part of a profile in mind, don’t get me wrong I tend to be a real picky SOB but I see that a lot and was a bit thrown by it.
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Sep 26, 2008 12:52 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Galactic_bodhi
Galactic_bodhiGalactic_bodhiAkron, Ohio USA609 Threads 1 Polls 9,196 Posts
Shadow_lover: I personally want more children so I base potential with that part of a profile in mind, don’t get me wrong I tend to be a real picky SOB but I see that a lot and was a bit thrown by it.


Well, if they get to know you a bit, maybe they'll tell you and you can still be friends. Nothing wrong with friends man. I'm not judging, I'm just trying to see it from their point of view...handshake
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Sep 26, 2008 12:54 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
candio: Maybe the lady doesn't want to completely shut the door on the subject yet she isn't sure if she does want to have children.

I answered the question honestly.

Maybe if I were 10 or 20 years younger I would have answered it prefer not to say. Or I would have answered yes/ no. Which ever I felt at the time.

Simple indecision at the time could be the answer you seek.


On the site you have the following choices. 1. Want children, 2. Does Not want children, 3. Prefer not to say, or 4. Undecided open
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Sep 26, 2008 12:55 AM CST Question for the women of CS
alabamabebe
alabamabebealabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA66 Threads 3 Polls 4,404 Posts
I don't have any trouble saying, I don't want any more children, don't want a man who has young children, and don't want a man who I have to raise either. Been there done that.

I would imagine though that younger women who are still in child raising age wouldn't want to say till they get to know someone, too much pressure and too many expectations. Just a thought. dunno
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Sep 26, 2008 1:05 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Darkhorseman
DarkhorsemanDarkhorsemanGladstonia ... it's a strange, Queensland Australia40 Threads 3 Polls 1,304 Posts
Shadow_lover: Why do women put prefer not to say when it asks if the want children? I don’t understand why it would be a secret one way or the other and hope someone can explain this to me.
Oh and so I don't forget, thanks in advance for the imput.


Look ... I don't know how to put this gently but ... WEEeeeeelll, Perhaps they MIGHT want children, just not with you .... or me .... maybe they want children with Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp ... or EVEN Keith Richards ... just not with us. There is a lot of huffing and puffing goes into giving birth you know.
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Sep 26, 2008 1:08 AM CST Question for the women of CS
Darkhorseman
DarkhorsemanDarkhorsemanGladstonia ... it's a strange, Queensland Australia40 Threads 3 Polls 1,304 Posts
HealthyLiving: Many women, like myself, are old, and past the childbearing years...
In menopause...
There is no pick which would apply for our situation.


Perhaps they should have a, "Fully functional but not loaded." option. That would work for the guys that have had the snip too.
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Sep 26, 2008 1:43 AM CST Question for the women of CS
SirenLydia
SirenLydiaSirenLydiaBury St Edmunds, Suffolk, England UK45 Threads 2 Polls 4,138 Posts
Shadow_lover: Why do women put prefer not to say when it asks if the want children? I don’t understand why it would be a secret one way or the other and hope someone can explain this to me.
Oh and so I don't forget, thanks in advance for the imput.


No idea I'm afraid.

Perhaps they are not sure, still undecided.

and for Healthyliving.....we are not old just because we
are menopausal........it's just a stage we are going through, lots
of life left in us.....................................................................................yay bouquet devil
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Sep 26, 2008 3:30 AM CST Question for the women of CS
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland136 Threads 9,702 Posts
Shadow_lover: Why do women put prefer not to say when it asks if the want children? I don’t understand why it would be a secret one way or the other and hope someone can explain this to me.
Oh and so I don't forget, thanks in advance for the imput.


There are a few reasons....


1. They have been there and done that.....

2. They just dont want any children....

3. If they do want children they may be afraid to say it as they may think it may scare off a potential father....Lol

4. They may not like children...

5 etc...etc....etc.....conversing
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